Thinking of leaving cups
Ever since I aged up in November its been hard for me I've never been able to join any of the rooms because theyre all just a lot and I've tried using forums to talk with my friends from the teen side but yet I really only have one person that still talks to me from there. I dont know what to do anymore i just feel lost and like I dont belong on cups anymore. I really struggle with new things and just joining rooms to a place where I don't know anyone I know it would be too much for me. I've tried getting support but it was just thrown away and got no help at all with aging up so I really feel like people just dont want me here on cups. Even if I stay I'd most likely loose the one person I still get to talk to on here so whats even the point me being on cups if I just make friends on here then just loose them. I cant join any rooms to try make new friends and stuff so I don't know anymore. I really dont feel like i belong on cups anymore.
tagging the person I feel like would care @LoveMyMoonflowers
@kylersartpace
I support what ever you do. I wish you all the best if you do leave cups.❤️❤️
@Powerandsunset25
tnx....
@kylersartpace
This sounds like a really hard place to be. I was an adult when I found Cups so I can’t understand what it’s like to age up. But I’m always happy to listen. And I think there are specific mentors for this transitional time that can help you adjust to the adult side of Cups.
@Kristynsmama
i tried that...and as i said in the thing.....i didnt get it...so i have no help with it...
@kylersartpace
i tried contacting someone about it as well ): but they never responded. 😞
@kylersartpace
kyler buddy 💙
thank you for tagging me. your right in that i do care about you and you mean more to me than you know. i see you as a gentle, caring friend and i do miss seeing you around on the teenie side (':
i get how hard it’s been since you aged up in november. i hear you about how you’ve been feeling like you don’t belong here anymore ): and i’m sorry. 💜 but we do want you here, and you do belong. ik you say you know everyone hates you, but it’s not true (': your teenie buddies, including me, would miss your presence so much if you left cupsies. even if we don’t talk in rooms, we would miss being able to check on you and talk to you through forums. 💙
but your important too 💜 and you need to look after yourself and do what’s best for you. it’s okie to take breaks, maybe from the forums too - if you need. it’s okie to take breaks from cupsies or from socials. 💙 what i want is for you to do what’s best for you. 💜
ik it’s hard getting used to new spaces, i hear you and i get that. 💙 but me knows many hoomans on the adult side, as well as a few ATLs 💜 and they are all wonderful hooman beans like we have on the teenie side. we can take this slowly, and we can do this together. 💙 maybe participating more in the forums can help you get to know more people? 🌈
would it be okie with you if i tagged some adult buddies?
@LoveMyMoonflowers
u can tag if u want....but i really dont think anyone from teen side care im still on cups....and like...no matter how much i try to talk to them on forums they dont respond....so idk anymore ni,,,
@kylersartpace
(': *tight huggles if okie*
me tagging some hoomans 💜 @Tinywhisper11 @optimisticempath @victorialove7
@LoveMyMoonflowers
not 2 tight...still sick...
@kylersartpace
*not vv tight huggles for kyler*
@LoveMyMoonflowers
tnx ni....
@LoveMyMoonflowers
Thank you for tagging me, Nii 🌙🥧🦁 ☺
@Kylersartpace
Hi Kyler ☺ transitioning to oldie world is not easy, but I hope you will keep being in Cups. Perhaps try to peek into the chatroom (there are member chatroom for light hearted chats, & support rooms, lgbt room, SC room) then you can get to know the adults. But of course at your pace, even when you are in rooms, you do not have to be in a room for long, or if you want to you can stay for a while. ☺
@VictoriaLove7
idk im scared....i have adhd and asd and change is a lot for me...i struggle a lot being with new people...so idk anymore...i feel like there really is no point me being on cups...
