Self-harm help Monday 7!
Nice to see tou all again!! How are you doing???
Every Monday, reply with your 3 'W's in the comments:
1. Win: What is one small victory you had this week? (Even if it’s just 1 hour clean, or using a distraction tactic).
2. Wave: Did you face a heavy wave/urge this week? How did you ride it out?
3. Word: What is one encouraging word or piece of advice you want to leave for the person who comments after you?
Lets set our rules now:
• The Buddy Reply Rule: Once you post your update, please read the comment right above yours and leave them a message of encouragement, a heart emoji, or a supportive thought!
• The Support Rule: Please be supportive to one another! Avoid unnecessary advices. Show empathy!
Our reminder:
💡 Reminder: Most of us take one step forward and two steps back: its all part of the progress, dont beat yourself up if you think that you are not moving forward. Even small steps or even trying is enough.
@cheerfulKiwi1776
@Torean @IzzyGamer @HopeWithinDarkness @agreeableSkies9889 @Yougotmyback @7Bear7 @pinkiepie1724 @redOak4624 @stormieandpaws
Hey @cheerfulKiwi1776 I don't know if you intend to make more help Mondays but if yes, I think I'd like to try and to be a part of it
@FairyPeanut
I think I will! Do you want me to put you in my tag list?
@cheerfulKiwi1776
Yup please
@FairyPeanut
Okay!
@cheerfulKiwi1776
I guess a win could be that I'm 2 days clean.
It's been a really bad week I ended up relapsing a few days ago :/
Sorry to hear it. I relapsed a week ago too. It gets the best of us, but I'm glad you're getting it back on track. I'm trying too
@IzzyGamer
Hey there! I understand how bad it can feel for you to relapse because of a bad week but I assure you that its all part of the progress and there is no need to beat yourself over it!
2 days clean is a massive achievement so well done for managing this!!
You are doing great! Keep going✨️🤍
@cheerfulKiwi1776
Win: What is one small victory you had this week?
not picking at the old places i SH few weeks ago
2. Wave: Did you face a heavy wave/urge this week? How did you ride it out?
urges been bad seeing i did SH few weeks ago just took it one day at a time putting off SH this seems to work for me
3. Word: What is one encouraging word or piece of advice you want to leave for the person who comments after you?
remember you are not your SH but you be a person who been hurt and in end to help went into self harm but remember your not your actions but you a person
@stormieandpaws
Well done for the massive victory of yours! It takes courage to do it and i m proud of you✨️🤍
Its okay if you relapsed and went through bad waves. I understand it must feel bad for you. I m happy you found something that seems to work as well! You are doing great! Keep going!
Thanks for your message. I m sure people will appreciate it✨️
Hi, I want to ask, what's wrong with self-harm?
@Dura2
this part of why id want to learn more i giving the link here to webpage that has more on why it wrong
Self-harm might feel like it helps in the moment, but it causes real damage to your body, your brain chemistry, and your emotional well-being over time. What starts as a way to cope with overwhelming feelings can quietly become a cycle that gets harder to break and introduces new problems that didn’t exist before. Understanding exactly how self-harm hurts you isn’t about judgment. It’s about seeing the full picture of what’s happening so you can find something better.
https://scienceinsights.org/why-is-self-harm-bad-the-real-risks-explained/
personally i self harmed from very young age have many scars but i also say at first my self harm was little things but like a drug i had to have more and more went deeper and deeper to point i end up with staples i am 56yr old can say that self harm lead to other physical and mental things within body yes i still at times self harm but it very bad on every part of my being and bad way to cope with emotions hope this answers your question too
@Dura2
Stormie answered well. Indeed self harm is bad for you in many ways. Its an unhealthy coping mechanism. We are here to help though get over it.
