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Hey, joined fairly recently, nice to meet you all :)

Hi! I'm new. I am honestly still figuring out what is my biggest need. I scored 77% for "struggle" though, which does make me recognize I do have some things to face. I have been having stress at home in feeling unsupported. I also feel fear of not being good enough and being cheated on... and weird things can trigger feelings of fear of infidelity. Funny thing is, i haven't been cheated on in over 10 years so being afraid of it after so long surprises me. Anyways, I recognize the feelings, I'm here, and I won't let them define me.

Hello I am new and still figuring out where to start. My mother and step father passed away in February of last year, the spring of my 2nd year in a PhD program. Last year was also the year I had my first major surgery, took my comprehensives for PhD, and my brother and his wife had a baby. I've found myself unable to focus and don't enjoy things I used to. I tried to get help through my university but they didn't seem that inclined to want to help (even a death in the family support group never returned my email). I've tried dealing with it on my own but I find myself not meeting deadlines, not getting normal things (laundry, dishes, etc.) done, and I just have no interest in things that matter. I'm hoping to find some help here.

Hello there. I'm new here, just joined a few minutes ago. I've always been obsessed in my relationships. Now that I've acknowledged that, I'm afraid I'm ruining my current relationship and I think my boyfriend is beginning to get tired of me. He's kind, shows me love and affection, gives me attention, takes me out on dates, talks about a future together, listens to me and tries his best to change behaviors that have affected our relationship badly in the past. My other problem is that I am controlling and feel frustrated when I can't control a situation. How do I stop? I can't afford a therapist but some advice would really help because I don't want to lose this man. He has been tolerating thus far, I don't know when he will finally feel like he's had enough. Thank u for taking the time to read

Hello,

I am new and have been struggling with anxiety, depression, and ptsd. Ive been so angry and irritable and I dont even know who I am anymore only just what emotion is coming out. I dont want this to stress my new relationship and has cause very low self esteem and self confidence. Ive gone through this before and feel like its a never ending cycle.

Chelsea

Hi yall. Im just having a rough time, in general. Life is a struggle at the moment and Im hoping to find a little clarity here. Sigh.

Hiya all, I'm new here. Work stress related, toxic company, bad colleagues, but nothing major in life, carrying some burdens, I'm living well, just not happily ever after. Just want a space to vent and people to talk to (that doesn't know me IRL).

Hello i am new here as well.

Hello, new here. I'm trying this site because I'd rather win my fight against my problems.

This has actually been a rough year for me and my family as we have a loved one in jail right now. We've gone through intense pain and suffering these last few months, we visit him but nonetheless it's been hard without this family member. What hurts even more is that this family member was convicted on false accusations. He stood no chance at the jury trial against the weight of the accusations. The judge had a hard task in pleasing everyone, and I want to believe the public defender did what they could to help this family member.

He rejected the plea deal and stood up for his innocence. But the People wanted him to be accountable for something.

I'm not going to lie, I cry my eyes out regularly in dealing with this. The worries, the distance, the hopelessness. The nightmares even. My worst fear is that this family member won't be the same when they get out. Which I know is unavoidable, the system preys on the inmates and judges them at face value. No consideration, they don't care about your story.

But then I breathe again. And I try to live again. And I won't give up, I didn't get this far to lose.

I'm here maybe to help with the stress. Also to say that you have to keep it together, THERE IS NO OPTION. We are the ones who have to carry the torch and hope for the best as we weather the storm.