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I don't like sexual relationships at all. Is it wrong?

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Last Updated: 05/25/2021 at 8:45pm
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August 8th, 2016 12:19pm
No! Of course it's not wrong! There's a sexuality called asexual, which is where you don't have any sexual feelings or desire to someone else. It It doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you at all. It's just how you feel.
October 4th, 2016 1:45pm
No. Not everyone enjoys them, or has to. One may also be asexual orientation-wise, or in the spectrum (demisexual, greyasexual - worth while to look up). Your feelings don't need validation.
October 17th, 2016 1:36am
Not at all! In fact it's a sexuality, one that I identify as. It's called asexual, meaning you like romantic/cuddly relationships, but never anything sexual
October 24th, 2016 2:02pm
Having no desire for a sexual relationship is perfectly ok. And if someone tells you otherwise they are so very very wrong. Intimacy can be achieved in more ways than just sex and if your partner or anyone else cant see that they have some learning on the ways of relationships.
October 31st, 2016 4:13am
This is not wrong, you are special. Many people are this way, it is just less known. This is called being "asexual", and there are a whole community of people just like you out there. Embrace yourself just as you are!
November 21st, 2016 7:03pm
No, there's nothing wrong at all with not being interested in sexual relationships, It might be that you're just not a stage in your life where you're interested in entering into that kind of relationship with someone, or you might be somewhere on the asexuality spectrum; both completely normal, healthy places to be.
February 14th, 2017 5:34pm
No, it's not wrong to feel that way. Whether it comes from something in your past, from having sexual experiences that you didn't enjoy, or just from disliking or being uninterested in sex overall, it's not wrong. If it bothers you and you would like to enjoy sex there are therapists who can work with that. Or if you feel it's part of your natural personality there is no need to try to change it.
September 26th, 2017 11:04pm
Not at all. It is completely natural to have not sexual desire or to not enjoy sexual relationships. If it feels right to you and it doesn't hurt anyone, it isn't wrong. :)
December 5th, 2017 4:02pm
No it's not wrong. It could be that you're asexual, I suggest this website: Although this cannot tell you if you truly are or give you an idea, by reading it maybe it could spark some ideas in your head.
January 16th, 2018 6:21pm
A lot people are asexual and that's okay. Maybe you're just made for romantic love and not physical.
January 23rd, 2018 12:43am
You are definitely not wrong for not liking sexual relationships! You might just be asexual, meaning you don't like sexual relationships. It could also mean that you just haven't hit that stage in puberty yet, if you're still young. But that's up to you to decide through experiences and what you feel deep down. The most important thing I want you to know is that it's not your fault. You're not wrong for feeling this way.
June 11th, 2018 5:55pm
There is nothing wrong with not being interested in sexual relationships. A lot of people fall somewhere on the asexuality spectrum.
September 17th, 2018 5:53pm
No, not at all. Some of us (including me) are really uncomfortable with the thought of our significant other or love interest touching us, especially if we're not ready for that kind of step. That doesn't mean that something is wrong with you. Nothing. There is nothing wrong with you. Being intimate at a sexual level requires the ultimate trust and confidence in someone. And of course, we can't entrust something like that to everyone and these things require time and patience. You can take things slow, however you want to, and your partner should be okay with that no matter what
September 18th, 2018 3:51pm
No. It’s perfectlly fine to not pursue sexual relationships. This is called being asexual, and it is not feeling sexual attraction to anyone. It is very normal, and it’s not wrong. It’s part of a spectrum.
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June 10th, 2019 2:16am
Absolutely nothing wrong! It's ok if you're not into sex, the fact that it's not super common doesn't mean it's wrong. Asexuality is a perfectly valid orientation, and asexual people can live happy and fulfilling purely romantic relationships. The asexual community will be there to support you with any doubt or curiosity you might have, if you wish to reach out for people who feel the same as you!
September 23rd, 2019 7:11pm
That is not wrong. One of the identities in LGBTQ+ is known as asexual, and asexuals feel no sexual attraction and may be disgusted by the thought of sex. Perhaps if you are attracted to people sexually, but dislike it, you may be on the asexual scale. Or you just may not like being in a sexual relationship period, regardless of your attractions. There is nothing wrong with you at all, and this is perfectly normal. Many people feel like this- some are asexual, and some are not. Some are demisexual, and some are not. Some just dislike sexual relationships.
October 27th, 2020 7:40pm
There is nothing wrong with you. Everyone is different so don't compare yourself to the "normal". Maybe you have not found someone that you are sexually interested in yet or maybe you do not find anyone sexually attractive ( and if that is the case then don't freak out it is okay for you to not be sexually attracted to someone). If you need anyone to listen to know also way know that there is someone here that will be happy to. Also, there is nothing wrong with not finding sexual relationships not attractive. Maybe, you don't like that the relationship only focus on that aspect instead of a friendship
May 25th, 2021 8:45pm
Not at all, we all have our preferences when it comes to relationships. You can choose to be in a relationship that doesn't involve sex and you can tell your partner how you feel about it. It is not wrong to dislike sex, it is something natural and we can choose if we want it or not, no one should be forced in doing it if they don't feel comfortable with it. That would be rape, as long as you are happy and make sure that your partner understands that you do not want to involve sex in the relationship.