Expressing anger?

@Optimisticempath

I think you are right that anger is a thing that builds up and often see someone explode.

  I feel it is important to vent and share even minor things to not let the pressure build. It can feel uncomfortable but speaking up and being honest and upfront can help.  Most things can be worked out before anger erupts. 

Example: explain why a particular thing irritates you.... my spouse has hearing issue wears a hearing aids at work and out in public..... but takes them off at home .....so after Repeating myself several times becoming very angry ... I spoke up and asked "why am I NOT important enough for you to wear hearing device when it is just us?" 

 It did not occur to them I found this practice disrespectful.....instead they just thought i was not very empathetic to their hearing issue........ people can not see your view of a situation unless you speak up. 

when anger is already there some use it as motivation in exercise or journal etc liek a pressure relief valve. 

@Optimisticempath

It's a normal and healthy emotion that needs to be diffused in a healthy outlet!

I box.

Dance.

Break plates, don't worry, in a safe environment 😁💜

Loving this topic 😍 I agree lot of our suppressed emotions turn into anger.

love expressing anger by punching pillows or pushing a wall with both hands. Feeling the feelings... The frustration of not being able to move the wall inspite of all that effort. Then letting it drop.

I need to do this practice more often (sometimes I skip lol).

Thanks for such a wonderful topic 🌱😇

@Optimisticempath I was listening to Ted Talks about anger, and one author stated that sometimes we are angry at something because of what we tell ourselves. This story we tell ourselves may not be true. Another person stated that anger may be telling us that our boundaries or values may have been crossed. Another mentioned that anger is human and that it’s important to show compassion on one’s self when angry. Overall, I gathered that anger is an important emotion that sometimes people are scared to talk about. I think your feelings are legitimate and maybe you too can show compassion on yourself. I’m learning more about anger. I encourage you too to learn more about it and your own anger. 

@Optimisticempath I handle mine the same way. Suppressed emotions to try and keep the peace till it bursts. It's not easy to find something that works but I'm trying through self reflection and just trying to be aware...still a struggle. 

Anger is not bad if its done or used for the right reason

@Optimisticempath
Hey, I get you! It is difficult to manage anger and the guilt that comes after it when you are not an angry person. I feel we often feel angry when we reach a point where we can not let anyone do us wrong. For eg, someone has wronged you. You may not feel angry at them. You may feel that you could be treated like that. The very self you protect. It may not come out right away, but that frustration may build up. 

If you are looking for a healthy way to let that pent-up go. I think you can try journaling. Or imagine your older self sitting on the seat facing you. Tell them how you feel and why. How could you avoid the hurt? Forgive yourself. 

Hope this helps.

I usually look at the cause of my anger. And if its due to some injustice I show myself compassion. And the anger kind of diffuses with the love I give myself.

Sometimes though I realise that even though there is an injustice happening against me, there is some point being made by the other side too, which broadens my understanding, and allows me to tackle future situations with better skills and more patience.

@Optimisticempath