First Self-harm Help Monday!
Hello everyone! I m so glad we get to start a Self-harm Help Monday! This is the very first one. For those tagged welcome! For those who want to be tagged for the next Monday write in the comments below!
So, let's start!
Every Monday, reply with your 3 'W's in the comments:
1. Win: What is one small victory you had this week? (Even if it’s just 1 hour clean, or using a distraction tactic).
2. Wave: Did you face a heavy wave/urge this week? How did you ride it out?
3. Word: What is one encouraging word or piece of advice you want to leave for the person who comments after you?
Great! Now let's set the rules:
• The Buddy Reply Rule: Once you post your update, please read the comment right above yours and leave them a message of encouragement, a heart emoji, or a supportive thought!
• The Support Rule: Please be supportive to one another! Avoid unnecessary advices. Show empathy!
Dont forget:
💡 Reminder: Relapse is a part of recovery, not a failure. If your streak reset this week, you are still welcome here. Your clean slate starts the moment you decide it does.
I hope you like this. I m so excited to see the comments below🤗
@cheerfulKiwi1776
@Torean @IzzyGamer @HopeWithinDarkness @agreeableSkies9889 @Yougotmyback @7Bear7 @pinkiepie1724 @gregariousNickel1182 @sociablePenny9074 @mytwistedsoul
Win: I've been clean of self harm this week
Wave/Word: I had a wave of paranoia from something that happened, but no heavy urge for self harm. Any negative waves of emotion that powerful can lead back to self-harm, so I'd always recommend calming exercises when needed. That said, I honestly don't even remember how I calmed myself down.
The only comment above mine is the beginning of the thread, so thank you for doing these programs, these can be helpful for a lot of us!
@Torean
Win: I've been clean of self harm this week
Thats so great! It takes a lot to fo that! Well done!!
Wave/Word: I had a wave of paranoia from something that happened, but no heavy urge for self harm. Any negative waves of emotion that powerful can lead back to self-harm, so I'd always recommend calming exercises when needed. That said, I honestly don't even remember how I calmed myself down.
Its understandable! Thank you so much for writing this here! I m sure that it will help many people know they re not the only one going through this. I get how hard it must be if any negative wave comes up and you feel the urge to self harm but I believe in you✨️🤎
The only comment above mine is the beginning of the thread, so thank you for doing these programs, these can be helpful for a lot of us!
Yes indeed it is the beginning of the thread! You are the first one haha! Its my pleasure to do those programs and I m happy they help people
@Torean
Congrats on being clean for the week that's incredible!!
Thanks 😊
@Torean
way to go for not self harming this week and knowing what you needed to do that lead to the win
@cheerfulKiwi1776
Win: I am 16 hours clean!
Wave: Last night I faced a really strong urge; I rode it out by just trying to distract myself and focus on my breathing while consciously thinking about what was around me, the feel of my clothes, etc.
Word: I would say, even if you did relapse, it's not a sign of failure and doesn't mean all the previous work you did for recovery means nothing. Everyone has a bad day, so let's not lose hope!
I am proud of you!
@pinkiepie1724
Thank you!
@gregariousNickel1182
proud of you i was told long time ago even if you end up self harming your not starting over your just had a bump in the road you fell down so you get up brush self off and start were you left off not over from the start in end by doing this one get more and more self harm free days but also end up harming self in less ways too
@HopeWithinDarkness
I really like this way of thinking, thank you for sharing 💙
@gregariousNickel1182
Win: I am 16 hours clean!
Thats just so great! Well done! It indeed is hard to do so. See you next Monday! I hope you keep it up.
Wave: Last night I faced a really strong urge; I rode it out by just trying to distract myself and focus on my breathing while consciously thinking about what was around me, the feel of my clothes, etc.
Thats absolutely amazing and really hard to do! Well done! The ways you described (distraction, focus on breathing and paying attention to your surroundings and feeling them) are really helpful ways for everyone who goes through this. Thanks for telling us!
