Hii...
Soo i've been strugling with long term listener support
90% of all listeners skip me or leave in the middle of the chat, while those other good listeners that I've met are leaving for breaks (which i'm not against, btw it's just that it's making me be alone)
How does that make me feel?
I've been through a lot, even my bio has a TW, so i'm not expecting everyone to show me support, but after trying to find someone for the long term, it's starting to feel terrible after A TON of rejections and airs, I'm human too.
what kind of a listener would i prefer?
okay, don't say that i'm picky, it's just that i REALLY NEED human connection, not some robot like listener, but one who actually cares. ik it's very rare to find, bc i found it in only 2 people here, but still i refuse to stop. i also like listeners who have their own storiesbecause it makes me feel less alone in my problems, and the quote "you're not alone" actually makes sense if you had proof infront of you, which with those listeners i would have proof infront of me!
idk will i ever find support here for the long term, because my situations being worse day by day and people who have been showing up are leaving when it's REALLY critical
I didn’t mean to post nothing on here I don’t know what happened, but I would be happy to listen.
@LuckyBlast1 ill talk
@Timithymonts
i'd just wanna ask, how? like here? he's very ineffective because whatever i share on here it can be seen from across the globe, and i'm not that brave!!
@LuckyBlast1 in a message on here not sure how you message not on the chat im going through stuff so it would help me too
it would yea, but we members can't have 1 on 1 chatss sooo yea, we kinda only have these public chats
@LuckyBlast1 ohh I'm sorry i didn't know that
it's okayy!!
Hi there, I can definitely understand the struggle of finding someone to listen through your hardships and finding connection with them.
I even had a hard time doing this with my friends in real life. I look at it like this—listeners are people that are there to support you more in the moment. Unfortunately some topics are too intense for them, resulting in them leaving/logging off. I don’t agree with the approach, but we’re human and we have our limits.
That’s why for me I went to therapy, and although therapy is not accessible for everyone, therapy was able to tackle those topics that listeners aren’t equipped to help with—and that’s not a bad thing. Listeners aren’t professionals, my bf once upon a time was actually a listener here. They don’t get paid-it’s volunteer from my understanding so they are limited to their timeframes.
It’s hard, venting feels good and helps get things off of your chest. I’ve also resorted to self help books to navigate my struggles and feelings like The Let Them Theory, Chatter, and It’s Not You. Give yourself some grace and others, I wish you the best on your journey.
ty for the advice, but since i'm a minor i need my parenths permission to go to therapy, and it kinda sucks, we'll see how that goes
Have you tried. Try looking. At https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/Classifieds_360/ListenerClassifiedsJune2025ListenersPostHereandMembersCheckOutOurListenersAcceptingNewChats_355067/ .
Maybe you can find a teen or adult teen listener to help u out
No i haven't! thanks! i'll try it right now!
I’ll listen to you.💗
ty, but members can't message members 1 on 1
Hey friend feel free to msg for long term support, friend, listener 😊
@consideratePerspective852
i'm soo sorry but again i physically can't bc ur an adult and i'm a teen, the app isn't letting me do that.
if you want to you can become an ATL (adult-teen listener) if you really want to support me
@LuckyBlast1 you could also post in the Teen Only Zone perhaps, that might help https://www.7cups.com/forum/teens/ and that way only teen listeners and teen members will read your post and of course ATL listeners, so you might be able to find someone that can contact you as the criteria for ATL is quite high. https://www.7cups.com/forum/agingup/AdultTeenListenerProgram_2487/AllaboutBecominganATL_300931/
@MystyMagic
waitt i remember that name from somewhere? am i crazy?
anywayss i haven't rlly tried that, but the problem is that, well, the post probably won't gain as much attention as this one lets say. because most people that actually got this post viral were adults just as frustrated as i am
this kind of means that it'll most likely be ignored, as many of my other posts, soo yea i might try that later, because tbh i kinda need some rest from my school year which is close to it being over
@MistyMagic
oops sorry for writting your name wrong in my first message
@LuckyBlast1 actually I like that 'Mysty' lol I often get called all sorts of typos. And yes, sadly you may be right. But never hurts to try.
@MistyMagic
i'll try that out, just give me some more time, summer breaks soon kickin in for me so hopefully i'll do it then!
@MistyMagic
Okayy i have finally posted it in the teen forums, it has been a while tho i must admit but i'm still looking for the same thing
@LuckyBlast1 good luck! Hope you get the support you are looking for 🦋
How to become ALT, or do you want to connect somewhere else?
Hello,if you still need a listener..... I'm here for you❤️
ty but you aren't a listener? plus if you were, you're an adult, so it's impossible for us to even chat 1 on 1
Sending love your way.
I have a lot of availability/free time throughout the week, Monday-Friday and I’m more than happy to listen to you ❤️
@7cupsofteaBecky
thank you for your love! sadly tho you're an adult and i'm a teen, so we can't rlly chat.
i'm a 15 year old so you'd have to wait 3 years or do the steps of the link mistymagic has sent here
Ohh okay sorry!
@LuckyBlast1 I understand completely where you’re coming from however I learned sometimes people either don’t know how to help but want to help you or dont know where to start same as me I don’t know much but I do that when you do get that help it does indeed give you ease and helps you think better and not the bad stuff in your head but the good stuff don’t lose faith in finding them you will keep trying and you will see there’s always someone who will be there even if it doesn’t seem like it now. I got your back and everyone else here. We all will get through it.
i rlly like the ethusiasm and hope! i'm actually trying to be more of a positive thinker, because i often do think negativly
@LuckyBlast1 I tend to think negative too I’m trying not to do so I’ve found it makes it worse thinking negative
@LuckyBlast1I can understand you here. I have had some really hard days and are still. I joined 3 days ago in hopes of finding what your looking for. I am happy to be a friend and someone who listens. We could also be pen pals. I come from a place of love and no judgement. I hope you find what you are looking for.
i hope you find what you're looking for too! i hope listeners here actually help you out as well! we all deserve care!
