Weekly Prompt #22: Whats a quality you see in others that you'd like to inherit?
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This week's prompt is: What's a quality you see in others that you'd like to inherit?
We are good observers and we observe a lot of things happening around us. One of them is the people we observe. Their goodness is something we dislike about them and so, we observe and note a lot of things. So, take a moment to reflect on what quality you like to inherit that you see in others. Take your time to explore fully and allow your thoughts to flow freely. There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to learning, as it is a deeply personal and individual experience. Please share and discuss here among us.
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@ASilentObserver
body neutrality. I’m so stuck up on looking perfect 24/7, especially as a teen girl, and it really drains me and ruins the way I look at myself. I have to realize my body is changing, and that’s okay. We all go through awkward stages, we all feel uncomfortable. You don’t have to love your body automatically, you just gotta ease in it, you know what I mean? I see all these girls perfectly comfortable with themselves, and I realize it’s something I need to work on.
Were all super hot in our own ways. 🫵❤️
@KIM0RI yeah! Alot of people struggle with their looks, me too 😞 but we shouldn't, we are beautiful ❤ every single one of us
@KIM0RI If it really bothers you that much, try to remember this: perfection is relative.
It is true in most things; with physical beauty it's definitely true to an extent.
Feeling inadequate because of not measuring up to standards of beauty usually involves a standard that exists purely within one's own mind. Even as damaging as modern consumerist culture + (anti)social media is to so many teenage girls, all that only hurts you as much as you allow it to. That is, comparing yourself to other girls/women is only painful if you adopt their looks as a standard to conform to. But no woman (or man) has the final word on what is most handsome or beautiful, because not everyone has the same taste in looks. If you are a brunette & feel "less-than" because you're not a natural blonde, well, when I was playing the field I always went for dark-haired women. Dark hair, particularly black hair (think Middle Eastern or Slavic), has always attracted me more than even the curviest blonde. Some people like East Asian eyes; those epicanthic folded eyelids drive 'em wild. Others hardly notice it; then there are people who find that feature repulsive. Ditto for any ethnic or racial feature you can think of. The point is that aside from basic indicators of good health, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Remember that.
@slowdecline48 You are right that beauty is subjective - we each see it differently. I am glad you see that own worth beyond any one viewpoint. Thank you for sharing this perspective, slow. Comparing yourself to unrealistic standards can cause pain.
@KIM0RI Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It can be challenging to feel comfortable in our own skin, especially during times of change. Please know that you are not alone in experiencing these feelings and that every person's path to self-love is unique. What aspects of focusing less on perfection and more on self-acceptance have you found most helpful or insightful so far in your journey?
@KIM0RI Ooo, I love this! I think I may have reached body neutrality? Not entirely sure. I only really think about it when I feel weak (health issues/depression) or if someone points out how "skinny" I am, which makes me self-conscious sometimes...
I wish to be fit/have muscles again like prior, but I'm just OK with being skinny(not particularly happy to sad about it). I know my body has the ability to change, so that's why I'm trying not to be too hard on myself. I'm actively trying to gain weight and exercise again to reach my goal.
I just see it as my body having potential to become even better, but also not talking down on it since it's not there yet, if that makes sense?
But anyways, I think your goal is great! I'm not 100% there, but I'm trying to treat my body better to make me become more OK with it.
@ASilentObserver That's an easy one:
Good health.
If it were possible, I would inherit that trait from those who already possess it.
I am so godd*** f***ing tired of my chronic health issues (there's a list of them in my journal)...so tired of having depressive episodes either from stressful circumstances or "just because" (heredity). Recently I caught myself looking into weightlifting techniques & training methods. I had to remind myself, once again, that in order to get in good shape you need basic physical functionality. Your most important systems & organs must work the way they're supposed to. You have to be able to get enough sleep, have enough energy to acquire sufficient quantities of good foods & enough pep to work out to begin with. If those conditions are not in place then you can't get fit. There's just no way around it.
I would give anything to have a fully functioning body. I don't even need to have my youth back...just the ability to do all the tasks of modern living, with sufficient leftover energy to ride my bike & maybe some basic lifting twice a week. But I won't have it in this lifetime.
