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Sometimes I really think I was meant to be a different gender, but then other times I really like my gender. What's wrong with me?

Profile: Rebecca
Rebecca on Mar 8, 2015
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Nothing is wrong with you! Gender can be very fluid for some people, and that is a-okay! You might be genderfluid or genderqueer, meaning you don't identify is either male or female. However, I can't really say, you are the only one who can decide. I suggest looking into different gender identities and seeing if there is something you really resonate with. Good luck! If you ever feel really confused, make sure to connect with a listener!
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Profile: Rainbows94
Rainbows94 on May 7, 2015
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Gender is not binary, it is not always male and female. Gemder is a big spectrum and it is the expression of the self, and as any other form of expression, it depends on the context and situation. Therefore, as an example, a gender fluid person might wear masculine clothes one day, and then the next day wear more feminine and puts on make-up. Gender is unique to every person. Remember that there is no wrong or right gender, the only right thing is to express yourself the way you feel.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 23, 2015
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Nothing. Some people are non-binary, which means we aren't just one gender, but two or more. Have you heard of being genderqueer, genderfluid, or bigender? This is one place you could go to to check it out: http://neutrois.com/what-is-neutrois/ . It's confusing, you might feel you're the only person who's like this, who's broken, but there's nothing wrong with you and you're not alone.
Profile: JeileUK
JeileUK on Apr 13, 2015
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There is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes we have doubts about who we are and the body we're in. It is natural to certain extent, as we have both male and female in all of us. There might come a point when this questions replays constantly in your mind. It is at this stage when you might want to explore it further witha qualified Counsellor.
Profile: JinkzKitty
JinkzKitty on Jun 9, 2015
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There are many options on what this could be. You could be used to your birth gender but feel like another gender. You could be bigender, genderfluid, genderqueer, gender non-conforming, or many other of the non-binary variations. It can be hard to explain and understand sometimes and even being non-binary myself I have a hard time explain and feeling it myself.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 17, 2015
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Nothings wrong. It's completely normal. A lot of people fall for the same or opposite gender. Just be yourself.
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Aug 27, 2019
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It could be that you a non-binary person, meaning that you don't always identify 100% with one gender. Your identification with one gender or another may vary, and that's ok, there are many non-binary people who feel the same as you and it's totally normal. You're free to express your gender identity in any way that fits what you feel in a specific moment, while knowing that overall you aren't one gender only. Your identity is valid!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 6, 2015
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Our gender identity very rarely is black or white. Each person is different and it's impossible to say what's masculine or what's feminine, so there's nothing wrong with you, we are all human.
Profile: Manifestation
Manifestation on Nov 17, 2015
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There is nothing wrong with you. Gender fluidity is a very natural process and discovering yourself in this process can be a very amazing journey.
Profile: Hellelujah
Hellelujah on Jan 26, 2016
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Absolutely nothing is wrong! Some people identify as genderfluid. Much like the name, they feel that they flow between different genders from day to day.
Profile: QuietPower28
QuietPower28 on Aug 1, 2016
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Nothing is wrong with you don't worry :) I think you just need to find who you are, the experiences that shape your gender maybe haven't happened yet, then again you might be agender! Which is totally fine :)
Profile: maxh
maxh on May 23, 2015
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It's possible that you're bigender or genderfluid. Sadly, even with trans issues getting more notice, gender is still often cast as a permanent choice from one or two options, but that simply isn't true; there's a whole world of non-binary gender out there!
Profile: wonderfulKiwi70
wonderfulKiwi70 on Aug 10, 2015
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There's nothing wrong with you at all. There's a possibility that you might be genderfluid, which is a gender orientation where you naturally alternate between different gender identities. You can find more information here: http://gender.wikia.com/wiki/Gender_Fluid
Profile: yourangelus
yourangelus on Nov 16, 2015
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There's nothing wrong with you. I would recommend looking into different gender identities and seeing what fits. Sounds like you might be genderfluid, but that's for you to decide.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 14, 2015
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some of us have more complex personalities that the norm, and we are capable of relating to ourselves and others in a variety of ways. It is ok to have all sides of you, and the more you can accept and express all of who you are, the happier you will be. Nothing is wrong with you!
Profile: bella0909
bella0909 on Dec 15, 2015
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well some people can be genderfluid. That means that the man/women can choose what gender they want to be whenever they feel like it .... at least that is what i have heard... so nothing is wrong with you. you are probably just curious
Profile: MonBon
MonBon on Jan 19, 2016
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I don't think anything is wrong with you :) It sound like you are gender fluid, but you could also be agender, bigender, genderqueer, etc. I wouldn't stress too much about it though
Profile: Cecelys
Cecelys on Feb 19, 2016
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Hello! I myself identify as nonbinary - my gender shifts too much for me to understand. To me this sounds like genderfluid, genderflux, or another variation. I'd do some research on those words to find out more! I hope you're okay - and remember, there's nothing wrong with you.
Profile: bdvhood
bdvhood on Feb 20, 2016
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Nothing is wrong with you we were all born special :)
Profile: TangledRivers
TangledRivers on Feb 21, 2016
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There is nothing at all wrong with you. It sounds like you may be gender fluid. You may want to look into resources for gender non-binary people or research more information on gender fluidity. If you need a definition, gender fluid people feel like both genders or neither but at different times. For instance, today, this hour, you may feel like a woman. But later tonight you may feel like a man. Or, for some, it may be different for an entire day or week or longer. You may feel like a woman this week and a man for a few days next week, and then maybe neither for a while. This is perfectly fine and there is nothing wrong with it or you.
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