How can I meet other LGBTQ people in a small and conservative town?

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DerbySteve
January 16th, 2015 7:48am
I once lived in a conservative environment, and experienced the same difficulty in meeting other gays like me. Although I knew there had to be gays somewhere, I unfortunately met no one until I moved to large and liberal town.
GentleMom
January 20th, 2015 2:10pm
There may be an LGBTQ organization and resources at a nearby college. And sometimes it's amazing what you can find via Google -- try typing your town name and gay/lesbian. Otherwise, just go do the activities you enjoy and get to know people in those groups. Perhaps arts groups or other activities that have traditionally been more open to gay people.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2015 11:44pm
I don't know but if you find out hit me up yo, lesbian in a town full of closeted gay men, you can tell how hard it is to meet someone
Anonymous
April 14th, 2015 5:23pm
when you spot one who you would call different, trust yourself, probable chances are they are true.
Gummysnacksandgatorade
April 30th, 2015 3:02am
I grew up in small towns and started a gay-straight alliance in a small town in college. I'm straight, but I noticed that what my gay friends did was use gay-themed dating websites and search their zip code to find other gay people.
Allen39
May 4th, 2015 7:26am
Trust me, you have fabulous allies hiding in closets all around you. I would suggest going online and finding people in your area, or finding out if there are any small places like gay or lesbian bars.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2015 2:15pm
See if your small town has anything "secret" for the LGBTQ community and join it, such as a GSA (gay straight alliance)
cheeseviolin
June 14th, 2015 3:09am
This is a great question! I would suggest trying to connect to other LGBTQ individuals at a local GSA meeting or LGBTQ organizations. A lot of LGBTQ organization for teens will host events such as queer proms, and other get togethers. If you are not in the position to do that, I would suggest trying to connect to other LGBTQ people on the internet via tumblr, reddit, or Facebook. Good luck!
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 1:50am
Try joining a LGBTQ Facebook group for your area? You might have to go to the nearest city--that's what a lot of people do.
Emily619
October 27th, 2015 11:32pm
You can meet other LGBTQ people in a small and conservative town by posting on your local town's board about a cookout for all LGBTQ people. Or, if you feel more comfortable this way, you could post about it in the next town over.
alexanderjames00
October 29th, 2015 10:01pm
Is there a local PFLAG chapter near you? Maybe a GSA type thing that you could volunteer for? If not, you could start something! Everything counts and will help!
YourBestFriendRyan - Expert in LGBTQ+
December 7th, 2015 6:53pm
The Internet is a wonderful thing for this. There's a very good chance you're the only one in town if you're in a small enough town, but you're not alone in the world.
SockMonkey25
December 22nd, 2015 5:55pm
The internet is a great resource to find all sorts of people from all over the world. You can connect through forums, social media, or even right here on 7 cups! Just remember to be safe.
Greatlistener87
April 18th, 2016 7:39am
You can find out of groups that are online that you could join to chat about things and maybe through the people there you will come to know of other communities that you can join and share.
LifeCoach2
October 3rd, 2016 4:37pm
Check out pflag.org and find a local chapter that is closest to you. It is also worth searching for a Gay & Lesbian Community Center. If you don't mind the bar scene, going to happy hour at a gay friendly bar would be a really great option to meet other. You can always drink water or a coke if alcohol is not your thing.