✨️A gentle check-in and a reminder for you✨️
Hello everyone. Life can be busy, expectations may arise and in all the life's in-betweens we tend to forget to truly look at our self and give it the care and attention it deserves.
How many times have we actually got so invested in our life's ups and downs and forgot to actually care for ourselves? How many times have we ignored or pushed ourselves for expectations that are just not possible to reach?
The answer? Many times. And I guess all of us have done it, at least once.
This post here is exactly about this:
If you are lost in the life's ups and downs, if you set impossible expectations or simply rush for no reason, take a step back and reflect. Ask yourself what you are actually feeling and what you could improve and let me know in the comments.
A gentle reminder:
When you realize you are getting too caught up with life's unexpected twists and rhythm pause and reflect. Yourself needs to be heard and cared for.
Let me know what you have in the comments. It will be really good to let it out won't it? Feel free to do so here at the comment section. You all deserve care and love but dont expect others to give it to you when you dont do it yourself.
@cheerfulKiwi1776
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@cheerfulKiwi1776
I ll make the start here because I do know how hard it is to actually open up. Something I will share is an expectation I have from myself to always be productive.
Its impossible isn't it? Procrastination hits hard on me. I m unmotivated. But I cannot change this overnight. I have to stop pause, reflect and actually look at how I can improve this. Its hard but I have to do it. Slowly, painfully slowly if its needed.
I need to show care, love and respect to myself in order to move forward. I need to find ways to motivate myself.
Its not easy. And to be honest a thing that helps is always a question we listeners make a lot to members but surely forget to ask ourselves:
- What would you say to a friend in your shoes?
Simply by that question the whole perspective changes doesnt it? We tend to be more caring and friendly and lovely and compassionate and understanding (and so much more) to our friends than ourselves.
Let's ask this question to ourselves then and let's see the results. Sometimes turning the perspective changes.
I hope you get to find what you are looking for. I belive in all of you no matter what. See you soon but till then take care✨️💜
In general, it's times when I do that reflection that I end up having a lot to write. As for what I'm actually feeling, usually there's something negative behind that I'm facing by moving forward. Sometimes I miss emotional reactions and humor in the moment if I'm moving too fast... I need to improve on that
@Torean
Thanks for sharing this. If you want to vent we are where for that. Don't worry if its a long comment. ✨️💜
@cheerfulKiwi1776
Tw- ⚠depressive thoughts⚠
I honestly feel I don't deserve to be loved or cared for. Sorry for language but I don't give a damn about myself. Sometimes I feel bad about it, but then I realise I don't deserve it anyway.
I'll tell you why. I ignore my responsibilities, I do nothing all day except for occasionally slogging on 7 cups, barely am able to help members, can't focus on studies, my exams are coming up, I have a test this Sunday, and I just can't study because I don't want to. I want to do stuff that would entertain me but my parents won't let me so I can focus on studies, but I'm not doing that either way. So basically I'm completely useless and I don't deserve love and care from anyone, not even me.
I do like to give it to others, compassion, love, a listening ear. But I don't want to give it to myself because it would be a waste.
(Sorry if my post upsets anyone... I'll put a trigger warning up there)
@Luminity125
Hey I get how you feel. Its really tough to feel that way and carry it all alone so I hope you got to feel slightly better by posting this and letting it out.
I understand why you feel that way but remember we are where for you. I m one text away.
I also get why you name yoirself so many things but hear me out. You have so many things on your plate and they are so hard to carry alone and it gets a toll on you. You ara not uselles just because you cannot do it all.
You are amazing. 7 cups is proud to have you here among us and you deserve everything good in this world. Please take care and be safe
@cheefulKiwi1776
Thanks 💖✨🫂
@Luminity125
Hey, I'm very sorry you are going through this i have been here before or perhaps still there.
I used to think the same I don't deserve love, care, compassion bcz I'm not doing certain things i used to abuse myself and just kept thinking resentful things about myself.
But the truth is we deserve love and care simply because we exist. Hating on oneself really won't do any good and just make the condition worst we will ignore our responsibilities more.
You know i had one of the super important exam of my life i studied it for whole year and when it actually come closer when there were few months pending for exam i used to over criticise myself, abuse myself i ended up not even studying one hour and it was very important exam of my life by this i Just wanted to tell you the power hatred held.
