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Am I gay if I am attracted to someone who is the same sex?

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Last Updated: 01/19/2021 at 4:14pm
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July 1st, 2019 12:54am
If you are only attracted by people of the same gender as you, then your feelings would match the definition of homosexuality. If you are also attracted by people of the opposite gender, then your sexuality would fall in the bisexual spectrum. Only you can determine it for sure, by listening to your own feelings, emotions and desires, and being as honest with yourself as you can.
November 25th, 2019 9:25am
That would tend to be the common understanding of it. However, not all attraction is necessarily sexual in nature.Yu can be attracted to someone because you're full of admiration for them for some reason or another. Or you may hero-worship them for some reason. You may well be attracted to them sexually, but that doesn't necessarily make you gay, per se. It may be that you are usually sexually attracted to the opposite sex, but that this one person has somehow aroused a sexual response in you. It may be a one-off or it may be that you are actually bisexual and that this is the first manifestation of your bisexuality. In any case, it's nothing to worry about. Follow your nature and you'll be happy.
January 19th, 2021 4:14pm
I mean, in a black and white world. Yes. But the world has a lot of different colors and shades. Is it just one person of the other sex or are you attracted to the other sex (more than one person or the gender in itself) and are you still attracted to the opposite gender? Don't rush figure these things out. Converse with other people,. Understanding ones sexuality is a journey. It can be scary at times but most of us make it at some point. There is an overwhelming amount of different labels, but the important thing is not to slap a label on what "you are" go with your feelings, try your way forward. Always remember its okay to back out if you get uncomfortable and have fun discovering who you are! It's okay to be confused, overwhelmed and scared. But there is no hurry in figuring it out. You have all the time in the world. Just listen to your feelings and you will be just fine. Good luck and best wishes - a pansexual
April 3rd, 2018 5:13pm
Being attracted to someone of the same sex does not necessarily make you gay, there is a whole spectrum of sexualities and not labelling how you feel is equally okay. For example, you could be bisexual, if you are also attracted to people of the opposite sex. I recommend waiting and growing into a label that suits you, but try not to be concerned about it, it’s sonething everyone experiences.
April 10th, 2018 2:14pm
Not at all. Sexuality is a spectrum, it's fluid. You could be bisexual, pansexual or you could just appreciate beauty in all forms. Try not to get hung up on labels, it doesn't matter 'what' you are, love is love and exploration is a perfectly normal healthy part of finding out who you are as a person.
April 12th, 2018 4:46am
If you mean gay as in homosexual, possibly. If you mean gay as in queer, I'd go for a hard maybe. There's the possibility that you will choose to identify as something other than heterosexual. You might want to ask yourself if it is attraction to this person, or simply admiration. People are conditioned to admire beauty, whether it is same-sex or not, and it might be a good idea to find where your attraction lies on the spectrum.
August 13th, 2018 6:20am
its definitely a possibility, and theres nothing wrong with feeling that attraction toward the same sex.
January 7th, 2019 7:48pm
The LGBTQ spectrum is broad and ever-changing. You could be bisexual, you could be gay, or you could simply have a same-sex crush on that individual. It is up to you to find out which it is, but really my advice is to have fun (while being safe) and not stress too much about it. We are who we are and we will eventually figure it out, so it isn't something to obsess about. Once you have more experience with dating and attraction, this should resolve itself and you will understand your sexuality better. Also, know that we can be fluid in our sexuality, meaning that it can change throughout our lifetimes. So don't stress it. :)