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User Profile: PartyofNo1always
PartyofNo1always August 12th, 2024

I am so lonely. I look around a see really horrible people loved and cared for. Yet I am all alone. I often think if really bad people can have friends and be loved, what does that say about me? I can't even get therapists to care. I had one but he was God awful and was just going through the motions until i stopped seeing him. I signed up for treatment in 2018 but have never received any services. I don't think they liked me. Iwould love just to be able to talk to someone. Doesn't have to be anything earth shattering, just some friendly chit chat. Just some kind of connection with someone. But I am afraid my flaws run so deep it would be impossible.



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User Profile: toughTiger6481
toughTiger6481 August 12th, 2024

@PartyofNo1always

WE can not see why so many times others whom we think are awful ,,,, still have friends or people .....but we never question the quality of those relationships or for that matter those people who are their friends they are often awful too...  OR they see good in the person we found awful. 

Relationships are hard for many........... some of us may be selective as well .... I could have more friends and but i want deeper connection and most settle for acquaintances only superficial connections. 

Therapy is another topic many people need to go thru many to find a person who can relate does care and helps you.  It is one of the downfalls in therapy.....finding a right fit.  no other doctor do we face that unless one is clearly incompetent.    It is so refreshing to find someone to chit chat ... about anything and we find out more about ourselves in doing so.

I hope you find not just one but many to have conversations with and feel included.

User Profile: galacticalchemist
galacticalchemist August 12th, 2024

@PartyofNo1always 

hey i am currently going though the same situation as you lol. but i've kinda got to learn a lot from it.

i used to visit a psychologist but now i don"t because my mom wasn't really satisfied with him. so she took me to a psychiatrist who prescribes medicines and only gives me motivation and stuff. i thought that was all i needed. i was getting the energy that i need from the medicines. but then  realised that deep within, i was sad and lonely. deep within there was a part of me that was lonely and needed someone who can understand me.

in this situation i called my fav cousin. he knew me so well and spilled all the truth about me. i was wondering why i didn't call him. i took him for granted. he told me about the friends that i had and i have been avoiding them for i while now. that i have been avoiding them because i thought of myself to be unworthy of having friends. i took my frends for granted....

so all i want to say is, there are people out there for you ALWAYS and only if you are ready to receive them. you are worthy of being loved. maybe try putting yourself out there and making conversations. i know how hard it is to do that, im afraid of rejection. but i cant be this way for long cus i need to be valued and loved. i have taken my friends and relatives that i had for granted and i cant be like this anymore. just step out of your comfort zone dude and maybe even talking to strangers would help, who knows?

User Profile: Izsha
Izsha August 12th, 2024

@PartyofNo1always

Aloha,

🫂💗👽

I am among the loneliest of entities on this planet so... support me as well?

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User Profile: wishfulPiano5648
wishfulPiano5648 August 17th, 2024

@Izsha Hey! Would you like to befriend me?


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User Profile: fairmindedBranch9231
fairmindedBranch9231 August 12th, 2024

@PartyofNo1always Hey still looking for a chit-chat? 

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User Profile: wishfulPiano5648
wishfulPiano5648 August 17th, 2024

@fairmindedBranch9231 We could be friends.


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User Profile: heavenlyWatermelon44
heavenlyWatermelon44 August 12th, 2024

@PartyofNo1always

hi there. How are you now? What you think about yourself and what you speak to yourself matters. I will be happy to join your chit-chat, so let's start.

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User Profile: PartyofNo1always
PartyofNo1always OP August 13th, 2024

I go to chat but everyone there is in middle of their own chats. It seems rude to interrupt.

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User Profile: Snor1ax
Snor1ax August 13th, 2024

@PartyofNo1always I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so lonely and isolated. That must be really difficult to deal with. It's understandable to feel discouraged when you see others connecting easily while you're struggling. As a listener, I'm just letting you know that you're free to reach out if you want to have a chat.

User Profile: Torean
Torean August 14th, 2024

Hey, I find that really relatable. Especially on the therapist part, I've literally had that same experience... I saw two at one place and one of them was literally always falling asleep before we even started.


I've never really fit in anywhere truly, but here has been a different story. I'm definitely here for some chatting. Your flaws would probably just make me like you more, but I don't judge either way.

User Profile: Jewels2270
Jewels2270 August 15th, 2024

Same, I'm lonely and the people around me are pretty horrible ppl that are supposed to love and care about me. I don't have any friends either, they abandoned me in high school and recently my gf dumped me because of my issues she got tired of me, who could of thought.. nah, I tried being good but honestly you still labeled as a bad person. So why bother right?


My ex bf I waited two years for him to come back, he dumped me after his parents took him away from me to go to therapy so I got beef with therapy but I'm trying my best to survive. I had god awful experience with jobs practically they DIDNT EVEN BOTHER TO GIVE ME AN INTERVIEW AND HAD ME WAIT JUST TO TELL ME IM UNQUALIFIED. The manager was non existent and keep throwing me hoops to go in. But story of my life I guess

Hope the best 🍀

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User Profile: StressedGirl
StressedGirl October 2nd, 2024

@Jewels2270 SO sorry to hear this :/ Love to you.

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User Profile: NotAllHere713
NotAllHere713 August 15th, 2024

@PartyofNo1always 

I empathize with you. I have very few close friends. Now there is only 1 I keep in touch with. I always wondered what was wrong with me because of this. Not attractive enough, not rich enough, etc. I had trouble finding a therapist who cared. My first one just sat there and listened, but didn't do anything. Now I have a therapist who was recommended by my Psych. You just need to keep trying to find the right support for you (drugs are not the answer). 

Everyone has flaws. I have too many to count. I have major depression, extremely low self-esteem, anxiety, and PTSD. I wonder if anyone truly loves me or just wants something. 

Just remember you are not alone here. 

Mahalo for sharing. Lots of Aloha 🌺

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User Profile: listener07153
listener07153 August 17th, 2024

@NotAllHere713 These are not flaws.  It's not flaws to struggle but I understand why you feel this way.

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User Profile: dhabib
dhabib August 16th, 2024

@PartyofNo1always I don’t like being alone at night I refuse to wonder around it’s not okay it’s not safe I never knowwhat’s going to occur happen I and a friend put me in danger once she didn’t even car she’s not respectful she left me for another girl she wrestles she’s aggressive a threat combative mean she upsets me triggers me makes me sad I have reported her before for police reports