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Sad, divorced and never sure of my choice
Relationship Stress / by tragickitty
Last post
 August 15th, 2020
...See more Hi, I divorced my best friend. After 1.5 years of marriage and 8 years being in a long term relationship, I left him. He was caring, kind and loved me. I was unfulfilled, sad and no longer sexually attracted at all... (not just a dip, but a total loss of all sexual desire for him, I was like a house plant.. I'd rather never have sex than have sex with him). Not based on his appearance, he's handsome. But the vibe we've transformed into is 100% companionship without passion/desire. I am 28 years old, living alone in a foreign city without any family or close friends nearby. I cry everytime I am not distracted with work or spending times with friends. He would take me back in a heart beat and somedays I feel so lonely and sad that I tell myself: you made a mistake go back to him. But then i think I will eventually slump back into this weird feeling that I am unhappy and unfulfilled. It's so painful not understanding myself. I really wish he was enough for me. I am confused about my choice and sad all the time.
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28 divorced and confused .. help?
Relationship Stress / by tragickitty
Last post
 January 26th, 2021
...See more I'm 28. Divorced my husband 1 month ago. We've been together and best friends for the past 8 years. Was Married for just 1.5 years. I found myself unhappy romantically. He's the most kind and caring person. He would always love me and always care for me. We had a perfect companionship. Loved the same things and to the world looking in we were perfect. Over time I began to lose the ability to find passion and desire towards him. Our friendship was perfect but our romance was not. I'm a loyal person normally and never cheated before. But I have kissed two people while drunk partying and the. Developed a relationship with a coworker. I'm basically a piece of shit but I'm aware already so please not hate. Trust me no one could be more disgusted with my behavior than myself. I divorced my husband because I couldn't give him the love he deserves and it wasn't fair to either of us to live like this. Now I continue to see my coworker. I love him I think but he's got his own issues. He's everything I want in the passion department but the companionship doesn't even come close to what I shared with my husband. Tonight I lay alone crying and confused. Have a ruined my life? Will I have someone again as sweet as my husband? But I also know I need passion and I couldn't seem to find it with him 😢 any advice or story sharing is welcome. I also fear I'll never forgive myself for cheating.. it eats away at my soul everyday.
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Married at 26, considering divorce at 28
Relationship Stress / by tragickitty
Last post
 January 29th, 2021
...See more Hi everyone, Im 28 years old. I married my best friend when I was 26. We have all the ingredients of a partnership and a very deep friendship. But now I am realizing that its truly a deep friendship the butterflies have been dead possibly from the beginning or never existed but we had such a strong connection in values, hobbies, interests and general life goals that we ignored the fact romance and passion wasnt an ingredient in our relationship. He is more into me than I am into him. I find myself at a place now in which I feel guilty and sad 24/7. I feel trapped because I promised to love him forever but I dont feel fulfilled and I miss feeling affection .. I have myself convinced that having a relationship that has both ingredients is nearly impossible? Could I ever find someone who could love me and who I trust and who I get along with so well but also have a desire sexually and romantically for? I met my husband when I was 20, we have been together nearly 8 years and married for 1.5 years. Anyone out there with some advice for me? Ive felt unhappy and confused since 2-3 months after being married... I dont know why I never noticed until it was too late? Now Im stuck? I dont want to hurt anyone..
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How to tell someone you don
Relationship Stress / by tragickitty
Last post
 December 13th, 2019
...See more Hi everyone, Im 27, married for 1 year and a few months. I feel like Ive fallen out of love with my husband. I have no passion or desire to be intimate with him. Its like somehow Ive changed.. hes not the romantic type and I find myself wanting more and more romance. We live our days barely speaking, no sex, hes kind and sweet but Im not attracted to him anymore. I feel like Ive fallen out of love. Ive also barely had any experience dating Ive only had 3 relationships. I feel like I havent completely discovered myself. I thought I had my life figured out and I thought he was my soulmate but here I am.. basically since we got married Ive struggled with these feelings. I feel guilty and sad 24/7. I dont know how to do whats right for me and him. Anyone have advice for me?
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Affair to functional relationship?
Relationship Stress / by tragickitty
Last post
 December 9th, 2019
...See more Who here has been in an affair, left your partner for the ‘other man or other woman and how did it work out? Was it something you regretted? I am married, trapped in a loveless relationship. Both of us have given up on doing anything that you do when in a relationship. Neither of us make any effort. I met someone, fell in love and now I live a secret life and Im completely head over heels for the other man. he loves me too but he is a bit complicated. He is scared to commit to me. He is afraid of not being independent anymore. He hasnt had a serious relationship in 7 years. Hes been ‘the other man a few times so Im not his first taken person hes been with. I am curious to know your thoughts and similar experiences? lets talk :)
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Eat pray love and divorce?
Relationship Stress / by tragickitty
Last post
 March 9th, 2025
...See more Hi All, I
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Divorce or take a break?
Relationship Stress / by tragickitty
Last post
 November 14th, 2019
...See more Hi all, I am 27 and married for 1 year. I met my husband when I was 20 and weve been strong and together the last 7 years. however I am changing.. I want other men. I am unhappy and confused. he doesnt do anything romantic anymore. Its like living with my best friend. Not someone I am in love with. I dont know when I changed but now Im in so much pain everyday feeling like I am not fulfilled and happy. hes so kind and in every way possible is everything someone would want in a husband. But we dont have any romance or passion anymore and I have no desire to be sexual with him nothing about him turns me on.. any advice? Help? Anyone else have something similar?
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Married and out of love
Relationship Stress / by tragickitty
Last post
 October 30th, 2019
...See more Hi all, im 27, been with my partner for 7 years and married for 1 year. I feel like I have fallen out of love with him. I no longer have a feeling of intimacy or desire towards him. Our life together has become very boring, everyday we work then eat in silence and then watch tv or on our devices and dont speak, even if we do attend an event together or travel it all feels not exciting and I dont feel happy. He hasnt done anything wrong, hes only been good to me. Looking at us from an unbiased view most people would say were a good couple and we have everything we could ever want. We live a luxury life for our age and have been blessed with our good careers and education. As I reflect more and more about my situation I realize that our passion/chemistry/spark was never very bright to begin with.. hes the kind of guy who is everything youd want in a boyfriend except the sex appeal... hes kind, caring, funny, smart but I am not attracted to him in a sexual way and I dont remember ever being in that ‘honeymoon stage where you have a lot of sex in the beginning etc lol it never happened like that. Its never been steamy. Now I find myself caring for him as a family member or best friend rather than a partner... which leads me to part 2, I am having an affair with a coworker.. can anyone shed some light? Some advice? Also try not to just focus on the fact I am a bad person aka the affair.. because I already know I am disgusting and awful.
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