50+ community Weekend Check-in March 19-21, 2021
Happy Friday to all of you, how was your week? 
Today, I like to invite everyone to post one or more self-statements to counteract some of your negative thoughts, example
“This is too difficult” - “I've managed harder things before” “I'll do the best I can”
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I arranged for a new therapist via my job's EAP program. I am proud of myself.
@Spielmanjr I am proud of you too💕 That's an important step to take when you feel the need. //Harmony
I can’t do this, yet. All I need is a little help. Breathe through it.
@yzzil
Great one, taking it step by step. Breathing is always helpful and no shame in asking for help either. //Harmony 🎶
Life, for me, is getting better all the time. I now have a nice house, a very good girlfriend, a new car. Life is good.
@Offmytrack Like that positive thinking. Things seems to be going well for you. I am happy to hear that. Take care //Harmony🎶
Things can get better
@HappyDucky8
I like that. Things can get better for sure. If we are open to change and willing to do the work. Take care //Harmony🎶
Life is getting better each day, anxiety is diminishing and fear gone. ☀️the sun is shining in my life again
@placidPlum3193 That sounds so positive and energizing. The sun is shining in my life again, beautifully worded. Have a great weekend ahead. // Harmony 🎶
@amiablePeace77
"I can do it"
"I will never, ever give up."
"No matter what has happened in the past, it can no longer run my life."
@soulsings
Yes, you can do it 💕 I like how you manage to put things in the past. We can't change the past, accept and look forward. Have a great weekend. // Harmony🎶
I have overcome some anxiety this week. I have accomplished some difficult tasks that I needed to finish.
@shyCranberry2308 Well done. Anxiety is a hard feeling to have and I'm glad you found some relief. I hope you feel proud you managed to do some thing that was hard that needed to be done. Good job! Enjoy your weekend💕 // Harmony🎶
This is my 1st post. Life is hard for me. I’m hoping that I can find comfort and perhaps growth through this space.
@cyanWriter5045
Hi there, nice that you are here with us! 💙 Congrats for doing your first post! 
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Sorry to hear that you're going through a rough time right now, hugs. I hope you will find the support you are looking for on this site, remember you can always connect to a listener if you like to share something more in detail. www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/.
@amiablePeace77, My life continues to be a river of mayhem, but I am trying to put one foot in front of the other and take it one step at a time.
@purpleTree4652 Putting one foot in front of the other and one step at the time sounds like a great thing to do when feeling like it's too much at the same time. It sort of help us keeping focus on moving forward. I am proud of you for being aböe to do that. Have a nice Sunday //Harmony🎶
@musicalHarmony, thank you for responding to my post. (hugs)
Grief, hurt, or absence isn't something I "get over". I carry those with me as move forward. The difference is that they no longer create a storm inside me. This is to say that I am incapable of erasing memories. I have some fond memories of a few people but I put them outside my life because of their actions in causing hurt or loss. I don't want to forget them but I couldn't let them remain in my life. That's part of what I mean about moving forward. I can carry grief and hurt as I move forward in life. It's when I don't push those toxic people away that the turmoil of pain continues within me, still affecting me. A few people are unavoidable. They live in my community. But I have been able to limit interacting with them. Seeing them will always put that image of sorrow in my mind. But because I don't let them influence me, I move forward carrying a past but not being in turmoil inside. So I don't believe that "getting over" a person or situation is possible. But I can move forward with my life without that influence. I'm still working on how it is I lose the influence of such pain. And to be fair, some kinds of pain I cannot imagine would ever stop influencing me. I have to be authentic and recognize that pain can be that severe. If I lost a child or both of them, I would be dishonest if I ever said that I would ever be able to distance that fury and sorry from affecting me. And I hope I never suffer loss that great. It could consume me. And quickly. I just feel I have to be honest with myself, and admit that life without depression may not be possible for everyone, or myself, because I am just a human. I also believe that even in the darkest depression, it is possible to for a hurt or loss to be not always all-consuming at least for a moment from time to time. Maybe for a moment, it's a little less consuming. I guess what I'm saying is I don't "get over" hurt or loss. I will remember those situations or people. But moving forward in life is about the steps I take to lessen or eliminate how such hurt or loss affects me. I'm also trying to understand what I just said, and still trying to believe it 100%. Maybe some doubt is a good thing. Adapting is important. I just don't see letting anyone ever tell me to "get over" something. I just find ways to move forward, accept what has happened, and gradually do those things that give me a new focus.
@FoolsSelf
Hi there, and thank you for your open thoughtful reply. I totally agree with you on the fact we cannot forget the things that have hurt us in the past but we can learn to live with them and move forward. From time to time we will be reminded and affected which is totally understandable. I'm glad you made a choice to push toxic people away to make you feel better. Sometimes we don't have that choice, but if we can it sure sounds like a thoughtful choice to do. So moving forward finding new focus is important. " There is a reason the rearview mirror is smaller than the windshield". You can't move forward safely if you only look in the rear mirror. I wish you a wonderful upcoming week <3 // Harmony 🎶