@kylersartpace
I understand that change is hard, because being I an unfamiliar situation is not comfortable. But it might worth to try, you can also express what you feel, Kyler, or tell people you meet in support rooms that you are new to the adult world. Most people in support rooms are kind, they will understand & also being in support rooms might help with you to learn meeting new people ☺
@LoveMyMoonflowers
thank you for tagging me flower buddy 🥺 you're such a lovely friend to everyone 💕
@kylersartpace
yes me would be happy to talk to you in forums also if you comfy ... ik it feels so bad when we unwanted or uncared for but even one person's kindness can make lots difference and tbh you too do deserve kindness and support from cups... it is tuff navigating the oldie side chats...i often feel like a misfit too :/ and don't have much to talk about but im glad I found some nice people also who make staying in cups worthwhile and really wish you can find more kind people also ... ill try to do my best for you 🥺 if youd like to talk you can always tag me...im fine with sitting in silence also...smetimes just knowing you not alone is helpful i guess 😅 sends huggiee if okkk... looking forward to get to know my new friend (you 💕) in time ... you matter Kyler 💕💕
@Optimisticempath
Sure...id gladly like to get to know u...
@Optimisticempath
I have an area people talk ti me on or we can make our own if you prefer
@kylersartpace you mean forum thread? yes we make own ...
@Optimisticempath
Yeah thats what i mean...want me to make 1 or
@kylersartpace ok good you can make one and tag me:)
@VictoriaLove7
idk...im really scared...to the point i feel like if i join...ill just have a meltdown or something....
@kylersartpace
It might help to think of meeting new people in rooms as something fun, & you will be okie. If at any point when in the room you feel like having a meltdown, it is okie to tell people you need to get going or brb. The virtual meeting new people in cups support rooms might help as a practice if you meet new people irl ^_^
@VictoriaLove7
itll be a lot though....and im just scared because i wont know anyone....
@kylersartpace
now you know me, I'm an adult, hehe ^_^ I rarely in support rooms but when hangout in rooms I hope to meet you, Kyler ☺
@VictoriaLove7
barely....and like...we may never be on at the same time...
@kylersartpace
That's true ☺ but if you want, we can be in rooms at the same time, what about we be in support room around 4 hours from now ^_^
@VictoriaLove7
idk...im really sick atm...and have a lot i need to force myself to do regardless of how sick i am...
@kylersartpace
That is okie, Kyler ☺ your health first & when you feel better, do the works that you have to do. I hope you take some rest because you are unwell. Take your time, whenever you feel ready to visit rooms, I hope to see you, Kyler ^_^
@VictoriaLove7
wish i could rest...if i dont so stuff i have to do ill get shouted at....not only by my parents...my teachers will aswell...
@kylersartpace
😟 That is kind of pressuring. I hope your parents & teacher will be more understanding when you are unwell, Kyler
@VictoriaLove7
parents dont care about me at all teachers dont either
@kylersartpace
😟 hugs if okie, Kyler 🫂
@VictoriaLove7
tnx...but dont think u want to hug me because im so sick...
@kylersartpace
It is okie 🫂 Kyler ☺
(my response might be slow, because I got to run some errands, but I will reply when I'm on ^_^ )
@VictoriaLove7
its ok dw about talking to me
@kylersartpace
Kyler 😟 me here, but my replies might be slow
@VictoriaLove7
its ok...ill be fine...
@kylersartpace
Kyler, have you had some meals & take some rest? 😟 because you are unwell, our well being can affect how we feel too
@kylersartpace
Omg kyler 😭 I was thinking about you the other day and where you went 💜 the teenie side misses you so so much 💕 I'm sorry oldie world not going well :( sometimes it's difficult to fit in when there is lots of people . I'm proud of you for sharing. 💙
@amiableBunny4016
oh...hi bunny...and yeah...tnx...there is a thing where ive tried to stay in touch with people....but no1 uses it...
Did u say tried to contact a transition mentor but no one reply to you
@Powerandsunset25 did u try just one or more than one
@Powerandsunset25
I only tried one....
I am so sorry no one got back to you
@Powerandsunset25
Someone did...but after i responded....they never responded again....
hi kyler! i don’t think you know who i am. i’m steph hehe:)
unless we talked years ago when i was on back then. but i’m transitioning soon so maybe we can figure out the oldie side together!
it’s so brave of you to talk about this. i’m so proud of you(:
im here for you!
@steph8402
i dont think weve ever talked....
yeah probably not. but hi!
@steph8402
Hi...
