Catch it, Bestie!🥰

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Tomatoes! 🍅🍅🍅🍅🍅🍅🍅🍅

uncooked of course

becauuuuse

it’s one of the ingredients in pizza and what if they are vegan and don’t like to eat too much bread 😇

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hehe i loveeee thiss idea sunnie beann, and honestly agree entirely with everything you’ve written here, sunbuddybean honestly expresses themself so beautifully through words 🥺 i appreciate you loads. 💜 

Nii friend gotta think a little more about this hehe, i’ll be back in this thread xD 

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou I'm feeling fantastically awsomly great😁❤

I would throw stress balls at them, yep! I'm pretty sure stress balls are there to throw at people who cause stress😎

take this!⚾ And that🏀 and theese🏈🏉🏀🌵🌵

Oops! I don't know how that cactus got in there😏 

and my message I shout at them whilst throwing balls at their heads is 🤔🤔🤔🤔"be nice you big meanie mc beanie!!! 

😁 yaaaay! That was a fun question😁😁

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I'd empty the contents of a bunch of pixy sticks into a pouch, and then I'd go around tossing a sprinkle onto people, saying "Mag-ical fairy dust!"

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Big big *hugs* ❤️ Good Day Sunshine! Something tells me you could use one right about now, or 7 or 700! 

Might I say, I love this forum post, hearing your thoughts and this one really "hits me right were I live". I'm just sorry that you are going through this right now! Yes, the kind and patient ones are typically the ones that have to struggle with things like this. 

I see it as eventually, even kind people have to set a boundary when others are banking on the hopes that you never will. Okay, boundary set. Hard enough to do that as it is. So, where to go from there once someone you have asked nicely over and over to please stop certain behaviors, you have set the boundary, set the bar just to see someone consistently limbo underneath it over and over again?

Not being left with any other options, as sad as it may be, can be a turning point on how it is that we behave now. Boundary setting is great, but then what is that we do once the boundaries are ignored and consistently? Rarely is that part of the process taught. I guess I just have to see it as a "them problem" and not a "me problem" at that point. I showed up, I tried, they didn't. 

None of us were put on this earth to suffer abuse from others. While we can feel a great deal of empathy and want to help those that have been abused, "hurt people, hurt people" is not a directive for how to treat others. Neither is "you hurt the ones you love". At some point, you have to resign yourself to the thought of, well if that is your take on things, please stop loving me and I will remove myself from this situation. No contact. 

Agreed, many of us are the "wounded healers" that have suffered from horrible abuse, but yet we don't behave in the same ways as others that may have targeted us to be the recipient of their abuse. Instead, our suffering taught us how not to behave as we know first hand how badly it hurts. We learned how not to be. That was our "take away" from it all. 

I've been learning a great deal about "loss of the ego" and how it can be a really good thing. Hmm, did something offend me? Why? How so? Why did I take that to heart? Why would I let someone that is clearly making pot shots at me, projecting, gas lighting, stalking, snipering, devaluing, etc. and doesn't have my best interests at heart get to me? I'm better than that. I know who and what I am. I walk a path of authenticity. Some days it can be good to not argue with them as it is simply a waste of time and doing otherwise can be seen as an "ego move" if we as people self reflect long enough, as well as potentially supplies them with exactly what they wanted in the first place...fuel and attention for negative behavior. 

On the flip side of that, for "loss of the ego" works in my favor when completely, emotionally exhausted by someone that turned out to be an "energy vampire". Loss of the ego, yup! You got it! I'm going to lose that ego. Who am I to think that I can still help someone that is antagonistic, combative, creates chaos where there was none to begin with and with each interaction? I must think mighty highly of myself I guess if I have gotten to the point that I'm thinking even a well seasoned, licensed therapist could potentially refuse to see them based on the things that I have learned over time, but somehow I think I can help the cause. I am absolved. 

I like your thought process Good Day Sunshine! 😊 ❤️ It sounds like to me a moment of ...I wish you well and here is your lovely parting gift of my pizza. 🍕 Enjoy! 

For me, I thought of an analogy of playing a game of "hacky sack". I might know that this will be potentially, the last interaction everrrrrrr with someone with out announcing it.

This likely is the time that I have gotten to the point of "if you want to say it, maybe you shouldn't (that implies being a bit snarky and enjoying being so-not my style) and if you really don't want to have to say it, maybe you should (difficult to say, tough love, fearful of the other persons reaction because they are over the top reactive and abusive, but it's high time that they hear it).

Toss the hacky sack, say what you know is good for them to hear, see how the hacky sack is set back and forth even though you already know what it is that will happen. Let them kick it around and now harder and "at you". Not very nice and not very sportsman like. Walk away. Enjoy the lovely parting gift of my hacky sack. Play by yourself, hone your skills with that gift of mine. Or not. Throw it in the trash, kick it across the road, take it and play with others or even tuck into a drawer. It's no longer my concern. 

It could take years for them to find that hacky sack rolling around in the back of a drawer some where. They'll remember that I was sportsmanlike and kind while they weren't. It wasn't in vain. I was meant to be there, to teach them something that might resonate years down the road. For now, they are on their own to learn how to play well with others.

*high fives* 😊 and big big *hugs* ❤️ my sweet Spidey Twin. I'm here if you need me, always! ❤️

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Sunshine 🌞❤ this is an important topic, me is glad that you wrote this! 🤗❤

If someone being unsupportive, rude, meanie, I would throw a fruit with a thorny skin on them 😄 (since the requirements is something sweet, so only the fruit is sweet but the skin is thorny). 

If anyone being meanie at you, me will stand by you, Sunshine! 🌞❤🤗❤

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Thank you for this article! ❤ 

When someone being unsupportive, rude, meanie, I think I would cut them off, because it is not good for my well being to keep tolerating their behavior. 

If this someone is a so called 'friend' then they are not a friend. Because a friend should not be mean or rude, no matter what the excuse. And you are right, that there are many people who are kind though struggling. So there is no excuse of being rude because someone is struggling.  

If I'm allowed to suggest, I would suggest to block this mean, rude person. 😤 It is likely that they have this pattern of rudeness, of being mean. This type of person is usually the envious, jealous type who cannot see others happy. They want what we have and when they do not get it, they become mean and rude. It is draining to keep pleasing them, and we feel like we often have to be alert because they could be mean and rude at anytime. So it is best to cut them off so they will not disturb our peace. 

Because for our peace of mind, we are better off without having to deal with them. 

Also, there are other people who are kind, who are more worthy of our friendship. 

I hope you know that you are a great person ❤ and do not let the meanie person disturb you anymore and do not fall into their sympathy seeking trap. 

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I guess it would depend on what they're wearing and where they are, because if they're wearing like white or a light color I would "accidently" pour grape juice because it stains. If they are wearing a darker color I would go with guacamole to the face. If it's somewhere fancy then spaghetti, because it'll take a while to get it all out and all eyes will be on them. If it's casual I'll probably focus more on direct damage and go with something messy like a pie.