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Conquering Anxiety: Exposure Therapy

User Profile: Hope
Hope May 21st, 2024

Hi everyone! I hope you are doing well. It is a new week and that means it is time for another post in the Conquering Anxiety series. Now comes the post as mentioned earlier on exposure therapy. So far we have been exploring how anxiety impacts our lives, reflecting on what things can be like if we can overcome it, learning about the cycle of anxiety,  practicing tools that can help us while we confront our anxiety, and exploring the role of diet and exercise. These posts acted as a foundation for our post of the week so if you have not taken part in all those, please follow the order of the series. 


Today we will talk about exposure therapy!

Why exposure therapy?

Exposure therapy is highly successful for people dealing with anxiety, with 60-90% of people reporting no or mild symptoms after treatment. Adding CBT, relaxation techniques, and other treatments can make it even more effective (Data taken from EBBP.org)


What is exposure therapy?

Simply put, it is a treatment method in which people are equipped with coping tools (like the ones we covered earlier) and asked to confront their fears. The trick however is to evaluate where you stand with your specific fear and just push a bit past that. For example, if you are terrified of driving and never touched your car after your accident or an unpleasant incident, start by just sitting in the car for 5-10 minutes, you should not drive it on a highway the first day because that is way past your comfort zone. 

While getting out of the comfort zone is crucial it should be done within reason and with the support of coping tools so that the person benefits from the experience. So you are picking a battle that you can win and you are going in armed! 


Here are key mistakes to avoid. 

  • Picking a task that is way beyond your current level (You will not go for a 10-mile run if you have never run in your life, similarly, we should build our tolerance to these challenging tasks, bit by bit)
  • Going in with no coping tools (Coping tools help you stay in the moment and aid in regulating your nervous system)
  • Not being consistent with your efforts. Pick something small but keep on working in the direction of conquering your anxiety, and make it a habit. 

📺Watch a video on the exposure Hierarchy


Here is an example of what exposure hierarchy looks like. 

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 Source: Stork, M. B. (n.d.). Exposure therapy for social anxiety: A practical guide to lasting change 


Task for members

  • Pick something you currently experience anxiety around and wish to conquer and create an exposure hierarchy for it  based on the information shared both in the video and the image above. Share with us your steps and tell us what step can you take this week towards conquering your fear. 


Task for listeners

  • Share one resource on exposure therapy from a reputable source. Please make sure its total reading time or if its a video, its under 5 minutes. 
  • Respond to one member on this thread with encouragement and support. 


Further Reading

Navigating the Comfort, Discomfort, and Panic Zones: A Guide to Growth

❗Disclaimer! Check with your therapist or other health care provider to see if exposure therapy is the right choice for you. 


📌I am looking for users who have done some work on managing their anxiety and are open to sharing what worked for them with us. This will be included in our learning from others post. Please reach out in PMs if you would like to contribute to that post. 


This post is part of the Conquering Anxiety series, you can find all posts of the series here. 

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User Profile: littleCoconut2419
littleCoconut2419 June 13th, 2024

While reading my heart was skipping out of fear 😆

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User Profile: Hope
Hope OP June 15th, 2024

@littleCoconut2419

Haha I can relate to that. This is challenging work!

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User Profile: xxParkerxx
xxParkerxx June 15th, 2024

Talking in public places is an anxiety I am forever working on. I don't use exposure hierarchies because they stress me out. 

This week I am going job hunting and so will need to expose myself to new people and embarrassing myself.

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User Profile: Hope
Hope OP June 15th, 2024

@NovaIsNB

What part of the exposure hierarchy do you find stressful?

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User Profile: Anee00
Anee00 June 16th, 2024

Hey, I'm all good till point 6. But my struggle starts from point 7 till 10 in your given example.

User Profile: yellowPineapple3652
yellowPineapple3652 June 16th, 2024

I have tremendous anxiety about exercise and being injured.  I have been obese and never seriously exercise for long, but I want to get control of this fear and make healthy choices so I can make lasting change.  I want to be strong and healthy.  


10. Do a 10k walk/run

9.  Do a 5k walk/run

8. Jog for short intervals during an outdoor walk

7. Go on a planned walk with a friend or family member

6. Share with others that I am exercising and learning new ways to take care of my body

5. Try a new workout type in my app, not just walk/stretch

4.Do a stretching workout and follow it with a walking workout

3. Do a yoga or gentle stretching workout for 5-7 minutes 

2.  Use my app to set new goals, add a widget on my phone for reminder

1.  Go back into my workout app and look at my steps for the last week


Here is a video that has helped me: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m3-O7gPsQK0

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User Profile: Hope
Hope OP June 28th, 2024

@yellowPineapple3652

Thank you for sharing with us. I can empathize with that challenge. 

