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KaleighSkys
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Would it be weird if I proposed?
Relationship Stress / by KaleighSkys
Last post
 January 29th
...See more So this might be a bit of a long post but I've been stressing over if I should propose to my boyfriend. We're coming up on our 10 year anniversary and at this point I'm not sure if he's ever going to propose. I do say this after we have thoroughly discussed marriage over the years and both agree that we do want to be married one day. We even discussed marriage and proposals a few months ago as one our friends just got engaged and another is planning a wedding I'll be a bridesmaid in. He still seems very much like he'd like to get married when we're ready. I mean the only reason we haven't just signed papers and planned a wedding later when we can afford it, is that financially it would be more of a burden right now. He's still in college so the financial burden of taking him on my health insurance would make it very difficult to keep up with bills. I had the thought of proposing to him over 5 years ago but held off as we were only in our early 20's, I was only half way through college, and he said he'd prefer to wait for that next step after I finish college. I graduated almost 2 years ago now. I get that he's busy focusing on school now and we've had some expenses he's helped with. We have our own apartment now and just bought a car together a few months ago after his old car died. I guess I say all this and want to phrase that I am very happy with my relationship and have been planning our lives around us always being together. We have very clear communication and I have always felt so loved and accepted by him. So would it be crazy or weird if I proposed to him at this point? We're going on a trip in May with some friends and I fell like it would be the perfect time. I have also outright asked if there were any hesitations or reasons he wouldn't want to be engaged. I even asked if the idea of being engaged or getting married made him uncomfortable for any reason. All of that was met with a no, so I don't think there's really anything else I can do at this point. I am very worried I put too much pressure on him, but again I've done everything I can to make sure it's something we both want, which still seems to be the case. I guess maybe because we're almost 30 and I'm seeing my friends start to get married now, that I really want that now too. I know it shouldn't matter so much and at the end of the day I still love him and could never imagine my life with anyone else. Maybe I should be asking if I'm crazy for caring so much? Sorry for the long rambling but definitely needed to vent if nothing else. Also tldr: Should I propose to my boyfriend of 10 years since I'm tired of waiting?
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Support while waiting for a diagnosis
ADHD Support / by KaleighSkys
Last post
 September 23rd, 2024
...See more Hello all! I'm in my late 20's and finally seeking an ADHD diagnosis. I have my first appointment in a month and honestly I'm terrified. I spent my whole life thinking I don't have adhd only for my symptoms to get worse after graduating college last year. Just wonder if anyone else feel like horrible dread and anxiety leading up to their appointments? I'm so worried I'll forget to mention something or that I'm crazy for doing this because I don't have adhd. I was tested when I was little but my result were pretty much inconclusive. They wanted me to get treated for depression then get reevaluated for adhd, which my parents never did. I've been working with a really great therapist for my anxiety and depression throughout my 20's so I feel like I'm in a much better place now. However, I still have issues that are making my work life difficult that line up with adhd, and reflecting back, were pervasive while I was in school. I may have just been able to "handle it better" with the structure of school, but now with a full time job, it feels unmanageable. Just hoping I'm not alone in this as I'm so scared what the results will be. I fell like if I do get diagnosis it may give some relief and more targeted therapy. If I don't have adhd though I'm terrified of what that might mean and how I'll go about working through my symptoms. Any advice or similar stories are appreciated!
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Weight loss tips?
Healthy Living / by KaleighSkys
Last post
 October 27th, 2023
...See more So I started using Noom about a month ago now and I know that's not a lot of time for any drastic improvement. But I've been eating so much healthier now and have been going for walks everyday, I've lost 6 pounds already but that's where it stops. For the past 3 weeks my weight has been going up and down and I just can't seem to get past that 6 pounds no matter what I do. I'm feeling so discouraged right now and feels like I'll never be able to achieve a healthy weight. Seeing if anyone has any tips that kept them going or helped them out.
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Struggling to lose weight
Healthy Living / by KaleighSkys
Last post
 October 6th, 2023
...See more I guess I'm looking for some helpful motivation or tips that will help me get on a healthier track. I'm only in my late 20's but I'm so disgusted with my body now. I've gained 70lbs through the course of my twenties and I can't even stand to look at myself anymore. I've started using Noom to help log my food and I've noticed I'm not as hungry anymore when I stay within my calories. But it's so hard weighing myself everyday and see the number fluctuate. I know it will be a long journey but I have like zero self esteem right now. I'm feel so self conscious going for walks which doesnt help. I want to get back into yoga but I still live with my parents, this means the only space I have to work out is my tiny room. It's so hard to build up motivation to lose weight when it feels like it's just not an easy thing to do right now. I really need to start trying harder though because my mental health is suffering very badly, I just don't know how to develope a good routine or an healthier life style right now.
