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What do you do to feel better?

User Profile: GlenM
GlenM September 23rd, 2020

Thank you all for the book and talk recommendations here. We have cataloged them all and I'm working on an outreach plan to reach out to each person that you've recommended.

I'm wriring today with a different, but related, question that I think will also help us better help others that are having a hard time. We've all heard the term "coping skills". These are things that we can do to help ourselves feel better. Sometimes we do these things on purpose because we are struggling; sometimes we do them by accident and don't necessarily realize that they help us change our mindset or help us get unstuck.

When I did therapy (many years ago!), I used to ask people to think about 3-4 things that they do that help them feel better. Then, I'd ask clients to do those very specific things whenever they were having a hard time. This little intervention helps quite a bit because it allows people to tap into skills that they already have and enjoy using.

I'm guessing our community has one of the richest catalogs of coping skills on the planet. I would imagine we have identified hundreds of ways to help ourselves feel better when struggling. If comfortable, please share them here. My goal is to capture all of these and write them up as growth path steps once the playlist is live. If you can, please write them up as you would say them to a good friend.

Here are some quick coping skills from my life:
-talk with my wife or friends
-take a walk
-run
-watch a mindless movie

What works for you?

Thank you!

Update: If any of these look particularly good to you please comment and upvote to let me know which ones work best. Thank you!

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User Profile: reservedCat7472
reservedCat7472 September 26th, 2020

I listen to songs and cook my FAv food

User Profile: scissorhands92
scissorhands92 September 26th, 2020

Go for a walk with my headphones on. Autumn sets the mood for Rachmaninoff :)

User Profile: Derekfan7695
Derekfan7695 September 26th, 2020

Spend time with my cats, swim, read, watch tv, mentor children, etc.

User Profile: PaolaGiordaniMA
PaolaGiordaniMA September 26th, 2020

If you have a dog, you can also start your day with a good brisk walk with your dog that will set you both up for a wonderful start of the day.

User Profile: Ylbirda
Ylbirda September 26th, 2020

I love to read.

I also really enjoy puzzles. It really makes me concentrate and I forget about everything else.

User Profile: AnnCupicake
AnnCupicake September 26th, 2020

When feeling a bit stressed I just do a short prayer and sleep for like an hour? surprisingly most times I wake up feeling better??

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User Profile: empathrealist
empathrealist September 26th, 2020

@AnnCupicake I take a long shower with some jazz music and good lights. :)

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User Profile: FriendlyAnju777
FriendlyAnju777 September 26th, 2020

Listen to an inspirational speech

User Profile: SunshinePopsicle
SunshinePopsicle September 26th, 2020

- Listen to music

- Watch Videos online

- Journal a lot

- Excercise

- Looking for recipes to cook

User Profile: nadiasaleh26
nadiasaleh26 September 26th, 2020

Can anyone helpme

By saying recommendation

To made me feel better

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User Profile: purpleTree4652
purpleTree4652 September 27th, 2020

@nadiasaleh26, rub your feet or your legs or your arm, or your tummy, or your scalp. Go outside just to be outside, even if it's to walk around the block and back. Go to the sharing circles and vent. Join a subcommunity and let out what bothers you. Do you have a faith? If so, pray. Do exercises even if it is one repitition of each exercise. It is a good place to start. That's what I did. I started with one repitition of each exercise and only when I felt comfortable did I move up to 2 repititions of each exercise. Then when I felt comfortable, I moved up to 3, and so on. I hope you do it, so you feel better. :)

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User Profile: dhabib
dhabib September 27th, 2020

I do something joyful and I take walks and being with my dog and meditate and color my stress and anixety away

have some alone time

rejuvenate and try to get my energy back

not worry about I can't control in my life and separate myself from negativity and journal and free myself from all the affects of others doing what's bad I life in the world