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I’m feel like I won’t be able to make friends in college, how do I?

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Last Updated: 07/06/2020 at 4:50pm
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February 14th, 2018 11:37pm
It's helpful to remind yourself that 95% of college students feel this way. You're not alone. Many people make friends by joining clubs and organizations. There's tons of options, especially depending on your school. There's greek life, religious clubs, environmental conservation clubs, dance clubs, intramural sports, high five clubs (that was a real thing at my school), improv clubs, and more. Often times, there's a club for anything.
February 5th, 2018 6:07pm
you just only have to be yourself, be brave and belive in yourself and in your skills. i'm sure everyone can make friends, people are different from each other and that makes everyone special.
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February 15th, 2018 8:01am
So many people feel this way, especially if you're the only person you know going to that university. However, there are many ways to make friends. - Attending Orientation Week/Day is a great place to start, to get surrounded with the environment, your degree, your professors and the fellow students in your cohort. - Joining groups and clubs early on is another good option. There are clubs for heaps of different interests- anime club, Harry Potter fan club, environmental groups etc. Find a group with your interest, or make your own group! - Joining uni sport clubs is good too for making new friends who are interested in the same thing as you. - If you live on campus, make friends with the people in your dorm! And attend social gatherings and events, especially the first few. - Be yourself. Even if you dont make friends immediately in the beginning, it doesn't mean you will never make any friends. People will come eventually. :)
March 5th, 2019 12:20pm
Sometimes it's really easy to feel like you're the only one who feels this way. There are definitely other people who want to reach out but don't know how to. A simple "Hi" usually does the trick to set the ball rolling. But on the other hand, it would be a good first step to figure out why you feel like you won't be able to make friends in college. Chances are you'll get a lot more clarity, which should help you figure out how to go about it. For example, if you think that you won't be able to make friends because you're typically shy, a good way to respond would be to see what happens when you try to strike conversation with someone. What have you to gain? What have you to lose?
July 6th, 2020 4:50pm
Be yourself and be friendly and you will find friends. Put yourself out there and talk to people including the people you sit next to in class, people that you sit by on the bus or others studying at the same coffee shop as you. Join clubs and organizations and participate in them. Attend gatherings even if you don't know anyone. There will be plenty of people there also wanting to make friends, try to find those people. College is wonderful and it is even better if you have friends to share it with. The first year is hard because no one knows anyone hardly, which means everyone will be looking for a friend. Be yourself and be friendly and you will find friends. Good luck and have a great time in college.