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Am I lesbian or asexual? I've never been attracted to anyone and "hot or muscular men to look funny. Girls are nice to look at but I've never been attracted to one.

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Last Updated: 06/01/2020 at 10:55pm
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April 10th, 2018 7:52pm
I feel the same way, and I identify as Asexual. Girls are pretty - like flowers. I admire flowers, but I'm not attracted to them. That's just me, though. You know yourself, so only you can know for sure. Or! Maybe you aren't sure - that's okay too. Take your time. Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with. I wish you peace!
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August 12th, 2019 12:06pm
If you don't experience sexual attraction and you have no desire in having sex, you are asexual. If someone looks nice, appreciating their aesthetic beauty doesn't mean you are sexually attracted to them.
July 17th, 2018 7:57am
well, 1st off, you can be both. Asexual is a term of sexual attraction, and lesbian is whom you are attracted to. if your asexual, that would mean that you feel no sexual attraction to anyone at all. but there is also a sexuality called "demisexual" which mean you don't immediately feel sexual attraction and it takes a deep emotional connection before feeling any sexual attraction at all. As for who you are attracted to, and maybe you could be lesbian, I mean personally knew that i actually liked girls when i kissed one. And just know that sexuality is something that we don't always have to label, some times we can just be attracted to one person(s), or no one in your case.
May 7th, 2018 12:16am
You can identify however you feel suits you best. There are three levels of orientation: who you want to be with (personal desire or lack thereof), who you are with (behavioural orientation), and who you say you’re with. These three things can be the same or different, depending on your circumstances. For instance, you could be asexual but have a monagamous sexual relationship with a woman, even though you identify to others as bisexual. And that’s just fine as long as you’re not putting anyone at risk.
April 12th, 2018 4:41am
I'm still trying to figure this out for myself! I suppose you could always try dating but don't rush into anything that you don't want to. Ever heard of aromantic and homoromantic?
June 1st, 2020 10:55pm
Well, first of all you need to know what each means. Being a lesbian is being attracted to females while being asexual is not experiencing sexual attraction to anyone. I would say you're asexual cause you don't experience sexual attraction but then again you can choose what you want to be labeled as. Or you could be demisexual, which is basically experiencing sexual attraction after forming a strong bond with the person. And they are different attractions like aesthetic, which is like you're attracted to the way someone looks. I hope you figure it out and this helps you in anyway