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Can you be asexual and still like dirty fanfition?

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Last Updated: 07/06/2020 at 12:04pm
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December 8th, 2018 9:31am
Hi, I'm going to answer as if you were talking about yourself here, even if it's not clear in your question. There are lots of ways to be asexual. Some won't feel any will to have sex but will still engage in it because it doesn't bother them particularly (for instance if it's important for their partner in their relationship or because they like the intimacy and closeness with their partner but not the act itself in particular), some will be repulsed by sex and won't engage in any kind of sexual stuff.. Some won't masturbate but others will (for instance to release their sex drive which is just mechanical) etc. The important thing for me is to be wary of owning a term you're not sure about. If you're not sure you're ace, then don't use it to describe yourself / your experience. You have a right to be in questionning, and that's totally legitimate for you to be. In the meantime, you can go to some asexuality themed forums (like Aven) to read some stories, and get a better idea of how broad asexuality can be, and how exactly you can situate yourself on the spectrum of (a)sexuality :)
February 28th, 2019 9:24pm
Yes, you absolutely can! I'm asexual too. :) If you aren't sexually attracted then you are - by definition - asexual, and that doesn't change based on your reading preferences! A lot of people have a lot of words to describe where they fit on the spectrum of asexuality. If you enjoy finding which words fit you most, awesome! Explore! If you'd rather not dive in too deep, I understand and - one Ace to another - give you permission to both love your dirty fanfics and embrace your Ace! ;) You are valid and perfectly okay! I'm so glad you exist!
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July 1st, 2019 1:12am
Sure! Asexuality is about not experiencing sexual attraction, so if you do not feel yourself attracted to anyone in a sexual way, and you're not interested in having sex, then you are asexual. Enjoying the presence of sex in fiction doesn't necessarily mean desiring to do it in real life. In the fictional world, we may enjoy a variety of things that we are not interested in personally experiencing in our life, from sex to solving crimes to litterally anything that may be interesting in a story, but we wouldn't want in our life.
July 6th, 2020 12:04pm
Of course- I assume you mean fan fiction/ fiction? Either way yes, absolutely. Enjoying reading about something doesn't define who you are. One might even say that even if it gave you pleasure, reading about more risque characters, it would still be self pleasure, which is a human quality - wanting the feeling of pleasure. It doesn't need to mean you want a romantic, sexual relationship with another person. humans are very complex, and every year we're learning more about just how complex we, and our brains, are. that includes emotions, how we fulfill basic human needs and much more.