50+ community Check-in Oct. 21-24, 2019
A wonderful Monday to everyone in our 50+ family 
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Today I have just one question for you:
What really matters in your life?
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@amiablePeace77
Fullfiing my plan, my daughter, my son, S, myself, make others happy or less sad, myself... My family in Argentina. My famiy in Mexico. My friends.
1. Not necesarily in that order.
2. Maybe more things, but cannot remember them now.
"Many thoughts are automatic and occur without prompting."
@ThankYouForLettingMeTryingToHelp
Wonderful that you have those people in your life! Nothing matters more (to me) than having people around you with whom you feel comfortable with.
@amiablePeace77
@amiablePeace77 I love this question!!!! So many variables! This is a question that has changed through the different seasons and circumstances of life. Right now small everyday simple moments matter the most.
@mutter3 it is true that things keep changing but simple moments matter.
@mutter3
mutter,great that you can appreciate the small simple things in life, those are the ones which bring true contentment in my opinion.
I'm not sure anything matters I feel like I'm just taking up space
@LostanLonely
I can understand. A true friend would really matter if there was one.
@LostanLonely I am sorry you feel that way. Sometimes, we require deeper thinking to start seeing the smaller things that we forget to count up.
@LostanLonely
Lonely, You Matter. Sometimes we get stuck and it feels nothing matters anymore. Maybe talking to a listener 1:1 could help?
@amiablePeace77
Im working with one and she is great I just lost my mom so things don't seem to matter the same there are so many things I still had to say a do with her
@LostanLonely- So sorry for your loss- especially your mother. Keep in communication with your listener- and reaching out to others. We really do care for you.
@LostanLonely
Such a huge loss changes everything. So sorry to hear Hugs. I am glad that you found support here. Have you thought about writing a letter to your mom with everything you wanted to tell her (and not sending it) ? Sending you loving healing vibes
what matters to me is having joy in my life.
@MissPen Thanks for sharing! I think joy comes in many forms and so it is great that you mention it
@MissPen
MissPen, nice to see you again. I agree, having joy in life matters and makes everything so much easier to bear.
What really matters in your life? Whoo, many things. Enough money to pay bills and buy groceries, my girlfriend loving me, job satisfaction (until I retire), my daughter doing well; a good question, thank for asking.
@Offmytrack Thanks for sharing your answers. I hope you can keep everything in balance.
@Offmytrack
Those are truly good things to matter and to be grateful for.
WHat matters in my life?? Friends and family,, community. And of course my horses- LOVE riding and working with horses-learning to communicate with a huge animal nonverbally has been an amazing journey.
@barncat wow, thank you so much for sharing about the horses, it sounds like a wonderful relationship to have
@barncat
Great barncat, family, friend and community make us feel welcome on this planet but also animals. Horses are such sensitive animals and can communicate with us very well if we listen to them.
Right now, getting the help I need, dealing with some tough issues and trying not to do anything I will regret. Just keeping moving forward. But sometimes its hard and I am very sensitive to words and feelings.
@Lauren63
I am glad that you are taking care of yourself and get the help you need. I find being sensitive has good sides but yeah, it can be overpowering too. Hope you will feel more balanced next week.
@amiablePeace77 Bringing joy and kindness to others. If I just try to satisfy myself, I just never seem to get enough. But when I give that spark of joy to others, it lights up my life.
@soulsings
Beautiful soul. I find making someone smile or feel helped warms my heart, it's a wonderful reward.
@amiablePeace77 being successfull.
@gentleSun78
Hope you will achieve your goals Sun 🤞
Feeling extremely lonely and alone. My chronic spinal pain issues have been preventing me from doing much more than hobbling to the restroom and kitchen and back to bed. I have thinking a lot about mother and father that are both gone as I am going to turn 57 next month Thanksgiving week. It makes cry the pain of the loss never goes away it just comes back to haunt me when I am at my lowest point and wish I had a parent to talk to that would tell me what they know I need to hear.💔
@bgdave I am sorry for the loss of your parents. It is a whole new world without the people who brought us into the world and were there all our lives. They helped us when no one else cared. It is a bond that when broken must hurts a lot.
We do have discussions that people can drop in on and hang out with people. It may help give a feeling of being part of the community. Link is here; https://www.7cups.com/forum/50OverCommunity_193/TeamToolsandTeamUpdates_1705/50plusDiscussionsScheduleandTopics_207920/
@bgdave
You suffered a massive loss by loosing both partents. I hope coming here especially when things feel so bad will help to get through that time.
I too have wrestled with chronic pain. I have found solutions. Im experiencing a set back right now but have planned action steps for resolving the set back. I hope you find solutions. I would share mine yet am not sure if that is allowed here. @bgdave
@Sedtzl I am sorry you are in chronic pain. You can discuss things here but for more in depth discussions on challenges we face, we have this forum https://www.7cups.com/forum/50OverCommunity_193/ChallengesWeFace_1702/
