How can I know if I'm bisexual if I had only one-gender experiences?
SarahG
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Mar 25, 2015
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Being bisexual doesn't have to reflect the experience you've had. It describes your potential to be attracted to different genders. If you feel you can be attracted to more then one gender, and bisexual feels right to you than you are bisexual and your sexuality is valid.
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Anonymous
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May 20, 2015
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Because behavior is not orientation. Experiences only help you figure out if you like those experiences. If you have felt a pull, hunger, or allure toward specific people in which you wanted to partake in sexual activities with them, and those people were of two or more different genders, then bisexual may be a good a label. Polysexual and pansexual may also interest you. Orientation describes only which genders you feel attraction toward and, when it comes to the asexual spectrum, at what frequency / under which conditions. Your attitudes toward and experiences with sexual and/or romantic activities hold no sway over that. For example, someone can be repulsed by sex and never want to have sexual relations, but can still feel attraction toward others. They just may not want to act on that attraction. Another way to think of it is to ask: Does someone who is straight need to have experiences to confirm that they are straight? Odds are, they just know they're straight. So why can't someone just know they're bi? You know how you feel better than anyone else, and no matter what, those feelings are real and valid.
Anonymous
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Apr 12, 2015
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Sexuality is a matter of opinion more than a matter of experiences. Being bisexual only means that you feel sexual attraction to two genders and so having experience with only one gender does not invalidate your sexuality in the slightest.
Anonymous
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Apr 8, 2015
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Would you ask an inexperienced straight or gay person the same question? Sexual and romantical orientation isn't based on relationship or sexual experiences but sexual and romantical attraction - keyword here is ATTRACTION. It's not the exact same thing, esp. since I am not sexually attracted to animals, but try seeing it this way: I think both snakes (a reptilian species) and dogs (a mammal species) are pretty, but I've only ever petted dogs and not any reptiles, but does this mean I only think dogs are pretty because I have petted them and not snakes? No, absolutely not, I still think both are beautiful animals!
Anonymous
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Oct 26, 2015
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You will know if you are Bi because you will be sexual attracted to both males and females. you dont need to have experences with both to understand you feelings
Anonymous
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Mar 16, 2015
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i think that you know what sex you like when you find one of the sexs or both of the sex attractive in that way, once you have an experience you will now for sure but its common for teenagers to have phases or want to have experience with the same sex
PhoenixB
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Oct 27, 2015
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Really, it's about how you feel. Do you get sexual vibes when a woman touches you? How about a man? If both are a yes, then you're bisexual. You don't need to necessarily have sex with both sexes before you know.
Juncat
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Jun 30, 2015
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Try looking at it with a different perspective. For example, a heterosexual woman may believe she is 100% into men only, yet she's never been with a woman. So how could she know for sure that she /isn't/ bisexual? Try this with your friends! It's tricky to fully understand and explain, but there are some things that we just innately know about ourselves. Your emotions and feelings are real and valid. You can be bisexual and only ever be with one gender if that's just how things work out.
Aayla
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Jul 1, 2019
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Your orientation is not defined by your experiences, but rather by the attraction you feel. If you also feel attracted by the gender you had no experience with, if you have a positive reaction imagining yourself with them, if your feelings and emotions tell you that you could be attracted by more than one gender, it's enough to identify your orientation. You may know that you're bisexual even if you have only one-gender experiences, because it's all about what you feel, not what you do.
Anonymous
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Aug 17, 2015
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If you've had sexual and/or romantic thoughts about more than one gender, there is a good chance you are bisexual :)
GoldenDragonEyes60
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Apr 30, 2015
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I myself have this experience. To accept your sexuality you have to determine the attractions that you have to people. It's not wrong to consider anything and it's okay to explore your options. Just take the time to think your situation over and go from there.
Anonymous
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May 23, 2015
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Do you feel the same way or more strongly about a certain gender? The definition of being bisexual is having the same romantic feelings for both genders. If you are still unsure maybe go on a date with the other gender opposite your previous experiences.
positiveWhisper24
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Jun 7, 2015
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How do you know if you're straight before you've had any experience? Sexuality has to do with attraction also, not just experience. If you feel attraction to someone of the same sex, but you've only had experience with the opposite sex, or vice versa, you could be bisexual. The honest truth is, you are if you define yourself that way. Ulitmately it is up to you to define your sexuality, and if you think you are capable of being sexually or romantically attracted to both sexes, you are bisexual.
Hellodarling
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Jun 23, 2015
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Sexuality is something that can be very fluid. One of the ways Bisexuality is defined is attraction. If you are attracted to two or more genders, then you may be bisexual. It doesn't require having romantic or sexual experiences to confirm that. I'd encourage you to take some time and look up all the different sexualities, there are a lot out there. And sometimes sexual and romantic sexuality can be different. And remember, you can be as fluid as you need to be, and you don't have to label yourself a certain sexuality if that doesn't feel right to you.
autumnfrost
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Sep 7, 2015
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If you feel romantic and/or sexual attractions to more than one gender, you can identify as bisexual. It's not necessary to have an experience, you can just know how you feel. Do straight people who've never had any experiences not know that they're straight? No. Therefore, you can know too!
AlmightyGena
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Dec 15, 2015
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You know you're bisexual if you naturally feel like you are attracted to women in a romantic way. I knew I was bisexual before I even dated a women because I used to feel like kissing/hugging women a lot more then I did when I saw a man
FlowerSong98
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Jun 28, 2016
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It's very possible to be attracted to more than one gender with not a lot of experience with one, sometimes you might notice yourself fancying boys, and girls and in between or not at all! As for knowing for sure, that comes with a lot of self exploration, but take it at your own pace! Just take time to figure out what you like and be safe! :)
MrJayGray
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Jul 25, 2016
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How does anyone know their sexual orientation before they've had a sexual experience with another human being?
Some people just know, while others have so many other emotional burdens to overcome before they can truly know if they are gay, straight or bi.
Anonymous
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Nov 21, 2016
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You can feel attracted to individuals without having experiences with them! It's very personal, but generally if you are bisexual you will feel attracted to individuals of both genders (although it may be in varying amounts).
Allears247
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Jun 12, 2018
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Your sexuality is not based on your sexual experiences. It is determined by your personal preference. For example, Im gay. If i decide to date a girl that doesn't change my sexuality. Im still gay. Im just in a straight relationship. If you are sexually attracted to both genders than you are bi. Despite whether you have experience with either sex or not. You sexuality is defined by your sexual interests, not what gender your having relations with.