How to be a nicer person
We all want to be nice not only to ourselves, but to others, and sometimes it works, while other times it is hard to be nice. Being nice is when we practice Empathy, and through active listening. We give compliments to those who are nice to you by saying " thank you" " I appreciate that".
Developing kindnessinvolves understaqnding what someone says through their body language, feelings, and giving a person the benefit of the doubt.
Mindset and Empathy:
practice empathy: put yourself in their shows to see and feel what their saying. This let's you see how they feel and where their coming from.
give the benefit of the doubt: try not to jump to conclusions on what someone is saying when they talk to you.
find the positive: look for the good in people. Everyone makes mistakes and mistakes can be settled using proper solutions.
be self-compassionate: show compassion, show you really care when someone is talking to you. When responding to someone tell them your sorry for what their going through and try to help them get through it.
Actions and Communication:
listen actively: pay close attention to their body movements, and how their talking. You can clarify by asking questions to what they have said, so you understand better.
show appreciation: Show the person talking you care, by the kind words you use, and relaying back things they have said to you. This shows the person you actually are listening to them.
help out: give them help but do not go overboard with promises. Sometimes you want to do all you can, but we need to also look out for yourself.
be polite: the person is going through a hard time and yelling is not going to help them. Being polte in a calm manner shows they do not have to be afraid of you.
be present: talk to the person who needs you face to face, by talking when not together makes them feel your not being helpful.
do not take their problems on: sometimes we want to take on other peoples problems, but that will not show them how to fix the problem. Also, taking on their problem can put stress and anxiety on you.
How can you be nicer to other people?
How can you be nicer to yourself?
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@pamharley003
I try to put myself in another persons shoes to see how I would feel in a given situation.
Self reflection is key.
My motto is being humble.
Always apologise when you are wrong.
If you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing 💚
“Do not take their problems on”
This is the biggest problem I have and if i could stop doing it, that would be one amazing way to be nicer to myself.
As for being nicer to everyone else, I already try to be more compassionate but I need to focus on being more patient with people.
@thoughtfulmomma
I do that all the time take other peoples problems on and I am never able to fix my own. So this year I will be there to listen but their needing to fix or find a solution to their problems
Me too but im getting better with it...
@pamharley003 I feel like this is the post so many more people need to read, thank you for sharing :)
@pamharley003 I always do my best to put myself in another persons shoes. However it doesn’t always work. Twice I tried helping someone. The first one was blind I decided to ask him if he needed help crossing the street. He ended up cussing me out. The second one was in a wheel chair off whom I also went to help. He ended up yelling at me and going after me with his wheelchair chattin’ me he would run after me till he knocked me down. Now on the reverse side there were 2 homeless guys. One it was around Christmas time. He had seen me many times walking with my children so I gave him 5.00 bout 2 weeks later he was in a bagel shop I sometimes went to. Sure to how he treated people the staff at the restaurant would allow him at night to sit in there to get a little shut eye. I go in he tells the workers how I’m a good person ands to give me what I Wanna ABs he would pay for it. He then came over to me and gave me back my 5.00 chattin’ me I had children and needed it more. The other one saw me exit church of whom I had also given 5.00 to we had never seen each other before. Maybe bout 2 months later I visited that very same church when I got a few feet away from him when I hear someone yelling Miss. I turn and he beckons for me to go over to him. He too returned my 5.00. Every so often although I can’t give much AB’s I definitely can’t help everyone. Sometimes all it is I give is 0.50 cents. Many of the homeless are not as bad as some people make them out to be. They may sleep on the streets and all but there’s some that can be very decent and respectful. I’ve even maybe 3-4 times tho I might not have directly given money if I saw I could afford it I would buy a breakfast sandwich or lunch. During Christmas and Thanksgiving there was one woman who was always around. My husband would make the usual Thanksgiving And Christmas meal. Of cause we would eat first but b’fore putting everything in the fridge we would make up a plate AB’s go to her with the meal for the holidays. Sometimes my husband would also give her a few cigarettes.
Looking for the good in people has screwed me over.
@pamharley003
How can you be nicer to other people? Not react to what they say with anger - irritation - frustration etc.
How can you be nicer to yourself? Don't judge myself when I make mistakes in decision making. Just revise your strategy.
Well, I am always a nice person but not after being mistreated horribly
(I still am nice and compassionate but they were limited because of that)
@pamharley003 For most part its easy being nice. it doesnt take much effort if you treat others the way you wanna be treated. Some people tho can make being nice difficult when theyre mean and abusive..Those people at time ware out the niceness in me but only with them. Just ‘cause they treat me miserably doesnt mean misdirect I on another person and dont let their meaness change who I am who is nice caring and considerate of people
Nicee !
@pamharley003
How can you be nicer to other people?
Is easier to be good with others when you treat yourself well, when you are relax. Listen to them , try not to judge, let them be. I think that since i value connection, sometimes no need for empty words, but sometimes being present with them listening, connecting, talking and enjoying the conversation. Sorry i come from day 13 recovery past surgery from acl anterior cross ligament, so seeing people and being able to talk to people feels so satisfying ,after feeling like i revived corona lock down for 13 days.
How can you be nicer to yourself?
1 Relax, understand that getting work out or angry gets you nowhere, and solves nothing. 2. Dont overdo with activities, take time to relax and enjoy the present moment, to ground, to breathe, to enjoy what you are doing at the current moment. Is easy to fantasize about doing endless tasks, but we can only do one task at a time. Trying to do more just makes you do multiple tasks badly, and gets you nowere and so relaxing and enjoy the thing you do .
