My parents complain about each other to me, and I don't know what to do.

I think the hardest thing in this is that you love both of your parents, and coulnd't and wouldn't really choose a side. But there's an expectation towards you, to agree what one is saying, even when you don't even want to hear your parents complaning about each other. What makes this situation harder is the bitter identification of the fact: your parents are just like you - they fight and shout and think that they're right. But the hardest thing for you is to realise: They're no longer on each others' side, where they used to be.

Tell your parents that you don't want to be in the middle. Its not your responsibility to be the messenger.

In my experience, parents usually say to you what they're really trying to communicate to the other parent, or even just sounding it out for the first time with someone they trust and that knows the parent as much as they do. If it bothers you, why not ask them whether they think the other parent should hear this over you? Or explain to them that it doesn't make you feel comfortable to be put in the middle in such a way. It's better to be forthright with this kind of thing than be forced to carry too much in silence.

Respectfully let them know how you feel and how it's affecting you. Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements to avoid sounding offensive or finger-pointing. You have every right to love both parents; emphasize how you love both of them and think highly of them.

Have the parents sit down and talk to each other about their emotional or ideas they may have. Having them speak to one another may solve some conflicts or predicaments

If there's no way you can help solve their problems, just listen. I guess they both could use a hearing ear.

Be understanding but don't take sides. If they attempt to press you into taking a side, recommend that they speak with each other instead. If you find that they keep using you as an outlet and you're uncomfortable with this, tell them that you appreciate that they feel comfortable talking to you about these issues but that you aren't really in a position to help resolve the problems--they can only resolve it between themselves. There is no guarantee this will work but anything that can encourage them to share their complaints with each other instead of foisting them upon you is a positive step.

Tell them it's non of your business. Because it really isn't. Their relationship is something they need to sort out on their own and they should never put their children in the middle of all that.

I had to have a chat to my Mum about it, and explain that it hurt me. This was several years later and after I finally spoke to a councilor about my problems. If you can, talk to your parents. If you can't, talk to someone who can support you.

I've totally been in that situation before. My parents do have a pretty good marriage, but sometimes they'll start complaining about each other to me without really realizing what they're doing. I usually just try to change the subject when I can.

I am so sorry that they are placing you in such an uncomfortable position. No child should have to hear the other parent being put down Please say to your mother and your father when they start to complain that you know that they are in pain but that it is inappropriate for them to burden you. Try to help them look beyond their own pain and understand how destructive their behavior is. A child needs to be able to see his parents as role models and not be denigrated and shot full of holes

The main thing you do in that situation is to listen to both sides but do not take a side. That way you can be supportive of your parents but it doesn't put you more in the middle. Also, try to offer helpful advise about getting them to talk to each other. Ultimately they need to work things about them self and sometimes them complaining could be their tool to get their stress out in the open instead of stuck in their head.

Ask them nicely not to speak badly about the other in front you, remind them that he/she is still your parent.

Have a sit down talk with them to express your concerns and look for a solution together as a family

This can definitely be a tough situation, especially because you don't want to upset either one of them. What do you think would be best? Have you tried telling your parents how you feel about the entire situation? Maybe sitting down and having a discussion could be beneficial.

When your parent begins to complain, let them know kindly but firmly that you don't want to be put in the middle and you would appreciate it if they would choose to talk about that issue with someone other than you. It may take a few reminders, but most parents will learn to not put you in the middle like that fairly quickly. If things don't improve or your parent becomes angry, it may help to bring in another trusted individual to help mediate the situation so that both you and your parent feel heard.

Try to just focus on yourself and act like you are interested. It's okay to not know what to do. Believe

If they both tell you that means they both trust you. Sit with both of them at the same time, solve the problems between them, tell them to remove the communication gap between both of them otherwise it might lead to separation of your family

I would tell them that it makes you uncomfortable and ask them if they could stop or work out their problems with eachother