Do you have to come out to everyone?
iammyown
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Sep 21, 2015
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Not at all! The only person who needs to know who you are is you! Come out to people who you are comfortable around, and for the rest, who cares? They don't need to know!
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AnAlpacaNamedDiana
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Feb 25, 2015
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You don't. It is well within your right to come out to whoever you want, especially if you live in a country where LGTBA people are heavily discriminated agaisnt. All reasons are valid for not coming out, from "I'm afraid I'll get beaten up" to "I just don't feel like telling them". You're not and shouldn't be forced to disclose any information about yourself. Besides, it's their fault for assuming you're not LGTBA in the first place :)
MonaMarie
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Oct 26, 2015
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I don't believe that you have to come out to everyone. Coming out should be your personal choice and if you choose not to tell somebody, that is your choice. I like to personally come out to everyone because I am very comfortable with it and I feel like people should no who I really am.
Talulah22
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Apr 19, 2015
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No, you don't! You only have to come out when you want it, and not everyone has to know your sexual orientation.
RedVase1234
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Jun 4, 2018
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I think that can be a personal choice. Choosing to come out to your professional colleagues or your personal social circle depends on the individual. You can choose to be as open or as private about your life as you are comfortable with. There is no right or wrong answer.
Aayla
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Aug 20, 2018
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No, not necessarily. Who you come out to is a decision that is entirely up to you. It's your personal choice to decide whether you want everyone to know, or just some people, be it your friends, your family or whoever you want. There's nothing wrong about not wanting everyone to know, there can be many reasons for it, and you're not obliged to say it if you don't want to, since it is something that concerns yourself and you don't owe this information to anyone. The choices about coming out are the most personal, and should be totally free.
Kassy7cups
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Nov 11, 2019
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You absolutely do not have to come out to everyone. Coming out is a very personal choice that is up to you. It’s important to remember that people you trust are safe bets when coming out, and they should also be people who are both close to you and comfortable with accepting you for you. Like other personal information, you may not be comfortable with sharing the details of your coming out online. That’s perfectly fine. Some people would like everyone to know that they are a certain gender/identity or orientation, others would not. Ultimately, if it is in a safe situation and feels right to you, go ahead and come out. I hope this helps!
Anonymous
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Apr 10, 2015
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Not everyone, only if you want to. If you feel like you want to come out to everyone then do! Only if you feel safe in your area however. But there's nothing wrong with not telling everyone, keeping it to family and friends is perfectly fine!
grassup
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Jul 13, 2016
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Certainly not! You are not responsible for explaining your own private life and preferences to the world! And not everyone needs to know anyway. You are free to pick and choose who you want to come out to! It's all about your level of comfort!
RainbowHelp777
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Oct 25, 2016
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No. Everyone does not need to know. Come out to only those that you are comfortable with and that you personally trust.
Anonymous
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Feb 24, 2015
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No, you do not have to come out to everyone. In fact, you don't need to come out to anyone. If you so not ready, it might not be the right time for you to come out. Coming out is not easy and it is really terrifying at first. Once you start telling people, it will get easier. You can't come out to everyone in one day. You will be coming out for the rest of your life to new people. If you don't trust someone or you feel that the person you want to tell will put you in any danger for coming out, maybe it is best not to tell that person.
Anonymous
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Mar 11, 2015
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You don't have to come out to anyone you don't want to. You only have to come out to people you're comfortable with knowing and you want to know.
Anonymous
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Apr 16, 2015
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No, you don't You're gender and sexuality is your own business. Once you're able to accept yourself and come out to those closest to you, nothing else really matters.
Anonymous
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Apr 25, 2015
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No not if you don't feel like it. Take your time and do it how you want it to. Its only you who can make that decion
IvyRainGabriel
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Apr 26, 2015
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No, Of course not! Come out to the people you want to come out to. Come out only when you're ready. Come out at your own pace. Do whatever is comfortable for you ^.^ you are very brave for considering coming out!
GoldenDragonEyes60
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Apr 29, 2015
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"Coming out" to anyone is your own personal choice. You absolutely don't have to reveal everything about yourself to anyone that you happen to come across. Choose the people you're comfortable with and choose what you're comfortable sharing. You're life is your own, make it truly yours.
Aprildays2432
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May 7, 2015
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Coming out to whoever you want to totally up to you. You should never let any pressure for you to or not to come out. Once you decide what your sexuality is, then the next step is figuring out who you want to come out to. If you are scared to tell everybody and would rather just tell the people you trust, thats fine!
Bossuet
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May 30, 2015
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You never have to come out if you don't want to. It's a personal choice and it's entirely up to you who to come out to and when.
Briana98
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May 31, 2015
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Nope! It's not really necessary to tell anyone, really. You can only tell people you deem worthy of knowing, if that's how you'd like to do it. I've only told my closest friends. No family, co-workers, bosses, etc. Coming out is a constant and tiring thing to do, anyway.
gracefulSunshine62
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Nov 27, 2015
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You definitely don't have to come out to everyone. Its a personal decision and if you don't want to, are not comfortable, or if its not safe those are all valid reasons to not come out to everyone. Coming out can be a great thing for me it helps me live more genuinely as the person I am and share that truth with those I care about. But there are still people in my life that I am not out to. That is my personal decision and it should be respected.