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Long term relationship stress
Relationship Stress / by KaleighSkys
Last post
 July 13th, 2023
...See more I guess I just need a place to vent. I've been feeling really stressed and depressed as I started an internship this summer. It's led to me being a bit depressed because, even though I like the place I'm working at, I realized that even with the really great pay I'm getting, I still won't be able to afford to move out when I graduate college and start a full time job at the end of this year. I guess me worrying about this and complaining a lot has worn on my boyfriend. Last night he told me how I need to stop complaining so much and appreciate what I have, this is a conversation we've had before. It's just so hard when I've been working so hard to better my life and I'm not seeing any better results. But it hurts hearing him telling me how stressful I am when I've been working so hard, I feel like everything I'm doing is pointless. I just feel so depressed and defeated right now. Like there's things about him that stress me out or annoy me but I just didn't feel like it was my place to say such things, I mean we've been in a relationship for over 7 years now I figured we'd be more accepting of each other's flaws by now.
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Burned out college student
Student Support / by KaleighSkys
Last post
 February 12th, 2023
...See more Just a 25yr old senior college student looking for some advice. I'm in my last full time semester with 3 classes left to take in the fall, finally graduating in December. I'm an accounting major which means I took a minor to get 150 credits in case I want to get my CPA. Anyways I've been in school forever and I don't know if it because of that or that the work load is just too much, but I really feel like I'm just losing my mind this semester. I've basically been describing my life as constantly working to anyone that ask how I'm doing. I'm in school all week with an hour drive to campus each way. I'm working on assignments from the moment I get up until I have to go to bed. The weekend comes and I'm working my part time retail, then doing assignments when I get home. I feel like I'm always working or busy in some capacity this semester and I think it's quite literally driving me insane. I can't sleep anymore because I can't stop thinking of all the assignments I need to do. I've debated quiting my retail job so
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No Libido
Relationship Stress / by KaleighSkys
Last post
 November 16th, 2021
...See more So I'm really glad I found this thread because I feel like it's a better place for this. I've been exploring my sexuality recently due to my lack of sex drive and was questioning if I could be asexual or gray ace. I'm not sure that's quite the case as I think I've experienced sexual attraction and that really asexuality having nothing to do with libido. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now and my lack of libido is really straining our relationship after all these years. It's not that I hate the idea of having sex with him or that I just don't want to have sex, it's like I just don't get that urge to have sex anymore and it just makes the whole experience uncomfortable for me. What's even worse is it makes my boyfriend feel like I hate having sex with him, he's told me he knows that's not the case but it's hard to not think that way. I feel awful because anytime we try to have sex, he always has to initiate it and it always ends up going nowhere as he feels he's forcing me to do it. When we first started dating, I enjoyed having sex with him but now I just don't care for sex in anyway anymore. He's been really patient and understanding all this time but I'm so worried he wont wait around for much longer while I try to figure myself out. I'm so frustrated because I want to feel that spark again and enjoy having sex but I just get so uncomfortable anytime we try now, I don't even like to talk about sex anymore either. I'm just so uncomfortable with all of it now, I'm just at such a loss as to what I should do. I'm only 24 so I really don't feel like I should be feeling like this at my age. I really just don't know what I can do to get myself interested in sex again.
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Bad Anxiety Day
Anxiety Support / by KaleighSkys
Last post
 August 19th, 2021
...See more I hope this is the right place for this but I'm having a bad anxiety day and no one to talk to about it. It always helps to get it off my chest but I tend to overwhelmed everyone when I do. A little background, I'm 23 and have been dealing with anxiety my whole life, I've learned to manage it some but it's still a work in progress. The only person I really have to talk to about my anxieties is my boyfriend of 5 years now and of course sometimes it gets to be too much for him and I understand that completely. Honestly today is just a whole mix of general anxiety. I don't know I feel like I'm going to sound really selfish but it's so hard keeping my anxiety under control. So one of my boyfriends little brother's close friends just passed away and I'm trying my best to support my boyfriend and his family right now by helping in anyway I can. The thing that sucks is my birthday is in 2 days and I told my parents I don't want to celebrate it until after the wake/funeral and they weren't as understanding. I think I was able to get them to hold off but I'm going to feel so horrible getting all the happy birthday messages while my boyfriends family is grieving. On top of this I have a million things I have to get done before I move in a few weeks to live closer to my university and having to put this on hold to help my boyfriends family is leaving me feeling extremely overwhelmed. I feel so selfish and awful for feeling this way because someone just passed away but it's like my anxiety takes the reigns and I just kind of have to follow it. I'm trying so hard to keep it together and keep these feelings under control but I just feel so selfish and guilty for having them at all. I don't know is there anyway I can manage this situation and my feelings better because I just feel all kinds of awful right now.
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