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Are people born gay?

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Last Updated: 03/17/2021 at 7:46pm
Are people born gay?
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- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
April 12th, 2015 9:53pm
Some are born gay. Some achieve gayness. And some have gayness thrust upon them. Seriously, though? The truth is that we don't know. But let me leave you this question: Does it matter? You should be allowed to love whomever you wish, regardless of whether it's genetic or a choice.
January 24th, 2015 2:56am
Personally I think yes, it is really based on genetics. You don't get to choose your sexuality per say. You can choose however to accept it or not :)
January 25th, 2015 10:45am
Are people born straight? We can't know. Maybe it's like your preference in taste, hard to impossible to change or maybe you're born that way. Either way, it's okay, and, to be hones, probably born that way.
February 15th, 2015 9:27pm
I think that people are born gay, but it doesn't mean that someone will necessarily know straight away all the time. Either way it is completely natural, whether someone is or isn't gay.
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
July 8th, 2019 2:06pm
Yes, sexual orientation are something innate, we are born with them. The idea that people can "become" gay is simply due to the fact that sometimes people need more time to find out what their sexuality really is, because social contexts raise us to think that heterosexuality is the norm. So people need to work on their self-awareness in order to realize they are not straight, and it can happen in different times on a person's life, but it simply something uncovered later, not something new thag has developed. Every orientation is innate, natural and perfectly normal.
April 8th, 2015 8:19am
There is evidence to believe that sexual orientation has a biological component. It certainly isn't something that people can easily change at will, if at all, and any attempt to do so through means of "corrective therapy" has been thoroughly discredited. So, to answer the question, "Are people born gay?": This may be partially true, but ultimately, if you do experience same-sex attraction, whether you're literally born with it, or it develops over the course of a lifetime through the interaction of experience and predisposition, you've likely got it for good. And there's nothing wrong with that.
July 13th, 2015 3:23pm
Its how you view it, and how you view the topic. Most people know from a young age that they are Gay, Bi, Trans, for myself I know from a very young age that I liked only guys and was drawn to them in a sexual way.
April 25th, 2017 6:59pm
I believe they've found that genetics are actually a part of your sexual orientation! That being said, I think it takes some people a really long time to realize and accept their sexuality, so not everybody will necessarily know from birth, and I would also say that personal experience may shape some of who you grow up to be
April 8th, 2015 4:50am
Some people say yes, some people say no. But to be honest, it doesn't really matter if a person is born gay or not. It does not change who they are, or what they are inside.
May 8th, 2015 1:00pm
There is evidence that supports that homosexuality can be biological, yes, but there's also evidence (most notably Kinsey's studies) that supports that sexuality can change over a persons lifetime. So to answer this question, it depends on the person.
May 21st, 2015 6:39pm
I believe people are born gay. But I also feel like sexuality can be fluid. The fact that a sexuality can be fluid does not mean that whatever a person identifies as is any less valid. I identify as asexual, which means I don't necessarily feel sexual attraction towards others. I am 22 years old, and I started identifying as this openly about a year ago. However, this word has been on my tongue since I was young. I just didn't know that it described me so well. I feel like many people go through life unsure of what their identity is, and they take years to figure it out. Through this process, they may identify as one sexuality and change it once they find something that works better. For example, I thought perhaps I was just lesbian, but then realized I am pan romantic and ace. Again, this doesn't make me any less valid. When people look at identity as a choice, they tend to make it seem as though that choice is always bad. I feel like whether a person feels they were born as their sexual identity or chose it, they should know that either way they are valid, respected, and loved.
June 17th, 2015 7:58pm
Studies show that sexual orientation is determined by many factors, and genes are one of them. The other factors include brain structure and such, which can change in a lifetime. So the factors that determine sexual orientation are 'nature and nurture', so there's no yes or no to this question.
September 14th, 2015 2:00pm
People are born with no sexuality because they don't understand the concept of attraction or love at such a young age. As they continue to develop with their hormones and mind, they also develop an attraction towards a certain gender or group of people.
November 16th, 2015 3:10pm
I would say they partly are but experiences and your fears also make a great deal. I guess it's not our abilities but our decisions which define who we are and feeling wrong or uncertain comes because of the general understanding of what is right and the fear of not being accepted.
December 20th, 2015 2:49pm
A lot of people like to believe that they are and it's completely alright. If you are Gay and happy then go for it! People's opinions do NOT matter. Don't let others stop you from doing what you want to do. People should be allowed to express their sexuality freely as long as their not hurting anybody. If you're happy then nothing really else matters.
June 15th, 2016 6:43am
According to scientific research, being gay is not influenced by traumatic experience, upbringing environment, or personal characterstics. Being gay is simply being gay. Sexual preference is defintely something someone can't change, so yes, people are born gay.
July 5th, 2016 2:11am
Just like straight people are born straight, gay people are born gay. Your sexuality is part of who you are, it's not something you can control! :)
October 17th, 2016 3:55am
People usually are born the sexuality they are, but it always takes a lot of time before people realize it
February 26th, 2018 6:57am
yes, it just may take some time for that person to realise that they are gay. I know it took me some time to realise it!
April 10th, 2018 3:14pm
No - people are not born gay or straight or any other sexuality - they are children you dont find gay toddlers or bi toddlers or straight toddlers - sexuality develops during puberty - there may be predestined things involved with sexuality - it may be nature or nurture or a whole host of other things - unfortunately at this point we dont really know
March 4th, 2019 12:14am
There is no correct answer to this question. People discover their sexuality at different times in their life. You could be born gay but you may not be. There could be a defining moment or you may just realize it. There is no right age or moment and there is nothing wrong with figuring out you're gay at 8 or 80. As long as you understand that being gay is not a choice and it is not a bad thing. Do not let people bring you down because of something you cannot control. Remember that you are valid, born gay or not.
March 17th, 2021 7:46pm
Yes I've always believed that I was born gay as far as I can remember I've been attracted to men I had to work hard at dating the only woman I've been with it wasn't ez and she told me she new I was gay and I was more feminine than her at times I was the house wife even when I was with her I did the feedings with our kid I cleaned house I was secretly in love with her brother as well she acted more like the alpha male in our relationship and she said so and she was I took care of everything aND when I was home alone I dressed out in her clothing until she caught me in her body dress that's when she said she knew I was gay and id make a better girlfriend for a man and she was right I didn't deny it and I'm still waiting for Mr right to fall in love with and get married to so I can sport that wedding dress on my wedding night I still fantasy about that being given away to him by my mom would be ideal :)