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Preventing disappointments during the holiday season

User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 December 18th, 2025

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The vision of the perfect Christmas, with perfect meals, perfectly clean houses and happy families sets an unachievable bar. One way to reduce your expectations is to challenge them by reflecting on what truly matters to you and what you are willing to compromise on. This can help reduce pressure and disappointment.

What helps you to prevent disappointments during the holiday season?


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User Profile: Lauren63
Lauren63 December 18th, 2025

I try not to have too high expectations of what the holidays should be like.

User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 December 19th, 2025

@amiablePeace77

What helps you to prevent disappointments during the holiday season?    

I try to not have too high of expectations and take the small wins and let other things go. i have found i have in the past expected too much 


User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 December 19th, 2025

@amiablePeace77

I take each day as it comes.

I try to stay in the present and not put too much pressure on it to be anything !

I also like Abit of spontaneity 💚🥰

User Profile: akunknown
akunknown December 19th, 2025

@amiablePeace77

What helps you to prevent disappointments during the holiday season?    

Celebrating the holidays with my best friend aka myself. Whenever I’m with myself I’m just always too happy to be disappointed to be honest. 

User Profile: soulsings
soulsings December 19th, 2025

@amiablePeace77 What helps you to prevent disappointments during the holiday season?

I do not have high expectations. I hope to bring a little joy to some people. I am trying to not think of getting but instead asking myself  "what do I have to give."

User Profile: WharfRat
WharfRat December 19th, 2025

What helps you to prevent disappointments during the holiday season?

I expect to have a lousy time, and I do have a lousy time.


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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 December 19th, 2025

@WharfRat

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User Profile: passionateEast6959
passionateEast6959 December 19th, 2025

@WharfRat actually in all seriousness that sounds like a great strategy. Not expecting much sets the bar low so anything over that is a success.

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User Profile: passionateEast6959
passionateEast6959 December 19th, 2025

@amiablePeace77 I needed to hear this so much today I feel so overwhelmed and put so much pressure on myself.

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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 December 19th, 2025

@passionateEast6959


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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP December 19th, 2025

@passionateEast6959

I hope you feel better now 🫂

Self-compassion break for kids (I find also for adults though) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LM-hZia0V_A

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User Profile: thoughtfulmomma
thoughtfulmomma December 19th, 2025

@amiablePeace77

I tend to have high expectations around Christmas because I want everything to be perfect and for the whole family to be together and that we’d all have fun like we used to years ago.

It doesn’t happen, and I have to tell myself each year that things change. People get older, move away, spend holidays with others…

I hold on to all the family traditions and hate when they don’t happen.

I’m working on it and myself to be more realistic and happy just to be together with whomever can gather.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP December 19th, 2025

@thoughtfulmomma

I think it's normal to want to repeat those good times but as you mentioned life changes and sometimes it just doesn't happen. Good that you're working on accepting it. 

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User Profile: eternalHero77
eternalHero77 December 21st, 2025

@amiablePeace77 Having my mom, husband, ex and other loved ones back with me as they and my family go throughout rockerfellow center to see the Christmas tree from there head to radio city to see the Christmas show. Head down to soho to go to our family church for mid night mass go home open presents enjoy a good Christmas show on tv, laugh, play Christmas music, recite the rosary together as family play board games and eat a delicious meal made by my mom. Have my son put together his music he created all him to sing for us. Maybe better is we can even do some meditation and exercise. 

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP December 22nd, 2025

@eternalHero77

That sounds truly beautiful! I hope though that you will still have a nice and enjoyable Christmas even if it's not your dream Christmas.

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eternalHero77 December 23rd, 2025

@amiablePeace77 Well maybe not  the one I dream of and yet every year I would be sad they werent around but this year I am doing it different by remembering the good times I spend with them. I know where they are in heaven I know they are watching over me and protecting me interceding for me b’fore god so positivty and having good memories is what I focus on this year. I Chat About each of them and its like yea they will always live within me. Them in my life also has a lot to do with who I am today and thats the gift they gave me.

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amiablePeace77 OP December 23rd, 2025

@eternalHero77

I believe it's a nice tribute to them to remember the good times you all spent together!

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User Profile: okeyyyy
okeyyyy December 21st, 2025

@amiablePeace77 what this is mainly a fantasy from movies and media , for we aspire for ideal, but the point is make the best we can and enjoy what we have. Same goes with everything learn to accept what we can achieve. Not to strive for less but just do our best and be happy with what we got, I think is would be the main take away of holidays to rejoice in what we have , gratitude, positivity.🥰😗☺️😛

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP December 22nd, 2025

@okeyyyy

"be happy with what we got" = Thank you for this powerful reminder! 

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User Profile: okeyyyy
okeyyyy December 24th, 2025

@amiablePeace77 thanks so glad :) yay 🥰🙃

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