@cheerfulKiwi1776
Win: What is one small victory you had this week?
i was able to see i was stressing out on things and end up resting more the win was both i saw it and that i allowed self to rest within that not feeling guilty i rested
2. Wave: Did you face a heavy wave/urge this week? How did you ride it out?
big one was wanting to give in to the feeling of wanting to self harm but then saw this rage i been having is not wanting to self harm but being angry about things i can not change so that was what was and is going on with in feel like a battle not sure others will get this
3. Word: What is one encouraging word or piece of advice you want to leave for the person who comments after you?
remember your actions are not who you be they just actions that you be trying to change they not define you at all
@stormieandpaws
Well done for resting more and figuring things out! Thsts so great of you! I m really happy you rested without guiltt!
I understand how hsrd this wave was for you! I m really sorry! But its great you managed it as best as you could. I know how hard it can be to figure things out. There is no need to beat yourself up for not having it all figured out. Take small steps
Such a great message you sent here🤍
@cheerfulKiwi1776
thank you saw therapist today she thinks the dizziness is part of the fibro i have she looked it up and it stated that people with fibro can get dizzy spells not really nothing can be done she believes but at least she had a answer doctors seem not to have any answers about many things i saw her for a little over a hour normally see her for 45 min
she thinks the rush of flashbacks and sleep terrors is due to now my brother who abused me very badly no longer here due to his death that it like a door opened were it ok to voice things to be releaved he gone and can not hurt me any more so a new layer of thing from the abuse is coming due to he no longer here so that makes since too \
yes i having self harm thoughts but mostly not acting on them she said once you be self harmer the thoughts and feel like you need to acted on them will always be there so in times of stress one might feel need to acted on it but ones who know other coping skills are ones who will not acted on it mostly so she saying this can happen even with years of not self harming that was very helpful as made me feel better in away also see how far i came as the self harm was like lightly compared to when i was at my worst as then there was many ER visits and landing in psychwared so that true too
@stormieandpaws
I see! I m so glad you understood so many stuff and I m happy that this visit helped.
Visiting your therapist and talking about what happened recently must have helped a lot and I m glad about it.
I understand you go through so many things and that its not easy for you but we are all here for you as well. You deserve the best.
I really really hope you get to sometime find the closure you deserve ✨️🤍
@cheerfulKiwi1776
thank you with my brother that was murdered i kinda found some peace within that but the lack of family caring ablout me then saying they love me kinda hits me hard when i post anything on FB i only get like hearts they sometimes posted back but it only i love you nothing more and most just heart the post say nothing if they truly cared i feel they post more and well at least say they care ask more questions but none of them do
my one ex sis in law will post a message in my messager there and ask more questions at times she same one that keeps me in the loop about my great niece that just turned 1yr and had i think 7 heart surgeries since birth and been in hospital most her first year of life
so it seem like 2 of my ex sis inlaws care more about me then my other family members
@stormieandpaws
Hey I understand how hard this can be for you. Your family members not caring enough is something I understand really, because of my family as well.
But I have to say that you have the 2 ex sis in laws and isnt that great somehow? At least you have someone to care for you. You can always focus on that. I know it hurts not to have a care from your family but we should be grateful for the people that are there for us as well
I understand how you feel though. Your feelings are valid. Take care of yourself✨️🤍
win: i am 6 days clean today
wave: it has been unbelievably difficult and idl how much longer I can do this
word: dont give up. this os the longest ive gine in 5 months
@pinkiepie1724
Wow! 6 days clean?! Such a great achievement! Well done!
I know its hard. I knwo you try your best and thats awesome. You are incredibly strong. If you relax though think that its all part of the progress. No need to beat yourself up on it.
Such a great message🤍
@cheerfulKiwi1776
I meant to say
If you relapse**
oh I relapsed alright
@pinkiepie1724
I know how hard this must be for you but as I said relapsing is part of the progress. Sometimes it doesnt feel like that and you feel like you failed yourself but trust me its okay. Dont beat yoursellf up for this just try to find better ways to help your self and your urges.
You've got this. We are here for you.✨️🤍
