Self Care Report Card
What have you been doing for self care this week?
I went through a bad phase several years ago where I was bedrotting and not in a good way. I isolated myself in my bed every day.
These days I don't spend time in my bedroom unless I'm napping or sleeping. But yesterday, I let myself lie in bed and do nothing else but watch videos and play games on my phone. The last few days around here have been stressful and I gave myself the day off. It felt good. Yeah, I felt a little guilty about it, but I needed that break. As much as I talk about good self-care, I still feel guilty sometimes for making time for myself, but it's getting better.
Hello @SelfCareMatters. What are some things that helped you take those first few steps OUT of bed? My life is in shambles and it’s not going to get better if I can’t figure out how to emerge from the worst funk of my life. My girls need me, I canNOT and WILL not fail them. I’m desperate to get my life back ❤️
For me, it was 4 months at intensive residential treatment for my mental health that got me on a schedule. Now, I use a self-care app called Finch. It's free and it helped me establish a routine at home. At first my goals were eat, drink water, take meds, survive the day. Then I started adding things in.
Give yourself ONE task to do. Do one load of laundry. Put the dishes away. Brush your teeth. Just one thing is good for now. Plato said that ANY progress, no matter how small, is progress. You will feel good after you accomplish that one goal.
One thing I always do is schedule ME TIME into my day. Maybe it's a nap, prayer, meditation, I always make sure I make time for rest.
This is some awesome advice, thank you so much!! I really think that part of my “problem” is that I have not really been held accountable by anyone else. Yeah, my family talks sh*# about the decisions I have made. But I’ve made every major decision (the good ones AND the bad ones). I feel now as though it sort of sent me adrift and by default I have gotten into the routine of not having a routine……..if I don’t have anyone else to answer to I can do things on my terms, when I’m ready. I suppose maybe the concept of being a free spirit is a great feeling for a while. But lately I’ve found that I feel quite isolated and alone.
Additionally, I’ve learned that I really do need some structure and accountability in my life. If I don’t take the steps to ensure I make these changes, I know that I will continue to hold myself back from making strides to become a healthier ME.
Your words of advice will definitely stay with me, and I will use your ideas to help me establish my routine and accomplish my goals. ❤️
@AshleyNFlewellenLPC Since April I need get back to taking care of my health by once again commiting my time to go to my medical appointments. Giving myself me time to relax by enjoying da outdoors n fresh air. My needs at this time arent bein’ met ‘cause I am giving my all to my family an doing nothin’ for me.
@eternalHero77 I have been in a similar situation. I addressed how I felt with my family and let them know what I needed from our relationship but sadly they did nothing and didn’t really care. I have since just distanced from them as the relationship became toxic. But it gave me time to concentrate on me and what I wanted to do. I wish you the best.
@eternalHero77 I can totally relate to that feeling. I’m in my late 40s and have lived my life trying to make others happy, but have decided it’s time to make myself happy!! And I’m with ya on that whole being outside vibe!!! I love summer time!
@AshleyNFlewellenLPC
Prioritising my post op rehabilitation.
And pleasingly, starting to see positive results
@AshleyNFlewellenLPC - hi. I have a couple of areas on this check in that I really need some help with. I am not getting enough sleep. This has gone on for a long time. Next I have little to no social circle which makes it hard to connect on a level that I am starving for. Finally, I currently am not processing my feelings in a healthy way. Are there any resources you might be able to share that might help me?
@NorinRadd013 Exact same position I find myself currently and it's affecting every other side of my life
@AshleyNFlewellenLPC
Positive Self talk is improving
Id like to enjoy something I love today & clean up my bedroom.
All of the above. The only area that needs improvement is social needs being met
@AshleyNFlewellenLPC Trying, but ultimately failing, to cool down 🥵🥵
@AshleyNFlewellenLPC
Something to relax/relieve stress, i.e. eating snacks. (´•᎑•`)
Getting a cool down with aircon and watching a movie
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