I hope you were able to make some progress!

User Profile: CreativeKombucha
CreativeKombucha June 30th, 2024

@yellowPineapple3652

It's understandable why you would feel anxious about getting injured when exercising.   You have a very good reason to feel worried.   However, it sounds like taking baby steps and looking at realistic types of exercise might be a good fit.

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User Profile: communicativePond1728
communicativePond1728 June 16th, 2024

I couldn't find any video on exposure therapy and CPTSD. Then I found this video, at 3:47 long that explains why.

https://youtu.be/qBe1DKFGCdg?si=AM3wUJsd27ye4aFI

I also found that finding the right therapist, doctor or counsellor can change everything, yet can also be like finding an albino unicorn.

Finding the right fit takes a level of advocacy, action and esteem that many are needing help with in the first place.

This catch-22 creates a cycle that slowly erodes whatever good was left in the person even though they're trying their best.

The generation gaps, housing crisis and any cycles from abuse can add fuel to this fire, making it even harder to navigate.

I'm not sure how to move forward on this session right now as it's become a lot more layered all the sudden. Will probably percolate.

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User Profile: Hope
Hope OP June 28th, 2024

@communicativePond1728

It can be challenging to find the right expert! You point out an important contradiction. 


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User Profile: communicativePond1728
communicativePond1728 June 28th, 2024

@Hope I've found listening, compassion, rock bottom, my natural cycles, Tara Brach's RAIN, BK's the work, c.a.r.E., 4D's, HALT, meditation, self care, workbooks and self help books, workshops, In The Rooms app and website, embracing and working with little inner progresses forwards, practicing asking for help, researching ways to do things, forgiving people that don't deserve it (including me) focusing on the positive, grounding, gratitude, determination and perseverance are all probably just some of the general type of keys required for changing from old reactions of blame-shame to more healthy and peaceful love-above responses that generates more good energy and vitality in my life. 

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User Profile: Ivy229
Ivy229 November 23rd, 2024

@communicativePond1728

I am glad you mentioned how important finding the right medical provider can affect how productive and beneficial it can be to the treatment outcome. But also, how hard that is to do. I liked how you compared it to a unicorn. 

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User Profile: unassumingEyes
unassumingEyes June 21st, 2024

@Hope for conquering social anxiety: 

10.Participate in a school activity/competition.

9. Ask teachers questions.

8. Call customer service for information on an online purchase.

7. Order from a menu.

6. Answer questions at doctors appointment.

5. Ask a bus driver for directions.

4. Have a quick chat with a neighbour.

3. Ask a worker where an item is kept.

2. Pay at a store myself

1. Take deliveries from the door

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User Profile: Hope
Hope OP June 28th, 2024

@unassumingEyes

These look like useful small steps towards your greater goal. 

I hope you were able to make some progress!

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User Profile: kerryg
kerryg June 28th, 2024

I have social anxiety when it comes to family gatherings but you'd never guess because when I push myself through and show up, I end up going up to everyone even if we haven't met in order to be polite. If nobody is dancing to music I will start dancing around and get people to be silly with me. I just remind myself "people really don't care if you dance around and be silly at a party" and if they do, that's not a big deal nor should I think it is. I end up having fun and glad that I went out. Memories like that with close ones aren't going to be made if I stay cooped up and shut in!

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User Profile: lotuswarriorrising
lotuswarriorrising June 28th, 2024

@kerryg  WOW - that is a healthy (and memory-making) and brave way of dealing with social anxiety!  I like that you KNOW what it is - and that you are able to "push through."  I used to get social anxiety when I had to go to a business mixer at work.  UGH!  But I made a deal with myself to speak with three people I didn't know.  I met a lot of people that way!  But go you speaking to everyone!  That is some really great work.  I think it's great that you are willing to dance and be vulnerable even though you might feel anxiety and that you recognize how it's benefitted you! 

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lotuswarriorrising June 28th, 2024

@Hope   Here is a 4-minute video about exposure therapy.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mlJy85EQrCI

User Profile: Blahblah1805
Blahblah1805 June 30th, 2024

@Hope I experience anxiety with watching some movies which include romantic scenes or scenes of molestation or so. 

So my steps can go like : 

1. Talking with some of my cousins or friends (guys) having a causal conversation with them. 

2. Watching a small drama with my sister. 

3. Maybe going on a picnic with a couple😅.

4. Watching small scenes of the things that trigger me for some days along with coping techniques. 

5. Finally I hope I'll be able to watch a whole movie without getting panic attack. 

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User Profile: CreativeKombucha
CreativeKombucha June 30th, 2024

@Hope

Information on Exposure therapy can be found in this video by the Anxiety Institute

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aYDeYITs1qU

More information can be found here

https://anxietyinstitute.com/