Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Thursday 16th August 2018
Hello lovely trauma family
So good to be here with you! Its only a day or so ago that we were all reeling from the news that once again many of our leadership team had gone.. there was no preparation for this, so like with any sudden loss tthere was shock..felt this when I came to wirte a reply here and had no words. We had already weathered some stormy times and now again we were thrown into a sea of uncertainty and hurt. To lose part of our family, people we have grown to love and trust, and our leader too, is so scary.. and especially for trauma survivors. And that it was imposed on us, and there didn't seem to be any contingency plans was alarming This was our safe place.. it wasn't feeling so safe now.
Yet there was an amazing response coming through in the check ins. As we expressed our hurt, anger and disbelief, our appreciation for all the support we have known here, our love and caring for each other, and our determination to pull together, there was warmth and comfort. And a sense of the strong bonds that bind us together, that will sustain us through this. We 're not sure how,. and that's ok for now. The team who are here want to reassure you that we are doing our best and are working with you and for you.
I found this poem by Rachel in www.hellopoetry.com .. it reminds us that after a storm comes calm,..
Calm After theStorm.
I am tired. I am worn
For this is the calm after the storm.
Heartbeat ceases to race
Everything seems to fall into place.
Take comfort in cycles and patterns
Separate the insignificant from what matters
History repeats itself they say
The Universe works in a funny way.
So push through thoughts of growing older
Of growing colder, of forgetting to be bolder
To the back of my mind
Shelved there somewhere diffcult to find.
And think instead of stories that turn out okay
Think of the sounds of waves and rainy days.
For I am slowly breathing
Almost sleeping
Nearly dreaming
Simply being.
"Youu can't calm the storm, so stop trying. What you can do is calm yourself. The storm will pass."
How is your day going? How are you doing? Have you taken some time to simply be, to sit in the sun, to read a book, to watch a funny movie, to listen to your favourite music.. nows a good time for this.(i'm currently being entertained by quotes and pictures of my favourite bear!) Or pop in to say hi! You're welcome here. This is your space and a safe place. With love from rozie. x
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@rozie what exactly is going on with leadership... I am so confused and the lack of stability with meetings has been getting to me (I am most certainly not blaming anyone I just would like to know what is happening so I don't feel so lost!). Beautiful poem btw, it gave me chills :)
As for me... I am doing okay! I think? The migraines have abated a bit and I'm off the horrible meds (the doctor agreed!) so feeling more normal. I'm trying to give up smoking as well because they may be a trigger, but with a vape I am finding it more fun than challenging ahah.
@Lilibuth12
Admins removed members from the trauma leadership. Specifically they removed Rain from leading this team, Raven, Kite, Bee, Miss Deb and I'm not sure who else
@sensitiveShade5337
But why? Rains been like ... this teams rock since the beginning... And who the hell are 'Admins' jeez. What on earth is happening here.
@Lilibuth12
Okay wait what. WHERES EVERYONE GONE!??? Um does anyone know why they have gone? Sorry I am more confused now and i've got to agree with @shade this community has been all about support for me and I have no idea wtf is going on.
(sorry if I sound angry! not angry, just very very alarmed).
@Lilibuth12
as far as I know Rain and Raven have deleted their accounts and guess whose fault is that? Yup you got that right! Admins fault
@Lilibuth12
They did not leave. They were removed from the leadership team because the 7cups management decided that they were not ' professional ' enough. In a nutshell.
They are still here, still supporting, still loving.
@nolongerafraid
Okay, trying to calm down. Sorry I feel I am a little late to the party on this, but um yeh, don't do well with change, sudden change especially, this has really really thrown me. I expect it has thrown everybody <3
Okay well I guess we need to build up this team again... wish I could help, but I am about as predictable as... well not predictable at all and have no idea how i'd help mod. I mean its like having a job, seems like a huge amount of work, and I really appreciate everyone who does it takes alot of commitment.
I guess it is team hug time!!!
@Lilibuth12 Thanks yes, I agree! Time for a group hug!
@nolongerafraid
Raven did actually leave though. That was completely her decision, and done before we were all removed. Just to keep things factual. Laura removed the rest of us, but Raven chose to leave on her own.
Rozie
beautiful poem
But I am about to blow or erupt. Looking at throwing a hot pot of grits on someone. Trying to calm my storm but it ain't working my horns are coming out
@scarletPear1945
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_mZbzDOpylA
It is maybe a little bit childish but this song always helps me calm down. It reminds me to breath until the monster inside calms down.
I just read what happened, that is really a mean thing to do. I understand that you are p*ssed. I would be too.
If I am angry a hug does not help but I am ofefring anyway.
@nolongerafraid
Thanks, I needed that
@scarletPear1945
Are you doing a bit better? Were you able to eat those grits instead?
Hugs!
