When is the right time to come out?
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Updated: Apr 24, 2021
JoyfulDreamer39
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Mar 2, 2015
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There's no right time or place. It's up to you, whenever you are ready and feel comfortable about it.
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bethdoeslife
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Apr 18, 2015
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When the coast is queer :) Aha no, whenever you feel happy doing so, don't feel pressured into doing anything. Come out when you feel it's the right time :)
Anonymous
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Mar 22, 2016
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Sometimes, there just isn't a "right time". Coming out can be so scary. Sometimes we feel like we're never ready and never will be.
The right time for you to come out is when you feel that it's safe, when you feel ready, and when you're prepared to face the changes that may come next.
Hanna195
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Jul 20, 2015
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It is hard to know sometimes when the right time to come out is. I hate that we even have to 'come out'.. we should just be able to come home or say to others 'Oh I have a girlfriend/boyfriend now' with no judgement or shock. Come out when you are ready to come out, when you can face judgement or acceptance. Make sure you know yourself to know what you identify yourself as or if you identify yourself at all and make sure you can be happy with yourself! Prepare just incase for any judgement, shock etc because it may happen and has happened to a lot of people! But try to keep positive! You will feel great and a huge weight lifted off your shoulders! good luck! x
Ahlex
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Jul 13, 2015
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Honestly I think the best time to come out is when you're financially stable on your own, due to the fact that a lot of parents seem to recklessly kick out their kids for it.
yourfabsenpai
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May 27, 2015
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The right time to come out is when you feel comfortable. Some people come out in their 60s while others come out when they are 14. It just depends on if you're comfortable with your sexuality and if you feel that the person you are coming out to, is trustworthy or needs to know. Just make sure that you're not putting your life in danger. (ex. getting disowned, being assaulted, isolation, etc.) There are many websites/hotlines that can help you with coming out. Ex. Kids Help Phone, LGBT Foundation, The Trevor Project, and more!
iPheonix
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Oct 23, 2015
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Coming out is a matter of being proud and comfortable! If you're happy with the way you are and have friends or family you'd like to share that with, you should be more than proud to! :) Share the love.
trisjlistens
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Oct 22, 2015
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Trust me, you will feel it and when you do, go for it. Just remember not to pressure yourself.
Anonymous
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Apr 9, 2015
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When you feel comfortable enough to admit it to yourself without having any negative judgment on yourself, I think that would be a good time to come out. Because although you would receive tons of support, there would be many out there that would not support you or share your believe. And it is at those times of adversities where your self acceptance would be helpful.
Rachel0293
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May 7, 2015
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Whenever you're ready. There may not feel like a "right time". Sometimes you just have to go for it.
wahmaka
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May 10, 2015
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You should come out whenever you know that doing so is safe and you are finally ready to tell the people around you. Do not feel pressured to do something you don't want to, you've got your whole life to get ready for it.
Mswim72
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Dec 20, 2015
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There will never be a perfect time but first u have to accept that everybody might not be okay with it right away it might take time and some people will never be okay with it
GlitteringBubbles37
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Apr 18, 2015
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Whenever you feel you are ready, nobody should ever feel like they have been pressured into such a personal thing, it's all about you and when you feel the time is right.
Folieaun
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Feb 13, 2018
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Your safety is the priority. Make sure you feel comfortable, and the person that you'd like to come out to is ready to listen.
Anonymous
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Mar 3, 2015
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When you're ready to, and you finally admitted it to yourself. You can't come out without knowing one hundred percent what you're into, and it's only you that can help yourself. It's a self process, you can't rely on anybody about it. So come out when you're ready, don't feel pressured, and come out if you feel like you want to.
originalLion57
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Jun 4, 2015
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When you feel ready and when you have a supportsystem you can lean on. Also when you think you know how your family/friends/surroundings will react so you have a backup plan in case something goes wrong.
amazingHeart17
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Oct 14, 2015
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The right time to come out is whenever you say it is, you should never feel forced to come out, but you should never feel forced to stay in the closet your whole life either. Come out whenever you feel like you're ready, it's all up to you.
Aayla
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Aug 13, 2019
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There's no right or wrong time to do it. You can do that whenever you feel ready and you think that the freedom of being who you are openly would be a bigger comfort for you than keeping hiding.
aremedy4memory
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May 16, 2015
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Whenever we feel ready to do so,whenever we are certain we know who we are and are alright with it,so it's different depending on the person
hopefulmax
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Jun 30, 2015
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Whenever you know it's safe to come out and when you're sure about your sexuality (you don't need to label yourself if you're confused). Whenever you know how to do it and when you're sure you can do it.
