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How can I be a good ally to the LGBTQ+ community?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 31, 2015
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1. Learn About the Diversity of Gender and Sexuality A strong ally understands that not all LGBT people express themselves in the same way and is invested in understanding the wide range of identities and experiences that comprise the LGBT community. 2. Don’t Make Assumptions Since there are countless ways to express one’s gender and sexuality, it’s not a good idea to assume that you have someone’s identity “figured out,” unless they’ve discussed it with you 3. Stand Up to Homophobia and Transphobia—Especially When It Isn’t Easy Speak out against statements and jokes that are disrespectful to LGBT people. It’s sometimes hard to challenge friends and family, but letting others know that you find intolerance unacceptable can be effective in changing attitudes. 4. Get Involved with LGBT Members of Your Local Community Many towns, schools, and religious communities have LGBT-friendly groups where you can meet and learn more about LGBT people. These groups often host public events to advocate for LGBT causes or otherwise empower the community and its allies. Ask an LGBT friend if they are a member of a group and see if you can tag along! Joining these events can be fun, educational, and exciting for all involved. 5Be Open If there’s one thing we know about the LGBT community, it’s that we’re a highly dynamic and diverse medley of identities and experiences. That means the terms we use to describe ourselves and the causes that rise up and gain the most national momentum vary and shift. Keeping an open mind and remaining flexible in the face of change is central to being a good ally, whether you identify as LGBT or not. These are just a few. Good Luck!
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Profile: SimplyBeing
SimplyBeing on Jun 28, 2016
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In my experience I have most grateful to my allies that have taken the time to ask what they could do. You are already doing one of the most helpful things. The act of asking acknowledges the person in front of you. One of my meditation teachers told me his most important practice was to say to himself, "the person in front of me is important and their happiness matters" before he spoke with another person. Focusing on compassion and kindness makes you an amazing ally to everyone.
Profile: RaCat
RaCat on Sep 5, 2016
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The best way to support LGBTQ+ community is to treat them normally. Just remember that sexuality or gender identify don't define any of us and we are still the same people so just act with LGBTQ+ person the same as you are acting with others. For me it would be the best, don't make a big deal on my sexuality and I think there is a lot of people from LGBTQ+ community who would agree with me!
Profile: melodyowl130
melodyowl130 on Apr 3, 2015
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You can do a lot to help the community - donate to different supporting charities, join your school's club, and even attend a pride parade.
Profile: BlueYozhik
BlueYozhik on Apr 8, 2015
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Great question. You can be an ally by respecting, supporting, and listening to members of the LGBTQ+ community. You can also confront ignorance about LGBTQ+ people within your group of friends, coworkers, peers and family members when you feel you have the background information to engage with the topic on a respectful level.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 7, 2015
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Listen to what we have to say without projecting your own interpretation, respect that our culture is changing and evolving, give us space to feel comfortable but also encourage intergration by making it not a big deal at all. We're all just people, just be kind :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 15, 2015
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Its helpful to learn up on the topic and teach others out in the community about the facts. And volunteer helping out at the centers
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Anonymous on May 18, 2015
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There is a few ways that mean a lot to people I've met 1. Don't categorize things as boy or girl things to do 2.Don't assume you know what a person is. This brings many into bad trouble. You should ask their gender identity every time you meet a new person. 3. Don't stereotype the lgbt groups. (i.e. : He is gay, he has to be flamboyant. If he is a guy, why is he wearing a dress) 4. Educate yourself more. Lack of education brings many of us down. To make it simple.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 28, 2015
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Promote LGBTQ+ awareness!! Just letting others know you are interested in heeling goes a long way. Nothing is more important that support.
Profile: bettereverdaay
bettereverdaay on Nov 3, 2015
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Its important o be accepting and willing to listen. exposing ones sexuality is a very scary thing and they need you to be ready to accept them and to not judge
Profile: Katie77
Katie77 on Dec 18, 2015
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Be willing to listen. When possible, promote voices from within the community (rather than promoting your own voice). Acknowledge your limitations and make an effort to educate yourself on the diversity of issues at hand. Do you best not to contribute to trans/bisexual/pansexual/asexual erasure. Be aware there is not one uniform "LGBTQ" experience - everyone has their own polymorphous perspective. :)
Profile: ItsButterflyLove
ItsButterflyLove on Feb 2, 2016
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You can always be one. Just make sure you don't say something that could hurt people. It's the same like any other community. You are there for each other, you help each other. And you care for each other. It isn't hard and you are alwas a good member if you just follow one rule: Don't hurt each other! That's the golden rule. It's only that. You don't have to go to parades or such things. It's enough when you're friendly and nice. And don't forget: You are beautiful♥
Profile: musicalForest17
musicalForest17 on Feb 8, 2016
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Very good question. Be supportive of your friends that are LGBT, ask questions about things that you don't know, join a GSA!
Profile: julesap3
julesap3 on May 30, 2016
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You can be a good ally by acknowledging that your fellow LGBTQ+ members are humans too. For example, if someone is transgender or not part of the gender binary, call them by their pronouns. It isn't preferred, it's who they are.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 25, 2016
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Listen, don't hijack the conversation but build a platform for people from the LGBTQ+ community to speak for themselves. Amplify their voices. Educate yourself and, for the love of God, when someone calls you out for saying or doing something hurtful don't throw a tantrum. Learn from it & apologise. Be there for the community consistently on good days and bad days.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 12, 2016
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Just asking shows that you're a great ally! The best thing that you can do is be there for people, and not assume anything. Some people use different pronouns than you would think, or identify differently than what you might assume! Asking pronouns, making sure to correct people who say something rude or insensitive, and just being there to support your friends who are LGBTQ+ is a great start.
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Jul 3, 2017
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Supporting the rights of LGBTQ+ people is the most powerful thing you can do to help. If you do not judge LGBTs and you treat them like you would treat anyone else you're already being a good ally, but supporting the cause of equal rights is what really makes a difference. Also, don't be afraid to stand up for mistreated LGBTs when you have the chance: unfortunately, many people still are close-minded and can't stand LGBTs. By being open-minded and supportive you can make a positive change in the world
Profile: LovingSunrise55
LovingSunrise55 on Jul 18, 2017
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Just accept them as they are. be friends with them and don't say anything negative about them. Treat them the way you treat everyone else.
Profile: fruitCat
fruitCat on Sep 26, 2017
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A few things I can think of are... Do research on LGBTQ+ history and rights (do things about any lack of rights you spot, if you can). Try to correct people (politely of course :P) if they are saying things based on stereotypes, rumours or other bad/faslse information, or if they are being rude or prejudiced or are bullying an LGBTQ+ person. Go to pride events with your LGBTQ+ friends and use the pronouns people ask you to if they are trans (or just in general to be honest). Generally, just keep yourself educated and respect people. Which you are already doing just by asking this question! (Well done you, what a great ally you are :P)
Profile: bigSoul58
bigSoul58 on Oct 10, 2017
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Going to our parades are helpful, but mostly, if you here someone disrespect us, then standing up for us is always nice.
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