Porn
I have a very bad porn addiction that grew from me having access to the internet at a very young age and lately my thoughts and urges have gotten more and more out of hand to the point where the things I’m thinking about/watch are becoming borderline p3do content and I’m scared there’s something wrong with me and I’m constantly disgusted at my own thoughts and have self harmed multiple times because of the thoughts and urges I keep having. I really want to get get better but I don’t know how. I just need someone (a female😓) to talk to about this and what I no to do.
@sleepysai I'm saddened by the situation you're in, I understand porn can be a problematic addiction and can cause to be further problematic if not cured. I hope you find the kind of listener you wish for but I don't think most females are willing to talk about this addiction and your journey could get tougher. I'm here for you and together we could help you get better and get you out from the clutches of porn.
I work with people on a 1-to-1 basis regarding this addiction, and your story is shared by millions across the globe. You are part of the first generation ever to go though this. Your tastes have escalated to a point which makes you ashamed and disgusted, yet when the craving arises, you will be pulled back into it. I am here to chat about this, but if we don’t talk, just remember that an urge isn’t a command - it’s just a signal, and like any signal, it can be acknowledged without being obeyed. Your power will come when you realise you don’t have to act on every impulse.
Hey David. I'm going through a similar experience with the OP. Your words resonate hard with me. The porn industry has taken so much from me and is breeding a new generation of potential abusers. I'd love to chat more in depth with you if you ever have the time
hey there sorry i’m 7 months late- but certainly open to chat, and i agree with what you say about it creating a whole new generation of potential abusers- not to be dramatic, but if i were president, i’d declare a ‘war on porn’ and declare the porn-addiction epidemic a state of emergency
Hey there , I just wanted to chime in because I know exactly the pain, the frustration and the self loathing that manifests itself in self harm and negative inner critic talk and I want to tell you that there is hope. And I know You may not Believe me the same way I did not believe the people that told me there was hope but here I am almost one year, sober from sex , masturbation and porn . So if you’re interested in hearing what helped for me please reach out , although just to be clear I am a male and to respect your request for a female but This disease does not discriminate between genders, and in my recovery I interacted with male and females alike . So there is no shame I know that’s easy for me to say that the shame that’s the killer. So remember you are a precious child of God and as we say here in Sexaholics anonymous , we’re not bad people becoming better were sick people becoming healthier. Please feel free and at ease to reach out anytime you want all the best !!!Hey there , I just wanted to chime in because I know exactly the pain, the frustration and the self loathing that manifests itself in self harm and negative inner critic talk and I want to tell you that there is hope. And I know You may not Believe me the same way I did not believe the people that told me there was hope but here I am almost one year, sober from sex , masturbation and porn . So if you’re interested in hearing what helped for me please reach out , although just to be clear I am a male and to respect your request for a female but This disease does not discriminate between genders, and in my recovery I interacted with male and females alike . So there is no shame I know that’s easy for me to say that the shame that’s the killer. So remember you are a precious child of God and as we say here in Sexaholics anonymous , we’re not bad people becoming better were sick people becoming healthier. Please feel free and at ease to reach out anytime you want all the best !!!
@sleepysai hey, i totally get where you're coming from. and there are numerous ways to try and get out of such situations, ranging from blocking certain websites and forcing yourself to never see them, to learning self-control and stop yourself from doing it even if it was available.
i know that it's a difficult thing to say, and im quite literally in the same place as you. but i'm willing to take this seriously and put an end to it. do you want to hold each other accountable?
If you’re an addict like me those forcing yourself and as it’s called “ white knuckling “ doesn’t work . It may work for a certain amount of time but eventually you explode and the cycle repeats itself again and again . So if you really feel that what you tried until now didn’t work and you are interested in a new way please reach out . I’m an addict , sex , porn , masturbation , lust , anything to get me out of the here and now and I’m grateful to say that I’m hitting one year sober very soon
@passionateThinker4782 thank you so much for your words, and i'll definitely search up what it is sometime soon. unfortunately, however, i am a teen and im not comfortable talking to adults regarding this topic or any direct messages at all to them (its just a personal choice!) but still, thank you so much for your help!!
I’m a 24 year old single guy, and I do respect your boundaries . I just want to let you know that what worked for me is a 12 step program ( sexaholics anonymous) , I work the steps, go to meetings, speak with people everyday , fellowship , able to be vulnerable and honest and honestly I’m living a happy life right now. I’m not saying that it’s for you but it’s definitely worth looking into. Best of luck and my prayers. Remember that your life is just beginning, and you deserve a good life!!!
@passionateThinker4782 thank you so much for your understanding!! and i'll have to look into this now, wow! thanks a ton for your help!!
Same😔😔
Same😔😔
You can't change on your own, Even me when I was addicted to something, though, it is better for me not to say (not drugs btw or any gambling or things involving money). You need to keep your mind busy at all times, A life outside of porn. For me what changed me was the God of MCGI. For others, it might be through NoFap community and holding each other countable. Remember that some people on NoFap community might be extreme with their beliefs like some dont allow theselves to cvm at all and some disallow edging, You need people with you who are going through the same. People who know what it is like to be addicted to porn.
May the God of MCGI be with you ❤️🙏
Impulse control is the most important thing you can put in place now. Something to remember about your brain:
The neurons that fire together, wire together. This is why porn addiction is so destructive to people - it essentially realigns your brain's reward system to connect directly to your porn preferences, the act of watching porn, etc. This is partly how some kinks/fetishes are born.
You can rewire this system. It takes time, patience, and a lot of insight into yourself - but it is doable.
If you find yourself really struggling with this, there are therapists who specialise in this sort of stuff, too.
i hear you and there’s no judgement ❤️ but please be careful and try to avoid that kind of content i just watched a video last night of a guy struggling with this same issue and he got arrested and the sad part about it is that unfortunately he will be labeled a sex offender because of it for the rest of his life. if you can, i urge you to please seek some professional help for this. recognizing that you have this problem is the first step i pray that the Lord help you break free from these chains and that He may give you the strengh you need to keep going ❤️🩹
Love seeing people offering help 1 to 1 on this subject is there anybody fairly active about this subject..?