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Why do i verbally degrade myself whenever something goes wrong?

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Last Updated: 05/28/2018 at 10:23pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 7:53am
Many people verbally degrade themselves as a form of punishing themself for making a mistake. Consider keeping track of accomplishments (even small ones!) and rewarding yourself for the things you achieve.
QuietHawk
May 28th, 2018 11:59am
Because that is your default response. When you first learned to say please and thank-you, you had to be reminded each and every time; now you do it automatically. Using a more supportive message when you do something wrong can be easily learned! Simply replace the degrading response with a loving response each and every time. All it takes is practice. I like to speak to myself the same way that I would to a cherished friend. My favorite response to myself and others is: "its okay to make mistakes while we learn."
endearingLion70
- Expert in Self-Esteem
May 28th, 2018 10:23pm
Could be the result of low self esteem. It will be worthwhile to look into this behavior and clarify the dynamic behind it.