Word: I would say, even if you did relapse, it's not a sign of failure and doesn't mean all the previous work you did for recovery means nothing. Everyone has a bad day, so let's not lose hope!
I agree with that. Thank you for the kind message. I think it means a lot!
Win: I am 2 days clean from any sh, and I haven't cut in a while
Wave: I relapsed and scratched myself this week. I was getting very agitated and couldn't think of any other way to calm myself
Word: take care of yourself, no matter how recently you last relapsed. try not ti punish yourself.
@pinkiepie1724
I'm proud of you for being 2 days clean. I know it's not easy, so I'm proud of you for trying. (:
@pinkiepie1724
proud of you for not cutting at all understand about the scratching i did same not long ago so get it but remember even in giving in and scratching' it a win due to you did not cut too even tiny ways we improve worth seeing and being proud of self for them
@pinkiepie1724
Win: I am 2 days clean from any sh, and I haven't cut in a while
Well done for being 2 days clean from self harm! Its so amazing! Its hard I know but well done!
Wave: I relapsed and scratched myself this week. I was getting very agitated and couldn't think of any other way to calm myself
Its okay! Stratching is not as bad as cutting. Although it is considered self harm because you intentionally harm yourself its truly amazing that you didnt cut yourself. Its okay if you cannot control all the urges. Hear me out, doing something smaller than cutting with less impact on your body is like taking a small step to overcoming self harm so well done
Word: take care of yourself, no matter how recently you last relapsed. try not ti punish yourself.
Thats a great word! It indeed is true thst we dont have to punish ourselves if we recently relapsed because its all psrt of the cycle and we cannot just get over it overnight.
@cheerfulKiwi1776
Win: I've been clean from sh for I think 2 weeks. Idk I've lost count lol. 🫠
Wave: I've been having urges off and on these past few days, I've just been trying to keep busy and distract myself. It seems to have been helping so far.
Word: relapse doesn't mean you've failed. It helps you work out what does and doesn't help. Your trying you best and at the end of the day that's the best you can do.
That's awesome!!! I'm so proud of you. I know how hard it is
@IzzyGamer
proud of you not sure this will be helpful to you but have you ever tried writing a letter to why you want to self harm what the feeling your having be then writing out ways things that will help you not self harm and why you do not deserve to acted in self harm ways as my therapist had me do that it helped a lot at time as it put the words out there
@HopeWithinDarkness
I've never tried that before. I used to like writing, but I stopped doing it after something happened. I've kinda been able to label why I sh but I'm not good at doing it. Maybe I'll try writing It out sometime. Ty for the suggestion (:
@IzzyGamer
Win: I've been clean from sh for I think 2 weeks. Idk I've lost count lol. 🫠
Glad you lost count it meand you are long clean and well done its not so easy. Identifying 2 weeks are enough. Well done
Wave: I've been having urges off and on these past few days, I've just been trying to keep busy and distract myself. It seems to have been helping so far.
Its amazing! Urges will always be there until you completely get over self harm but hear me out: distracting yourself and keeping your mind elsewhere is an amazing way to do things!
Word: relapse doesn't mean you've failed. It helps you work out what does and doesn't help. Your trying you best and at the end of the day that's the best you can do.
Thats so amazing! I m sure it will help a lot of people
Win. Haven't self harmed in 3-4 weeks!
Wave. I felt really upset with my family and soo tired today I thought I was going to faint. I felt the urge to once today.
Word. Your scars are beautiful don't let anyone tell you otherwise 💞
@agreeableSkies9889
proud of you
your comment about the scars made me smile
i was told one times your scars are your battle wounds do not look at them as bad but look at them as the wounds seen that show the unseen battles you have been fighting each day
@agreeableSkies9889
Win. Haven't self harmed in 3-4 weeks!
Thats so amazingggg! Well doneee!!! Its so hard to do so but well done!