@slowdecline48 I hear you! It's incredibly hard being ill😥 I'm in constant pain, I can't walk. Restricted movements so my carers have to carry me to bed, give me showers. And then a few mental health issues too 😞 it's not easy. Gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤ but hey! We are still alive and still able to smile and have fun ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 Ahh yes, chronic pain. What a barrel o' fun & hijinks, eh?...don't I just love it when I get a flare-up & have to spend the whole day in bed. 😠
@slowdecline48 I sense your deep frustration with chronic health issues that limit your ability to do the things you want to do. It sounds like having a fully functioning body would mean a lot to your quality of life. Please know you are not alone in facing health challenges outside your control. What kinds of activities or hobbies are most meaningful for you to enjoy?
Never mind, my answers are probably unnecessary. They would only remind me of my limitations...& might remind other chronic people here of theirs as well.
@ASilentObserver This is off-topic but I didn't know you were in India. I've never been there, but would like to go...what's it like over there?
@ASilentObserver all I want is to be independent ❤
@Tinywhisper11 oh and courage ❤
@Tinywhisper11 I can relate to that last one...as a man, courage is one quality I definitely wish I had more of. As a child, I was easily intimidated. So yeah, I have an idea of where you're at there.
@Tinywhisper11 It sounds like being independent and courageous are important qualities for you. What about independence and courage is meaningful for you?
@ASilentObserver freedom
@ASilentObserver
Hey, ASO,
I admire people who are within themselves (I don't know how to put it in words) and don't let other get under their skin.
@purpleTree4652 thank you purple. It sounds like being inwardly secure and not letting others get under your skin is important to you. What thoughts or feelings come up for you in relating to people who exhibit that strength?
Financial Independence
@bgdave Financial independence seems like an understandably appealing quality. What draws you to that sense of freedom and control over your own circumstances?
@ASilentObserver I am not sure I am struggling with my physical body and my mental health breaking down. I am trying to find my way at 60.
@ASilentObserver
Self love.
@SquidwardBobRoss Self-love is so important for our well-being. Exploring how to nurture that for yourself could help you through challenging times. What are your thoughts on ways self-love impacts how you feel about yourself?
@ASilentObserver
Being Positive and Confident all the time
@ReservoirofLove Being positive and confident all the time does seem like a wonderful quality. What is it about that quality that most resonates with you? You're not alone in seeing strengths in others that you admire.
@ASilentObserver
Sometimes, I experience a lack of confidence in my abilities, which causes me to doubt myself and fear that I may make mistakes. As a result, my decision-making skills are poor and uncertain, and I rely on my family for guidance in such situations. However, I am actively working on improving my mindset and striving to become more positive and self-assured in my actions.
@ReservoirofLove It sounds like experiencing a lack of confidence in your abilities causes difficult feelings of doubt and uncertainty. You are taking positive steps in actively working to improve your mindset and become more self-assured through striving. These efforts show strength and determination.
@ASilentObserver trust
@limegreenKiwi7397 Thank you for sharing what quality you admire in others. Trust seems like an important foundation for relationships. What thoughts or feelings come up for you in wanting to develop that quality? You're not alone in reflecting on how to strengthen understanding between people.
@ASilentObserver
When I see people who really don't care what others think about them, I think "oh my gosh I want that!"
@LovingPeacefulHeart It is understandable to admire confidence in others. Reflecting on what you said, it seems a lack of caring what others think could be freeing.
@ASilentObserver always be honest no matter what, but i alreddy have that so i dont know what else.
@WeAllLost It seems you value honesty highly in others as well as in yourself. That is an admirable quality to have. Exploring positive traits can help us identify ways to support ourselves and those around us.
@ASilentObserver purest honesty can get you out of many problems, but not only problems, real opinion through severity to others thoughts what their should do oh can next, i found myself discovering friends through this when others always looked down on me and made fun of me.
very few will see this with you.
@WeAllLost It sounds like being honest with others and standing by your true thoughts has helped you find friends, though others did not always understand you at first. I'm glad to hear honesty has helped you in positive ways despite past difficulties.
@ASilentObserver despite honesty what i want in life is REAL LOVE, with no judgements.
- is that too much to ask for?
@WeAllLost You're not alone in wanting acceptance and understanding from another. It's understandable to want real love without judgement. Your expectations are reasonable.
