Hi guys I want to share how I feel these past few months. It's been weird because I mostly feel lonely
One day I felt like I was getting better , I felt grateful but then I felt lonely again. And when I talked about my sad, lonely feelings with my sis she told me that I complained a lot and how I was ungrateful. This is why most of the time I choose to shut up, because everytime I opened up to my family they just said I complained a lot. I don't know why I feel so much, like I can feel sad so easily. I hate me, I think I'm such a boring , quiet person. Can I have some uplifting words? thank you in advance. :(
++ I always feel like I'm a weird person, and that's why people who used to be close to me were leaving me alone in the end. Or maybe it's just me who overthinks too much. I don't know. I just tried my best to be a good person, kind. But I feel like a bad, weird person.
No, there's nothing wrong with you and you're not wierd. You've gotto start loving yourself and start being kind to yourself.
Loneliness , depression etc are complex stuffs. Some days are normal and some days they hit you without any reason. On those days I guess, the only thing we can do..is to sit with that uncomfortable feeling and accepting it. (Not use any means to escape reality or you're feelings, but to just acknowledge it.) Even if you're not able to fix it.. it's fine..just accept and hold yourself and treat yourself with kindness.
@SoulwithGoals hi thank you for giving me advice, you're right about it being complex stuff. They can be so confusing, like one moment I feel happy but then upset then questioning my worth 😞.. I've been listening to various affirmations on youtube hoping I will feel better.. some of them are for anxiety, the other is for loneliness/detaching from unhealthy friendship. I will try my best to be kinder with myself even tho it feels so difficult for me to do so these days.
Sure. I too will try.🙂
Please, practice being kind to yourself.
@YorubaAngel I will try to, thank youu. ;"( it's really hard because i overthink and i doubt myself a lot..
@hopefulencounter
I often feel the same way that you described, including feeling like my weirdness/personality pushes people away, but I don't want to feel that way anymore. I'm trying to think of it in better terms, like how my tendency to overthink could actually be a benefit in certain situations because it allows me to think of things that others usually don't. My tendency to overthink has also occasionally been a huge benefit to have in professional/work settings.
Please try to start referring to overthinking as a positive thing, even just in your own head, because it really can be a positive thing in the right setting & application.
@ImpartialJar0405 thank you for your advice and kind words I really appreciate them. You inspired me to make use of this overthinking side of me :')
@hopefulencounter not everyone can be a good listener. Listening requires being able to handle someone else's emotions without them affecting your own. So yes it can be hard to find someone to talk your heart to. But it's great you've found this app. You will meet people here who will support you. Also what worked for me was journaling. Writing things out is like being your own listener. It's really healing and shows you a way out from the mental chaos ... be patient with yourself. ❤️
@Creamyyy hi, thank you for your suggestion. I agree with what you said, maybe I should go back to journaling again. I will try to write on my book tonight.. thank you for replying <3
@Creamyyy 🥰💜
@hopefulencounter I think you need an unbiased listening. Not everyone have same temperament to listen to someone else. At the same time, not everyone is in their best to listen to others. Reach out and we shall try to have a fulfilling meaningful chat. Hopefully, you'll be abe to restore faith in yourself. You are unique.. You are special.. and most important of all.. you are important..
@Letusbefriends thank you so much for your kind words, they really made my day. I will never lose my faith, I understand that not everyone is in the mood to listen.. :"
@hopefulencounter - not everybody is but I am.. I am just a ping away.. :)
@Letusbefriends beautifully expressed 🥰💜
@hopefulencounter Heyyy..how's it going??. I really understand where you said "i hate me" and you think "you are boring "sometimes..that's completely understable, to feel that way sometimes. But don't go hard on yourself. Sometimes when the method u are using to open up isn't working you should find another..like journaling,doodling helps especially to ease out the stress, or sleeping just doing smth you love. Although this things may not really be of help to some people but it is a way to reduce of all of those load. There is still time and you will soon figure out everything.MUCH LOVE✨!. You got this!. Just a lil reminder : It can always be the people around you that doesn't match ur energy that u feel boring not that you are that way okay?.
@orangeCat5656 hi, I feel better now after reading your words. Thank you for giving me advices. I feel like I really should go back to journaling tonight.. and thanms for that little reminder, sometimes I overthink a lot of what other people thinks about me... and afraid that they may not really like me. I will try to get better, thank you!
I know it feels unbearably lonely when those closest to you turn away, thinking you complain. But your pain is real, and your heart is calling out for the care it deserves. You are not a burden.
You are a beautiful soul longing to be understood. Please, be gentle with yourself in this hard time. Your feelings matter deeply, and there is a world beyond this silence ready to hold you with love and kindness. You are stronger than you know, and brighter days are waiting for you.
Keep holding on—you are never truly alone💙.
@YorubaAngel thank you so much for your kind words 🧡🧡. I really hope it's true that I'm not a burden for my family.. I used to be a smart kid at school but after I graduated from college I feel like a disappointment for my family.. I haven't work because of my anxiety and low self esteem. I really regretted not using my time to improve my social skill in school/college, I used too much of my time reading those papers to get good grades. I still try to be kinder to myself until now
@hopefulencounter
Please do not listen to what your sister said to you. Yes, she is your family & she is supposed to love you & be there for you & be on your side...but that doesn't mean that she is.
I was close with my older sister for a very long time, until I got sick & wasn't able physically show up like I had been doing up til that point. I didn't realize that, up til that point, it was me doing most of the heavy lifting in that relationship, & that her feelings, concerns, etc etc always came before any of mine did. And then when I got sick, not only did she not show up for me, but she also intimated to several people in our orbit that I was just attention-seeking & not actually sick.
It took me getting sick to see that my sister wasn't actually "there" for me at all, & she was actually annoyed that I couldn't do things for her like I had done up til that point.
My point is that there's a certain type of person (for lack of a better term) that will only stick around if you don't actually need anything from them & they get to be the main focus of the relationship. Perhaps you're dealing with someone like this in your sister?
@ImpartialJar0405 I'm not sure, I think my sister was just tired to listen to my stories. Or maybe she didn't know how to respond..
I think 💬 🤔 you are so very brave to be able to share your feelings with people 💗 and I think 🤔 you would be a cool friend ❤️
@Shinystar2025 aww thank you 🧡🫶
@Shinystar2025 🥰💜
@hopefulencounter
First of all: you're not ungrateful or too much for feeling things deeply. Feeling sad, lonely, or overwhelmed makes you human. The fact that you can feel so much is actually a sign of a sensitive, caring soul. You notice more, you care more, and that’s a rare and beautiful thing in this world.
I’m really sorry that when you reached out to your family, you weren’t met with the kindness you deserved. That kind of dismissal can cut deep — but please don’t let it convince you that your emotions aren’t valid. They are. Your feelings matter. You matter.
@emotionalMango4591 thank you 💖🫶i feel better after hearing your words
Hey, I experience the same things, and I just want to tell you that it's okay to have bad days, and to feel negative feelings without knowing why. Also, I may have a technique if you feel overwhelmed with emotions. It's to close your eyes, and to feel the emotion in different levels. Start by 10, then 100,1000,10000,100000. It looks weird but it magically made me feel a lot better.
@oliveSailboat9838 hello thanks for telling me!💖I will try that
@hopefulencounter You could also talk to someone that would enjoy listening to you and giving you time and space. much love 💛
@aquaMango5138 thanks💖🥰