Then i started to take very little steps like just praying, being grateful just studying for 10 mins and most importantly I tried to remove this concept if I'm not doing any work I'm useless.
When we act in this harsh manner with ourselves it take us time to do things be productive again so just take one small step at a time honestly I knew I had kept myself in such a dark place just bcz i didn't studied so i ignored studied and still appreciated myself tried to love myself
Even if it's doing a yoga just for 5 min be grateful just for 2 min drinking enough water, admiring nature i appreciated myself for each and every small task.
@Luminity125
Also, it's okay if you are barely able to help i also have listener account and i was just helping one member literally one currently I'm not helping anybody bcz I'm myself need help.
And that's okay atleast we are helping even if the quantity is low quality matters more than quantity.
I saw your introduction at one kiwi's forum and you came across to me as a very jovial and bubbly person i liked how you were so expressive and that's what I meant when I say you simply deserve love because you exist.
After reading your introduction my heart become delighted you Just being you not doing anything was enough for me and for it would be for everybody
Trust me dear you deserve all the love and care ❤️❤️. Lots of hugs 🤗🫂
@justpari9
Both of your messages are so heartwarming and fulfilling. You put it better than I could. Thanks for supporting luminity ✨️💜
@justpari9
Thank you so so much Pari I read through your messages and they made me smile, especially hearing that you consider me someone deserving love and care. Your words mean a lot and you were really helpful. Thanks again 💖🫂✨
@cheerfulKiwi1776
I think the pressure of school is really getting to me tbh, along with the pressure of my day to day life and all my other problems. I have over a months worth of work to finish in less than 2 weeks and idk how I'm going to do it. I just don't have the energy or motivation to do it. Sometimes I think it would be easier to just fail the year on purpose to make it go away. idk how to improve or how to fix this. I'm trying so hard everyday but its never enough.
@IzzyGamer
I understand how you feel and i m sorry you feel that way.
I really want you to know that failing the year won't really help. Finish the year and step aside to take time and break for yourself. You need to recharge and see the situation again with a new fresher eye. You are worthy of everything you set your mind to.
Keep the hard work up. I believe in you. Whenever you need something let us know please
Hi gues l'm not good 😔
@Mariacuteworld321
If you want to vent and talk about why feel free to✨️💜
I struggle with procrastination and rushing without any reason. I've been a procrastinator since 3 years I've tried many times to overcome it and each time i failed to maintain consistency perhaps bcz I'm a perfectionist so i had to restart my journey many times of overcoming it and becoming productive.
I rush things alot and i still do not the core reason but it gives me anxiety and sometimes it's physically hurtful as well.
@justpari9
What can i say? I procrastinate and rush with no real reason as well.
I get how bad this can feel but dont blame yourself. You just have to find something that works for you best.
For me, gratitude as a way of life helped me a lot. I dont know if this resonates with you. If you ever feel like It, give a try to learn what gratitude is and how you can adjust your life to it. It helped me in ways I didn't think it could.
Sending courage.✨️💜
Yea gratitude helped me as well and I've found a way to beat it...i just need to start the task it works really well for me.
Thankyou so much we are in this toghether. Big hugs ❤️🫂
@justpari9
I m so glad! Yeah we can be in this together. If you ever need anything let me know please
@cheerfulKiwi1776
i seem to put myself down for not doing a lot of things that need to be done so i end up hurting my self doing them i know it ok to ask for help but been so many times in life i asked for help not got it so i put things on me to get done or let them build up until i end up not being able to do anything for a few days
for me i grow up with no personal space even my body did not belong to me so taking care of self kinda new to me still i know it ok to reflected on things and allow self to be taken care of but find it hard to do
@stormieandpaws
I m really sorry this happened to you. You never deserved any of this but i m really sure you can change this and start to practice more self care. We all are here if you ever need help. We are not gonna let you down.✨️🩵🫂
@cheerfulKiwi1776
thanks the big thing is even if you or other disappoint me that being human but when things go that way to clearly talk it over with me as at times can be misunderstanding within what happened one of the things i do hate was that family members and even my ex hubby would not talk things over to clear things up at times i know others misunderstand me and that ok but to talk it over so much better then pushing it under a rug and not ever talking about it
i find many times if people will just talk things over be honest most anything can be fixed in a relationship but if one willing and the others not most times the relationship end up ending in a bad way
@stormieandpaws
I totally agree with that. Thanks for sharing it here