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What is the best way to overcome anger and pain from traumatic experiences?

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Last Updated: 01/10/2022 at 11:59pm
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I believe silence creates a cycle. With empathic and collaborative therapy, we break the cycle. I help clients feel validated and supported passed anger, shame, and anxiety.

Top Rated Answers
April 17th, 2015 9:48pm
Find new activities that you enjoy to distract yourself from overthinking about traumatic experiences.
May 15th, 2015 10:47am
Mindfulness exercises , self love and new memories 😊 traumatic experiences impact everyone different ... Finding safe tools that work best for you is a great start ! Experts can support and help you find tools so you can understand your triggers and ways to manage them !
June 14th, 2015 10:36pm
This is something i know and hope to help those in need. In my case i used my anger and pain to my own advantage. The way i saw it is that the traumatic experience was going to sink me, so instead i used it to work hard and help those around me.
June 17th, 2015 2:35am
For me, getting over anxiety and severe panic attacks was all about positive thinking, staying sober, exercise and most importantly relaxation and positive meditations and reflections
November 2nd, 2015 7:49am
I've had a traumatic experience in my life before, and I'm not going to classify what your situation is, but I'm sure coping mechanism's are similar. I spent more time around my family and friends, because being with them somehow distracted my mind from it, even if I wasn't talking to them, just being in the same room really helped for me. I went to see a psychiatrist, too, I went there every week for 1-2 hours and I talked about EVERYTHING to get it off my chest, y'know? there are many ways to cope with traumatic experiences, and the most important thing is to NEVER take it out on yourself, okay? we love you :)
November 17th, 2015 3:26am
As someone who is currently trying to heal from a traumatic experience, my answer may be a tad biased, but here goes: Having a good support system helps a lot. This could be a therapist (if you choose therapy), or it could be a really good friend or just someone you trust. It's very hard to overcome these things on our own, so this is important. Also, personally for me, writing helps. I like to write poetry to express negative feelings in a positive way. Anyone is welcome to try that, too, but any other activity you enjoy is valid, too. Lastly, diaphragmatic breathing, meditation, and grounding techniques (this can be something like naming 5 things you see) are helpful.
August 10th, 2021 7:20pm
In all honesty, you have to listen to yourself, and take things at your own speed. Radical acceptance, though tough, can be very helpful in this case. Radical acceptance, if you don't know, is the practice of reminding yourself that you cannot change what has already been done or what is out of your control. It can hurt, but accepting the reality of a situation can also help free your mind from the blame you may put yourself to. Affirmations are another great way to get through to yourself. Repeating phrases that you need to hear can actually rewire your brain into accepting these as truths. One of mine, for example, is constantly reminding myself that I am enough, and that I am a good friend. Sometimes I feel that I'm not doing everything within my power to help, and hearing that I am not only makes me feel better, but also reminds me of all the things that I have done, and already do. That may not be what you need to hear, but you would know more than I ever could about your situation. I trust you know what would help you to hear, and that you'll make progress with it. I wish you the best!
January 10th, 2022 11:59pm
The way I like to destress is by doing yoga. I am always at peace when I am practicing yoga. Sometimes when I do not have time for yoga I like to meditate. I try to mediate at least 4 days a week. I feel like it sets me up for a good day. I usually like to meditate first thing in the morning before I get my day going for about 15 minutes. If I do not have time in the morning I will meditate at night right before I go to bed. I feel like it gives me a better night's sleep and I start my day on a happier note the next day.