Wave. I felt really upset with my family and soo tired today I thought I was going to faint. I felt the urge to once today.
I m sorry this happened to you. Relapse is common but I believe in you.
Word. Your scars are beautiful don't let anyone tell you otherwise 💞
Oh I love that one. I have scars at my thighs because I went through self harm as well and it was so amazing to read this. Its true.
@cheerfulKiwi1776
Win: What is one small victory you had this week? (Even if it’s just 1 hour clean, or using a distraction tactic).
for me it was not allowing the missup sometime ago to lead back in to self harm daily i had went years without self harming but i scratched arm not long ago so yes mostly self harm free but finding slipups can happen even years free of self harm
2. Wave: Did you face a heavy wave/urge this week? How did you ride it out?
yes had waves of urges this week mostly due to fears i have over health stuff and family stuff i just kelp reminding self that i went years without mostly giving in to self harm
did not want a repeat of when in late 20's after not self harming since age 12yr then crashing into self harm again but was worst then first time so not want to go back into that awful cycle so used self talk and also used that i have ones online that not down me and judge me for having thoughts to harm self
3. Word: What is one encouraging word or piece of advice you want to leave for the person who comments after you?
remember that your not alone and others who safe none judgemental will listen and help you not to self harm when you need help even when you already acted in self harm they support you and listen to you not harm you with put downs and negative words
your never alone
@HopeWithinDarkness
for me it was not allowing the missup sometime ago to lead back in to self harm daily i had went years without self harming but i scratched arm not long ago so yes mostly self harm free but finding slipups can happen even years free of self harm
Thats okay! I m totally amazed by your progress and well done! Its not easy to do so.
yes had waves of urges this week mostly due to fears i have over health stuff and family stuff i just kelp reminding self that i went years without mostly giving in to self harm
did not want a repeat of when in late 20's after not self harming since age 12yr then crashing into self harm again but was worst then first time so not want to go back into that awful cycle so used self talk and also used that i have ones online that not down me and judge me for having thoughts to harm self
Thats totally amazing and shows how strong you are. Well done for not relapsing its not easy. You have suport and you deserve this. Its okay to have fears we all have but dont let them take over you. You've got this.
remember that your not alone and others who safe none judgemental will listen and help you not to self harm when you need help even when you already acted in self harm they support you and listen to you not harm you with put downs and negative words
your never alone
Thats really an amazing message. Thanks for sharing. I m sure people will find it useful
@cheerfulKiwi1776
thank you sadly self harm can even after years of being self harm free but it not allowing it to take over life again my self harm started very very young i can remember being like toddler and pulling handfuls of my hair out until i left bald spot often think if someone would have seen got me help that i might not have spent most my life struggling with self harm but for many self harm and abuse go together another sad thing but after losing parental rights i went off the deep end has taken learning many new coping stills to get to this point
think that the key learning coping skills that healthy and doing healing work that can be very hard a lot of the time
@HopeWithinDarkness
Ineed. I m sorry that happened to you but that made you strong. I had the same thing with the hair as you said when I was younger.
i’m so glad you’re not letting yourself fall back into bad habits, you go queen (or king or royalty i guess? )
@maddelia13
Oh thanks!! I m a girl haha. Take care
That sounds amazing I’m so glad that you are doing that
Thabk youuu. ✨️❤️🫂@Kaylee05
That sounds amazing I’m so glad that you are doing that
win: feeling a wave of guilt and my first instinct was to take a breath instead of hurt myself
wave: no, i had a pretty good week
word: it is all gonna get better!! i know it sounds cliche but it’s true
@maddelia13
win: feeling a wave of guilt and my first instinct was to take a breath instead of hurt myself
Thats so amazing!! Deep breaths, breathing and grounding exercises help so much! Keep going you've got this
wave: no, i had a pretty good week
Thats just great! Well done!
word: it is all gonna get better!! i know it sounds cliche but it’s true
Haha. Its true though things will get better
Thanks