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Is it wrong to be gay?

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Is it wrong to be gay?
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April 11th, 2015 7:07am
Never. It is not wrong. It is not unnatural. I also don't believe it is wrong in the eyes of God. But it is definitely not something anyone should ever be judged for. We cannot control who we love. This feeling of being wrong over something that's uncontrollable; it doesn't come from nowhere. Sometimes what others tell us can worm their way in until they completely influence the way we feel about ourselves. Sometimes we reject it because it contradicts how we look at ourselves. For those who think that their sexual orientation is a problem, who are trying to decide whether it is "right" or "wrong", "normal" or "abnormal", I want to say that it is one part of who you are. You are defined by far more than just the type of people you want to be into a relationship with. You know how sometimes there's stuff about ourselves that we or others criticize but literally have no way of changing? This is the same. It is not wrong to be gay. It's just one other aspect of who you are.
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December 24th, 2014 7:03pm
No. It is not wrong to be you. It is not wrong to love others of the same gender. There may be people who try to convince you otherwise, they may say awful and hurtful things, and may even try to force you to not be gay. They are wrong. You are not wrong for being gay. You are beautiful and lovely just as you are, however you are. No matter how people try to hurt you, you are not wrong, nor are you alone.
July 20th, 2016 7:06pm
Yes. I went through a phase where I liked other women, but I fought these feelings because something in my heart was telling me it was wrong. And it is quite unnatural. After all, you don't see two dogs of the same gender making a litter of puppies. Since it is natural for a man and a woman to have a child, this makes same sex couples having to adopt instead of having a child together. And I am not, by any means degrading people who are gay by using a dog annalagy. This has nothing to do with religion, or God. It is merely science. It takes two dogs of the opposite gender to have puppies. It takes two people of the opposite gender to make a baby. However, Clownfish all begin life as male, but can all carry both female and male reproductive organs on board. On contrary to humans who are born with either male, or female reproductive organs. In any given community, the female is the largest fish, the breeding male is the second largest and the rest are sexually immature males. These immature males can turn into females if the alpha female dies. Now, my point is not to point out the Finding Nemo would actually be a story about a father who turns into a female and mates with his son. The point is, you are not a clownfish. You where either born with male, or female reproductive organs; which makes you either male, or female. If you were to disregard science, and basic principles, I wouldn't judge you. I have friends and family who are part of the LGBTQ+ and I love them for who they are, despite our differences. We know we disagree with certain things, and if you are going to come out, I hope people love you just the way you are. Luckily, if you choose to be gay, you will not be sentenced to death like people used to wayyyy back in history. And it is also no longer a mental illness. To answer your question, scientifically...Yes. you're not a clownfish. But really, the choice is all yours, and I don't want to tell you how to live your life.
November 21st, 2015 12:42pm
Yes, it is wrong, it's antinatural. It's not at all a good habit
December 11th, 2014 12:21pm
no. absolutely not. there is nothing wrong with being gay. you are a beautiful creation of the Almighty. whatever you are right now is just who you are when you were created and you should nourish that. being gay is not wrong so long that you are a good person and does no harm to others. that you treasure your gifts and nourishes the Almighty's other creations as well.
August 11th, 2015 5:01am
Coming from a lesbian who was raised Catholic I came out feeling like it was wrong. It took me a while to acknowledge that I have no control over my sexuality as it's as much a part of me as my heart and brain. Prior to that, I would pray to God not to let me be gay, and when it hit me that I am I was devastated. It can take a while to accept new concepts about your being, but once you do it gets easier to live with it. You can't expect everyone to accept you, but if you can accept yourself then you don't need anyone elses' approval to believe that there's nothing with being who you are. So no, I don't think it's wrong to be gay when I didn't choose to be. I only chose to accept it as another part of me that needs to be loved.
December 11th, 2014 3:20am
In my opinion there is nothing wrong with being gay. It is who you are. Its important that you are true to your self.
April 19th, 2015 8:52am
Heck no! Being gay is no more wrong than being straight! For the longest time I thought I was gay until I discovered and determined that I am transgender! My sisters are both lesbian and happily married and I have a few other siblings that are the same way! It is who they are and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that!
December 14th, 2014 8:05am
Never. You are never wrong to be gay. Being gay is not a choice and you can't help being gay. If you seek help in trying to find a right path to where anything will lead you, contact me and I will help you out.
December 17th, 2014 4:17am
short answer: no. longish answer: everyone is attracted to different things and we as a society should accept and embrace that
December 30th, 2014 1:23pm
It is definitely not wrong to be gay. It is just less socially accepted because it is not very well understood, and people are uncomfortable with things they don't understand.
December 11th, 2014 5:23am
It is in no way wrong to be gay. You are born that way, and are not alone. It's a choice to hate, and unfortunately a choice taken by quite a few ignorant people, but do not be deterred my friends. The fact that people have the indecency to judge something someone doesn't have a choice on IS wrong, and as I said, being rude and ignorant is a choice but love is not. So embrace it. If you aren't gay yourself then you don't have to be ignorant! Expressing your support of the gay community is more than enough to help out, and in time you can help cancel out the hate. People should not have to live in fear of being discovered, or face discrimination based on a predisposition. Love don't hate.