@nolongerafraid
Well.......y e s s with reservation. Don't want to go to jail today (LOL)
still pissed though
@scarletPear1945 Good for you. Jail is not a fun place. And it is okay to be angry, a very logical response.
Is it fixable?
@nolongerafraid
So far I have not been able to. Still trying
@nolongerafraid
that song is actually pretty great!
@sensitiveShade5337 I know, I love it!
@nolongerafraid
I also want to apologize for yesterday I was very angry and i lashed out on you and I'm very sorry about that
@sensitiveShade5337 It's okay Shade, we are all on edge. I am too.
But thank you. 💖
@nolongerafraid
i hope you forgive me -friendly hugs- if you want them
@sensitiveShade5337 Yes, I would love one 💖
To all my trauma family..
I'm coming up with this as I'm supposed to be working 😂 but I just wanted to share a poem I wrote for all here..
The strength and resilience of everyone here
Combined together we can show no fear
This place is still about care and love
And I know together we can rise above
We have found our voices and they are to be used
Not silenced and forced to become subdued
We can huddle together inside of warm forts
After all we are each others strongest supports
The love and care inside of this place
Shows that this will always be our safe space
I have come across the kindest and gentlest souls
Inside of our crazy but beautiful family here
Our inspiring team members
Have worked so hard to show us all
We are worth fighting for
This poem is to express how I feel
And I have to say I've always been in awe
Of the care and love from all
The constant and unwavering support
The welcoming and compassionate spirits
I'm sending out my love
And a ton of hugs..
Ok that fell flat at the end 😑
@calmLake1999
Wow Calm! I love it
Ton of hugs!
@calmLake1999
😊
@calmLake1999
Oh Calm, thank you for your beautiful words describing all that we have here.. love your poem. x
@calmLake1999
Calm
thank you
@rozie I feel so mad about what happened yet not surprised, 7cups has proved not to care about trauma survivors over and over. I had been treated unprofessionally and rudely by listeners with high positions here for being a trauma survivor with concerns. So I understand very well the ones who left and I'm so sorry this is the way things happened, we had these great people who really cared an they made them leave, how can 7cups tell us this is a place for support when they do these things, how can they not feel embarrassed at all. Unfortunately they don't care. I don't come a lot here but I come from time to time and it was a place to feel a little safe inside 7cups so I don't want them to take this away. Thanks to everyone who works so hard for this community, to anyone who actually cares.
@Imaginativa2930
Im sorry to hear about your experiences around here, but im glad to hear this has been a sort of safe place sometimes. Thank you Imaginativa for coming here and using your voice, for your support and acknowlegment
It's been a really rough week. Physically and emotionally for me and my family
@wittySpruce8187
So much is happening and changing and I want to just be alone, be done like nothing new happen
@wittySpruce8187
Can I hug you anyway? With everything going on in your life and the desire to be alone you are stll reaching out and that is really strong and brave. I am really proud of you, you know that?
Things will get better.
@nolongerafraid
yes you can and thank you 💜💜
@scarletPear1945
@nolongerafraid - me too, Mas? May I have one (or seven) too? ~ Platy
@cyanPlatypus6370
Take us many as you like 💖
@nolongerafraid - :D
(puts gif on repeat) lol cuz it already is! :P
Thank you for lovely pink elephant hugs. ~ Platy
Just popping in to say hi. I'm in a bit of a tailspin and nobody has time for that.
@practicalIdeal2007
Sorry to hear that. But we have time, you came to the right place.
@nolongerafraid
Everything feels like it's falling apart. Online, offline all of it. Nothing feels stable. I don't know what to do with all the unraveling. There are so many thoughts. So many reasons I should just give up.
@practicalIdeal2007 I know that feeling all too well but you know what?
This is not the most stable place right now, I know that, but we are here and we do care. And we will keep caring and do what we can to keep you safe. That is one reason to stay here and keep going. And I am sure there is plenty of reason to hold on a little bit longer for you too. You can do it. This too shall pass.
@practicalIdeal2007
How about writing? At least expressing all your feelings. Screaming it out is good too or drawing and painting.
@practicalIdeal2007
What keeps you going? There's a fighter inside of you that keeps you going or you wouldn't keep reaching out. Embrace that fighter inside of you, it's stronger than all the other voices telling you to give up.
@Silentwinds
I don't really know what keeps me going. Sometimes I think it is nothing more than knowing if I give up completely that somehow they win. Letting them win doesn't feel like an option.
Dude, this is so stinking sad! I'm thinking of leaving the trauma 'support' community, because of threads/posts like this. People are all mad and blaming it on one person it seems. I do not want any replies to this. If you are a (L) feel free to message me, but not here. I don't know what happened or what was or was not sad, but the repercussions are no fun - to put it mildly. :( Platy
--- rather "what was or was not said"
human spell check needed!