I've heard a fair amount of bad rep about bisexuals, often from people who've never even dated one. Why is there so much unfair judgement, especially from people of the LGTBQ+ community?

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niamh333
January 29th, 2017 7:25pm
I think a lot of it stems from the fact that some people don't believe that anyone can be truly attracted to both genders. Some people believe that bisexual people are just people who cannot make their minds up, or are greedy. Others believe that if someone says they are bisexual it is because they do not want to admit they are gay. Some people in the LGBTQ+ community see bisexual people as part-timers within the community, because when they are engaged in a homeosexual relationship they are part of it, but when in a hetero-normative relatioship they are not. I am hopeful that as LGBTQ+ awareness and rights become more common place this will stop :)
lyla59342
January 31st, 2017 5:19am
It's really sad, but some people in the LGBT+ community are not simply supportive of LGBT+ people, but are also hateful towards straight people. The fact that bi/pan people are sometimes attracted to people of the opposite gender sometimes triggers a hateful response. This kind of judgmental behavior can try to be curbed with some gentle correction of the negative stereotypes about bi/pansexuality.
quastinephoenix123
February 9th, 2017 11:12pm
I am sorry to hear about that, perhaps it is because people don't quite understand the 'bisexuality preference' and immediately jump to judgements and conclusions, if they could be enlightened to understand their feelings, why they chose to become bisexual, why it is something important; if the people could be enlighted more personally, I guess people would rethink and reconsider.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2017 6:43pm
I believe that people pass unfair judgement because they do not understand. There are many stereotypes about bisexuals being cheaters, or just confused, or trying to get attention. None of these are true, however. Like any group of people, broad generalisations are not accurate to the entirety of the community. I believe that it is important to remember this when encountering biphobia, even within the LGBTQ+ community.
colourofstories
February 21st, 2017 10:11am
People sometimes think that bisexual people aren't "gay enough" or not "straight enough" to fit into the lgbtq-Community which is completely wrong.
MadamWalrus
June 6th, 2017 1:14am
It's the idea that bisexuals (and any sexualitys that like more than one gender) that are attracted to 2 genders so when they are in love people have the idea that they need to choose, so if they are male and date a male people think they need to say that they are just gay, or if they are male and date a woman people think they need to say they are just straight and aren't a part of the lgbta+ community anymore.
kvo8
October 17th, 2017 12:42am
I am in the LGBTQ+ Community and I know exactly what you are referring to. You often hear hate towards Bisexuals and you are right, it often comes from members within other parts of the LGBTQ+ Community. There is no reason to have hate against an entire sexual orientation, especially if the hate is based on an individual. There is hate in all walks of life and you just have to approach it as positive as you can.
LouisaCT
November 27th, 2017 6:21am
I've heard similar things from our LGBT community and I have decided that it may be since bisexuality can be seen as an "ambiguious" sexuality. Society enjoys labels, it's how we organize each other. We like concrete labels. So when someone who is bisexual or another "ambiguous" sexuality there isn't a definitive answer. I hope that makes sense. Unknown things scare people, including an uncertain sexuality. I know it's confusing and frustrating, but ultimately it's not their right to judge. It's unfair to judge each other, and we all need to remind ourselves that when others have us, loving ourselves is what really matters. You're all lovely and thank you for this question :)
Aayla
June 11th, 2019 11:19pm
Unfortunately, scarce knowledge leads to prejudice. Those who don't know what bisexuality really is may end up believing prejudices and stereotypes about it. The only way to fight this phenomenon is to spread the knowledge about what bisexuality really is to anyway willing to listen and make an effort to understand. It may not be easy, and it may even be frustrating at times, but if there's a chance that someone will learn something new and become more open-minded, it's worth trying.