Actually I spent most of my life trying to determine my sexuality, Did you face the same phase?
Last Updated: 04/26/2021 at 9:01pm
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Yes... I'm still trying to determine my sexuality, actually! I've yet to be in an official relationship and have never really been sure of how I feel about different genders.
I did, It took me seventeen years to admit to myself what I really wanted and who I was. It took a lot of thinking and searching within myself, but it feels really good once you figure everything out and admit it.
Yeah, for a while. Then i realised I didnt felt the need to label myself to be happy. Some people do, and thats okay. But I dont so I was like "Why am I wasting my time with something other people pressure me to think about?". Basically, if you feel okay not being sure --whatever, go and like whoever you want to!
It's very common to have a long questioning phase and a hard time finding out one's own identity. That may be due to many reasons, and there's nothing wrong with that, it's normal that it can be a long and complex process! One thing that really helps is to get as much information as possible about the different sexualities, and another great help is to get support from trustworthy people: supportive family members and friends, but above people that are expert about it, such as the LGBT community or a therapist.
I know I did. A turning point for me was when I decided that I don't have to label my sexuality to be okay with it.
Oh yeah totes, I would lie in bed at night wrestling with the possibility of my not-straightness. Its natural, trust me
I have always felt like I was and been comfortable being heterosexual. However, I feel like everyones experience is slightly different in regards to sexuality and that everyone should know that having a different experience does not reflect on an individual person in any way.
I dont think its important to know which sexuality you are,just be yourself and love who you love! :) - and btw i dont really care about my sexuality and i think it can change everytime! :)
I struggled with my sexuality in my earlier life, it turns out I was actually struggling with gender identity but couldn't put it in words, as soon as I began to accept my gender identity, my sexuality became very clear.
yes most of us need to explore to see what sexuality you are it is not determined in what others want you to be its what you are comfortable with
Young people often times start trying to figure their sexuality out at a young age and it goes through their teens. As the body is developing, the hormones and mind make everything confusing and difficult to believe, therefore a person struggles to figure out what it is that they are attracted to.
Sexuality is fluid; one phase of your life, you may identify as bisexual and five years later you may identify as straight. This does not invalidate your sexuality, it just means you have changed. As for facing this phase, everyone does I believe and I am no exception. I currently identify as Asexual but three years ago I identified as Bisexual. I try not to let labels define me, and neither should you. It may seem easy to say, but don't allow the label of sexuality define you, it took me years to finally take that to heart.
Yep, I have. It can be really hard to pin down what your sexuality is. Sexuality is fluid and it can change. One label can feel right for a while and then maybe you feel better under a different one. Or no label! And it's perfectly okay to not quite know what your sexuality is. If you feel better under a label, try an umbrella term and see how it fits with you.
I'm only 16 but I have spend a big portion to my life trying to understand my sexuality. I assumed I was strait and then when I was about twelve, I started realizing I find girls attractive ...the way a strait girl would find guys attractive? And then I realized I was attracted to both guys and girls sexually and then things just got gayer and gayer. Now my life is a rainbow.
I have no idea what my sexuality is. I definitely had/ am having this phase. It's not a bad thing, and I think as you go through life you'll slowly find out more and more about where you sit on the spectrum.
Yes I did I was always wondering if I was Pan Bi or homosexual, I realized that it doesnt matter as long as you, love loving someone and love being who you are.
Yes, I still am not 100% sure on my sexuality. But I go by bisexual since it's easier to explain. I struggled a lot with coming to terms with the fact I like girls, and it still bothers me a lot. But with time I will become more comfortable.
I personally did not, although it did take me 4 years. I do know people for whom it took much longer, 18-20 years, and know of perplexed who took even longer. No matter how long it takes, you're still valid. Scientifically speaking, sexuality is fluid, so even if you were put attracted to a gender for 40 years, you could develops that attraction later on, and it's far from unheard of.
Sexuality is something you define yourself with. You can choose to be someone you want to be. Dont let anyone stop you from doing that. I've been straight always.
Everyone faces these issues differently. Some people know from a young age and some embrace it at a older age. There is no need for a label or anything like that. Take your time accept who you are and love yourself everything will fall in to place.
I still am discovering and learning what my sexuality is and what it means to me. I believe sexuality can be fluid for some people where it may change, I think we never stop discovering more about ourselves, what we desire and what we are attracted to.
I did for years...I still am to this day....I would really like to know what causes it because it definitely wasn’t by choice for me p
I understand you completely. From a young age I've wondered if whether or not I was bisexual. I read a lot about it and tried figuring it out, and I decided for myself I was.
I am stI'll very young but I had a suspicion of being gay or bi when I was as young as primary 2 so that's about 6 years old and I'm still trying to fully figure it out you'll get there in your own time. I was asked out by a girl tonight and I agreed to try, I hope this will make it clearer for me and if you do the same thing it will help you identify your own sexuality. Another way to figure it out is picture yourself kissing the same gender then the opposite and see what you prefer in your imagination
Thank you for reaching out! Sexuality is such a broad topic and a lot of information on the types of sexuality from homosexuality, bisexuality, asexuality etc. They all share one thing in common no matter who different the attraction is, the power of love. As someone who spent a lot of time trying to figure out their sexuality the pressure of putting a label on myself, never actually made me happy. It’s important that you ask yourself: Am I safe and comfortable to give myself a label? Do I want to try and explore the parts of myself I am questioning with other consenting parties? Am I always curious or feel that my sexuality is defined by the behaviors I display? You could as a bisexual person question whether you are “bisexual enough” as you have had more relationships with women than men. Ask yourself is your attitude towards sexuality based on your own thoughts and feelings and how much of an influence society is having on how you feel you should define yourself. What matters is you being comfortable in your own sexuality not how others should think you should see and interpret your sexuality. I wish you all the best in exploring who you are and acceptance in who you are. You are welcome to communicate with any one of our amazing listeners and therapists on our site who can give you a listening ear.
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