April 24th, 2015 1:14pm
no. i believe being gay is as natural as being straight, true some religions and culture are against them, but not every time the majority is right. sometimes being unique is hard and may feel wrong but not on this case, you are as normal as any person can be, but with different taste... that's the only difference
May 30th, 2015 1:26am
It's not wrong to be gay, or to be whoever else you might be... We are all different, and homosexuality is just another one of the differences we could have as human beings, like hair colour or skin colour.
June 17th, 2015 3:56am
Being gay does't define who you are as a person. Sexuality is just one small thing that make us who we are. So I do not believe being gay is wrong, nor is being straight, or being short or tall. We are who we are and there are some things that we can't change, and that is OK.
February 1st, 2016 8:00am
Of course not! Some religions and groups my try to tell you there's something wrong with being any part of lgbtqi+, but it's a normal and healthy part of you that you shouldn't have to feel bad for. I personally know many people who actively practice all sorts of faiths, and while they may struggle sometimes, they have kind and affirming people around them. The best thing to do is to try to surround yourself with good people, I think.
March 15th, 2016 6:05pm
No, your life's decisions are entirely your own, don't be ashamed of being gay. It is okay to feel attracted to the same sex.
April 1st, 2015 2:28pm
No, there is nothing wrong with being gay! It's not a sin or something to be ashamed of! Sexuality is a big part of who someone is and no one should be ashamed of that!
June 2nd, 2015 7:29pm
It's such a shame that such question even appeares. If you're gay you feel attraction towards other people and you fall in love with them just like other people do. The only "issue" some individuals seem to have is that person you find attractive is same sex as yours. That shouldn't make you feel bad about yourself or diminish your feelings. It is natural to feel that way and I really hope that people would be able to put love over any kind of prejudice they might have.
November 19th, 2015 3:03am
The only people who are ever wrong, are the people saying something is wrong.
July 22nd, 2016 5:01am
No, its wrong to be a racist/a gay basher. Be happy with the way you are. Make you happy first.
December 11th, 2014 8:09am
Well that question is based on opinion really. You can ask a thousand people and you're almost 100% of the time going to have different answers from most of them. The answer to the question is not fact, it is based on the opinion of the person asked. Who may truly believe their opinion is fact.
December 21st, 2014 7:31pm
no, it never is. it is up to you to choose you who want to love or like. i know there would be people around saying that it is wrong but that is their ideology not yours so just let it go and concentrate on your own opinion
January 3rd, 2015 2:33am
it's never wrong to be gay. it's never wrong to love someone you love, even if you did have a choice in it. i am bisexual, clearly i never chose my sexual identity but i can choose my partner, this may not be the same thing as choosing sexual identity but it's pretty close. regardless of the situation, sexuality does not correlate with immorality. the only time it ever seem "immoral" is to those who are falsely presented and benefit from our heteronormative society and are bigoted.
April 10th, 2015 1:09am
Not at all. Is it wrong to be cis? Straight? Nope, it's just a normal part of life, you fall in love, grow old and be happy. Being gay is just who you're attracted to, that's not a bad thing!
May 1st, 2015 1:01pm
Its not wrong to be gay. Its just who you are, you can choose to love whatever gender you want. Some people might tell you its wrong but its not they just don't understand. Don't let them convince you. Find out for yourself. Your not alone there are others who ask the same question and feel the same way. (like me for instance I asked this question) Just be who you are and if you love/like someone of the same gender, Good For You! By just being who you are will help you find exactly who you are. Its not wrong just don't fall on the wrong sides of gay.
May 23rd, 2015 9:29pm
No, I don't think it's wrong to be gay. It's not my place to judge and/say whether it's wrong or not. It's no one else's place to make that judgement call either. Like the saying goes, if you don't like gay marriage or gay people, then don't marry or date a gay person. Society needs to accept people how they are and love and care for them just like they would any other person. So, no, it's not wrong to be yourself and love who you want to. We all deserve these basic human rights.
June 6th, 2015 2:36pm
No, it is perfectly normal and five to be gay. Lots of people are gay. You are born like this and you cannot change who you are, and being who you are is the best thing to be because there is only one of you, and you are special in your very own way!
June 30th, 2015 11:15pm
No its not wrong to be gay, human nature is judging and we live in a world full of rules and superstitions. Gays existed since forever the only difference is earlier they were not noticed and there were not enough rules to stop then rules of heterosexuality came in and people stopped accepting anything else. still people felt the way they were gay, lesbian, pansexual, transsexual, bisexual the only thing is they could not disclose it. The rules are man made but love is natural and nature never made the rules saying its wrong to fell different otherwise it would have never existed in the first place.
July 1st, 2015 4:41am
No not at all, people love who they love. Its completely okay to love whoever you love. You being you is not wrong. people may tell you its wrong but they are just bullies.