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Why does the same situation affect me and not others?

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Last Updated: 06/26/2020 at 8:17am
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Shadesofpeace
June 9th, 2015 5:31pm
How we react to situations is determined by individual life experience personal beliefs and experiences.
Corvius
September 8th, 2015 3:51pm
Hello :). I am not aware of the situation here, nor I know the details, but what I can tell you is that it's most likely because every person's conciousness consists of multiple things, including experiences that person went through. You may have experienced and saw some things, that tie that situation closer to you, more personal, that's why you are emotionally affected by that and others may not be. For example... Someone who saw alot of family violence as a kid may be alot more vulnerable and sensitive to seeing violence and hearing people yell as a grown up. It may affect that person alot, because he can relate to that with his own experiences, while it may not affect others whatsoever. Hope you understand and I hope I helped. Best regards, with respect, Corvius.
AbbieAlexis
March 26th, 2015 8:40pm
It might affect them too but maybe they don't show it as much. Or maybe because you care about the situation more, like maybe it means more to you
MindfulMeg
September 14th, 2015 3:48pm
Everyone interprets the world from a different perspective because each individual has a different story. So something that may be easy for another person may not be easy for you because you have a previous experience that changes how you view the situation.
RJordan
July 5th, 2016 2:01pm
Everything someone goes through in life changes the way they view and experience the world. No person experiences life the same, so just as something that affects you may not affect them, the opposite is also true. Others may be bothered by something that doesn't affect you. Also, some people are very good at hiding their true emotions/feelings and may be more affected than they seem.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2018 2:34pm
Everyone has small things that affect them more than others it might be because of your history, things you like or not, or just your life in general, other's might have a different opinion and it's totally fine. They might not be affected because of their difference in opinion or have never gone through what you have, never seen why the situation affects you, so it's totally fine if you do but at some point in your life you must have noticed somebody affected by what you think is normal and you can relate remember that no one, nobody in this world is perfect and we all are affected by things that might seem nothing or normal for others, don't question yourself for that every brain works a different way. Hope you got the answer you wanted and have a good life :)
Anonymous
May 13th, 2019 7:55pm
Everyone handles situations differently and situations will always have differing impacts on people. How you feel or are impacted during a situation won't be the same as say any family member or friend or acquaintance will be impacted or how they will feel in the exact same situation. Every single person is different and unique in this way and it is part of what makes life interesting. If a situation is affecting you negatively, it might be a good idea to talk to others who have been in that situation or a similar situation and see how they handled it.
SilentSerenityy
June 13th, 2019 10:52am
This depends on a wide variety of factors. Most notably, a person's personality is what dictates how they will respond to an event. Some people are more laid back compared to others and less things bother them. Genetic factors play a role too. If someone is more prone to anxiety because anxiety runs in their family, they are more likely to respond to something in a panic and make a small issue a big one in their mind. Another factor is a person's life experience and previous events. If something happens that reminds them of a previous event that was particularly distressing, they are more likely to be affected by an event, compared to someone who doesn't have a personal connection to that event. However, just because you've been affected by something and someone else hasn't, it doesn't mean that you're weak or sensitive. There is likely something that bothers them that wouldn't bother you.
WildWorld627
May 26th, 2020 9:58pm
Because you are an individual. We are all different from each other therefor we have different ways to approach the same situation. Some people have more resilience than others and that's perfectly normal. Never compare your feelings with other people's feelings to a certain situation because there's a lot of different factors that change someone's way to see and feel. It can have difference in environment, it could be hormonal, its could be just a thing at the moment that makes it different from person to person. Just take care of your self and accept your feeling in order to let them go.
Sarge1776
June 2nd, 2020 4:18am
The same situation may affect you differently for any number of reasons, whether it be due to personal experience, or a result of your upbringing in relation to how to think of certain situations. Many people are desensitized to many of the less fortunate situations in life, while others, like yourself, are not. Many have told me that, upon experiencing a similar dilemma, it was because I have a compassion for others that some may not have, and it very well may be the same thing for you, which is a good problem to have if it is embraced and managed right, I sincerely hope this helped!
gentleSun78
June 26th, 2020 8:17am
Everyone is affected differently by the same situation. How we are affected by a situation is dependent on our genes (some people are emotionally more resilient than others genetically), our background (cultural, ethnic, etc.), our past experiences, how we were raised in childhood, our mental and physical health and our aspirations in life (for example, someone who wishes to be doctor or is doctor themselves, won't get as affected by watching surgery than someone who isn't doctor as many doctors have to see surgeries almost every day and so, they might be more resilient to seeing blood, injuries, etc (but i don't say that they won't get traumatized in long run due to watching it), which can easily traumatize an unprepared person when seeing them just once in whole life). It is also dependent on the role of a person in the situation. If your parent dies, you will react differently than if someone unknown to you dies.