How do I know that I'm really bisexual?

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earthquake
August 11th, 2015 12:00am
I believe that you know if you're really bisexual or not when you admit to yourself that you are attracted to both males and females. Maybe not equally, but attraction for both is there. Also, I believe that you're bisexual when you don't object to the idea of being with either gender. For example, if when you think about yourself being with the same sex, you don't feel like something's missing or it's not quite right.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2016 9:11pm
A lot of people like to compartmentalize things. You're race, gender, sexuality, even your job etc. All clean cut, in a category. White male etc. Gay or straight. But really what dictates your sexuality is what you feel inside, you can't be put in a category, no-one truly can. Everyone is different, sexuality is a spectrum. No-one has the answer of whether you are bisexual except you, and it all comes back to you letting yourself be who you are, not letting external pressures make you want to fit in to a category. Listen to yourself and then you will have your answer. (probably poorly written my apologies) M
madisonhope
May 22nd, 2015 6:06pm
As a fellow bisexual person, it will come to you. Noticing little things about your preferences can help guide you on the right way, but don't ever feel like you need to conform to a sexuality label or live up to certain standards just to fit a certain label. In the end just be happy being yourself and enjoy whatever preferences you may have. :)
joshuabel99
November 10th, 2015 3:11am
It can be hard to know whether you are bisexual or just bicurious. The way I knew for sure was that I started questioning if I really found both sexes attractive. I knew i was bisexual because I would get crushes on both genders. At first I thought I just hung around guys too much and it was rubbing off on me, but i soon realized that what I felt for girls was the same as boys. the girl who I though I just got really well with turned out to be my crush. I still like her and I think of kissing her now and then. You can always know that you're bisexual because you wouldn't mind kissing both genders and going out with both .
RaCat
September 13th, 2016 6:13pm
Just take your time and explore yourself. Sometimes it must be confusing as you don't know if you like only opposite gender, only same gender or both, but just try to look back to your life - have you ever had opposite (or same sex) crushes? Have you seen opposite (or same) sex attractive in sexual or romantic way? Sometimes you don't even need to be bisexual, sometimes you can be something as heteromantic homosexual. As long as you are comfortable with yourself it's all ok :)
RabbleRouser
April 1st, 2015 12:45am
There may be some confusion due to the separation of romantic orientation and sexual orientation, but if you are attracted to two or more genders, you're probably bisexual!
Aprildays2432
May 18th, 2015 1:06am
Trying to determine your sexuality is one of life's challenges. If your gut is telling you that you are bisexual, then you probably are! The only way to find out is to experiment with both genders and see how you feel.
helpfuldot
May 21st, 2015 1:47pm
I think when it comes to figuring out any identity, you just have to think about what you like. I personally couldn't figure out if I was bi or not, since I've only been with the opposite gender, but then I started thinking "I may not have been with the same gender, but I know I'm attracted to them". I also think that individuals should feel like they need to have a label. Labels are nice to help you feel like you belong to a certain group, but I don't think that individuals have to have them to explain themselves to everyone.
G3n3ous
October 16th, 2017 3:26am
Whatever you identify with right now is valid. You don't need to prove, to yourself or anyone else, that your sexuality is valid. If you think that bisexual is the right label for you right now, then you're bi. When I first came out to myself, I spend around a month trying to prove to myself that the label that I chose actually fit. It's been a year since then, and a year's worth of experience has shown me that I am, in fact like I thought, not straight. So just go with your instinct and trust yourself.
Raspberrycheesecake
June 2nd, 2018 11:53am
Take you time, make sure that you explore yourself. It can be confusing if you don't know who you are or what gender you prefer or how you prefer to like each gender. Try looking back on your life and seeing if you have ever liked the opposite gender sex or the same gender sex. If so, have you seen them in a romantic or sexual way? As long as you are comfortable with who you are, then everything is okay and everything will be okay.
generousApricot24
February 27th, 2015 12:09am
you know you're bisexual if you experience attraction to both men and women, regardless of if you prefer one gender to the other
Anonymous
March 9th, 2015 5:28pm
To know that you are really bisexual, you have to experiment with both genders, that's really the only way.
brirose23
July 7th, 2015 3:11am
Well seeing as I am bisexual I guess I could help you with this. Trust me you will know! You'll feel an attraction to both genders that feels the same way. Like you feel sexually,emotionally,physically the same way to a man that you do a women. But you may also feel more attracted to one gender than the other as I am more attracted to females than males but I have had both male and female relationships.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 4:34pm
The definition of bisexuality is the attraction to two genders. Most people use bisexual to define attraction to males and females, but others use it to describe attraction to other in-between genders as well. The only really important thing is that it's two genders, as opposed to homo- or hetero-sexual, which are examples of one gender attraction, or something like pansexual which is attraction to all genders, or polysexual, which is attraction to more than one gender. If you're wondering, then just observe what you get attracted to. Also, your attraction doesn't have to be 50-50. Even if you've only ever had one non-straight crush ever, you can still feel free to identify as bi if you feel that it fits you.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2016 2:18pm
Knowing if you are really bisexual can be confusing, i suggest experimenting, not sexually but by simply seeing if both genders have an attraction to you or possibly dating. Being unsure means you are bicurious.
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 1:30am
Well , it's tough. You will have feelings for both the parties and you will actually feel very confused about who you are. I had this issue as i am a BI. i had relationships with both the parties and it made me initially think i am straight but then i had feelings for other party too so then i felt no i m not. So it's tough. Let's say you are a lesbian but then you enjoy looking at sex with men and enjoy the feeling of being with them while enjoying time with the girls as well. i feel that's what happens.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2018 10:28pm
Talk to yourself. Yes, is like that, you have to sit and think: ask questions to yourself than could help to identify your own feelings. How do I feel toward women/men? You also can look for some guides and test on Internet, but you don't have to believe blindly in everything. The best solution, as I see, is time and think. You know yourself better than anyone, you should be sincere with what are you feeling.
TryingmybestElsa
April 30th, 2018 10:04am
If you're asking yourself the question it's that you probably are. Only you can know in the end. Are you attracted by both men and women? It can take time to find a label that suits you but it's okay if you realize you're not bi and change your label later on. It's also okay if you stick to "queer". Just find what resonates better with you, don't overthink it and just be yourself. Your sexual orientation is real.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2018 7:59pm
If you feel attractive to both, women and men, equally. Sexuality can be a confusing thing, for sure. Just keep your head up and you'll figure it out.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2018 12:47am
Bisexual is someone that relates to both female and male romantically or/and sexually. If you're feeling confused about your sexuality, talking to the LGBTQ+ community members may help you with any doubts. Alow youserlf to know more about bisexuality and yourself. Don't be ashamed of trying new things and experiencing with your sexuality.
DrMohmed
December 4th, 2018 8:58pm
I think that the answer will be that when you try it because by thinking we could accept both genders, the mind will react almost the same by thinking. but when you are in the situation you can only know. I also think it might be situational. some want to try and some want to act strangers. finally, they are terminologies and we only move with our heart and we should not judge anyone with such tendencies. Sex is a unique relationship between the two and we should not have that much interfering between them, we only accept and respect them. thank you.