Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Friday 4th January
Hey Trauma Family,
This week its time for our Day 6 of the ACT series topic Become Willing
Goal: To learn how to take things as they are.
Acceptance is the act of receiving or taking what is offered. Willing is a synonym for accepting. Acceptance and willingness can be understood as an answer to the question: Will you take me as I am?
Questions
1. What are some examples of willingness?
2. What are some examples that are not willingness?
Bonus Activity
Share your thoughts below to better understand this concept.
a Short video to watch that goes nicely with this topic HERE
Of course this is optional for joining in on the topic your welcome to say Hi and post a regular check in too
My Trauma discussions are Adults 2pm ET Sunday topic Session Three - The Denial of Trauma and abuse Teen 6pm ET Tuesday topic Dealing with Domestic Abuse
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I have repeated myself over and over again. I SAID REMOVE ME FROM THE TAG LIST.
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@CaringBrit
think prob still flashbacks...day 3
@ReallyRuth aww no flashbacks arent nice
@CaringBrit
@ReallyRuth your post is empty just says my name
@CaringBrit
sorry to be rude...bad day
@ReallyRuth wasnt rude it can easily happen at any point no worries and sorry to hear its a bad day today would you like to talk about it
@CaringBrit
constant flashback really overwhelming
@ReallyRuth i can see how that is overwhelming
do you have any coping methods that could be off help to you
@CaringBrit
Got myself home.
Have a blanket.
Turned off noisy things.
Trying to breathe slowly
@ReallyRuth those are all great things do you have any hobbies that you could do to helptoo
@CaringBrit
not for right now..
just going to sit really still and quiet in the blanket for a bit if that's ok
😭
@ReallyRuth thats more than ok would you like me to sit with you
@CaringBrit
💜
@ReallyRuth 💜
@CaringBrit
Still sitting here
@ReallyRuth
Thank you for being kind
@ReallyRuth your welcome its who i am i genuinely care its why i came to volunteer here
@ReallyRuth -sits with you- im here
@CaringBrit
💐💜😭
@ReallyRuth aww dont cry hugs if you would like one your safe in here
@CaringBrit
feel so stupid. Wed I unintentionally read something sort of related to my trauma. I don't understand it, but I have gotten stuck reading and rereading and rereading it. I try stopping and think I have stopped but then nope...the flashback kicks in and I am doing it again...for a stupid amount of time.
@ReallyRuth aww ruth when you read it was you trying to search for something before doing so
@CaringBrit
Looking for something completely different
@ReallyRuth ah i see
@CaringBrit
Thanks for sitting w me. I'm feelimg a bit better and am going to try to sleep
@ReallyRuth aww yw hope you sleep well
@CaringBrit
Thanks yes. It was good, but still stuck today
@CaringBrit
Thank you for sitting with me the other day. After having lost most of Wed afternoon-Sun morning, i have been MUCH more in the present for the last few hours. I still have to work at it and am a little frightened of sliding back again , but at least I am doing better.
@ReallyRuth your welcome anytime ruth
willingness - accepting emotions as they come, even bad ones like anxiety, and not judging them.
unwillingness - judging your emotions and trying to push away bad feelings.
trying to remind myself of this as i struggle with anxiety today.
@crimsonSpruce612 spot on and youve got this you know this but i do understand the want to push it away your not alone
@CaringBrit
Thanks so much 
@crimsonSpruce612 yw
how have you been feeling
@CaringBrit
mostly pretty good. i've been dealing with some stuff that's coming up as i deal with my trauma, which can make some days difficult. like today i feel a lot of anxiety and i'm not sure why. that happens often. but i feel lighter since opening up about my trauma so most days have been pretty good. thanks for asking.
1. Some examples of willingness would be honesty and openness.
2. An example of unwillingness would be denial.
@FaithfulPrune9638 definetly faithful great examples of both
@CaringBrit
Hey, where's days 1 through 5 on the series? That would be interesting for me to do those also.
@FaithfulPrune9638 one sec ill go grab all there links once ive found them all ill then link them here for you
@CaringBrit
Okay, thank you! I will get on these.
@FaithfulPrune9638 hope you enjoy them
@CaringBrit
Hi. I'm having a rough time lately. Would aomeone sit with me? I'm tired of being alone.
@RedHawk6547
Sitting with you and offering safe hugs.
@crimsonSpruce612
Thank you for the hugs and for sitting with me. It means a lot to me.
@RedHawk6547
You're so welcome, Redhawk. Anytime
@RedHawk6547 ill sit with you too
1. Willingness is consent to allow someone to help you or to do something for you. Willingness to accept a compliment instead of pushing it away. Willingness to accept a friend. It can also be internal. Willingness to want to get better. Willingness to ground myself when I am triggered instead of riding the train of misery out. Willing to try to accept positivity.
2. Unwillingness is the triggers. The claustrophobic feeling I feel whenever I'm reminded of situations I have been in. The unwilling voice in my head that tries to convince me its better to be miserable because if I'm happy I am vulnerable because happiness can go away.
@sadcupoftea
Sometimes I feel the same as your example at the end of number 2. It is scary sometimes & it can be hard.
@sadcupoftea you are spot on it can definetly be internal also great pointing that out
I am new to this part of the 7 cups community. Just wanted to introduce myself. Love that you have DBT skills here! I took DBT a few times, and have a workbook here at home I am plowing through. My traumas are many, but in a nutshell, severe childhood abuse that reached into adulthood with its many tentacles of pain and endless consequences of the abuse. My mother is my main living abuser, but both parents were guilty of it, amongst other perps. I am currently trying to end my mother's destructive power in my life, after having severed the relationship nearly a year ago. It has caused severe depression in me, which I am now trying to survive. Just sayin', the abuse might have been technically over a long time ago, but complex PTSD is the gift that keeps on giving. Thanks for having a special forum just for people who have been traumatized!
@struggler64 heyy there welcome to Trauma Community its good to have you with us the series im doing each friday check in is based on ACT acceptance comittment therapy each day has a topic so im glad you are happy by the skills it relates too
sorry to hear of what youve endured but your not alone and how you feel is valid and ok to feel the way you do good job on cutting ties with toxic people
@CaringBrit
Thank you!
@struggler64 yw
