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How do I know if I am transgender?

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Last Updated: 11/06/2020 at 8:15pm
How do I know if I am transgender?
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Anonymous
August 11th, 2017 5:17am
You feel like you were meant to be the opposite gender. You lean towards more masculine things if you're a female and you lean towards more feminine things if you're a male.
GivingstonTreegull
August 16th, 2017 5:14am
You might feel as though your skin just isn't right. Or you were raised playing the wrong sports or wearing the wrong clothes. Maybe you wish you did/didn't have the sexual parts of the other sex. Maybe you picture yourself growing old as the opposite sex, or even finding a mate as the opposite sex. There are many thoughts that go into being transgender. At the end of the day you are the only one who knows how you feel. It could be helpful to meet with a specialist and get the conversation going so that they can help you decide what your next step it. Because when it comes down to it, gender is often fluid. Just because you sometimes feel more masculine/fem' does not always mean you are trans.
AlexCaresAboutYou
August 19th, 2017 7:48pm
Figuring out your gender identity is a very personal experience, so there's no one surefire way to know if you're transgender. For me, realizing that I'm transgender was a process, but there were some things that helped. Going on YouTube and listening to other trans people's experiences to see how much I related to them definitely helped, as did being able to find a few people who would let me experiment with my name, pronouns, and gender presentation around them to find what felt right, But like I said before, it's a very personal journey and something everyone needs to figure out for themselves
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2017 12:19am
Being transgender is a very sensitive thing to think about and judge. The only person who can truly say you are transgender is yourself. Take time to think on it. Try asking friends to call you by certain things to get a feel for it and to help your decision for if that is what you want/if that is what feels right. Not everyone has the same story about know thing they're trans.
Jerimy
September 17th, 2017 2:48pm
Only you can know for sure, and I think that there will come a time when you know deep down in your heart and soul. Pursue what you are passionate about and interested in. Find local groups that meet and can support you. Be uniquely you and you will find your tribe. Whatever the case, do not be afraid to explore these feelings...and never forget that there is an army of people here to support you.
JayGrayson101
November 4th, 2017 6:16pm
Being transgender is when you don't identify with the same gender that you were assigned with when you were born, for example: you are born female and you feel like you don't identify or you don't feel comfortable with being a female, and you want to be a boy or anything else, vice versa. If you feel that way, well I guess that you are trans. (And just a reminder, being transgender isn't a choice, it's who you are)!
Anonymous
November 8th, 2017 7:17pm
Hey,, I’m 14 yers old and I think I might be trans,, but I’m not sure and I have no one to talk to so I was kinda hoping you would help me :)
fantasticUnicorns82
November 9th, 2017 6:14am
Well, that's different from every trans. The best way to know is to feel it. If you feel like you are than you are trans.
StormL22
November 15th, 2017 4:37pm
This is a hard question, even for me, a fellow transgender. I guess only you can know if you're transgender or not. Try listening to what your mind tells you about your body. If you need alternatives, try talking to a therapist if you see one or talk to a friend that is a part of the lgbt community.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 9:22pm
The definition of transgender is "denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with their birth sex." . Yet I believe it's whatever you feel.
caligulamAquarius
November 17th, 2017 3:17pm
You may feel trapped inside your own body, and feel jealousy or envy toward the opposite gender. You may expirience intrigue towards the opposite gender. More than sexual attraction. More like Envy.
Kaydenchatss
November 18th, 2017 2:48am
For some people they ‘just know’ but for a lot of people it takes some experimentation to find out what you like, what you don’t and what kind of person you’d like to be and from there, you can figure out what path is best for you. That be to physically transition to look more like the opposite sex by taking hormones and getting surgeries or it might not be. If you feel that you are transgender and that’s how you would like to and feel comfortable identifying then that’s okay and there is no standard to being transgender, it’s all about you and your journey to feel more comfortable and happy in your own body. Going back to the original question I would say to try new things, get a hair cut, change your style, maybe try binder (ftm) or try wearing a bra (mtf), try on some make up just do a lot of different to see what you like and what you would like to move forward with and hopefully that can give you a base to work with :)
aestheticbeebo
November 18th, 2017 3:16pm
Ask yourself this. You have no need to feel confused. Nobody and no quiz in this world can tell you this. You have to answer it yourself. The answer to this question lies within you. Do what makes YOU happy. What others think don't matter. So ask yourself this. "Am I transgender?" I'm always here to talk if you need me to.
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2017 6:11am
How do you see yourself? How do you feel most comfortable? It is only you really know if your trans.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 6:42am
You feel different kinda. It’s a feeling you get. You feel like you’re in the wrong body and it’s confusing. But you’ll know
gingersminger
December 22nd, 2017 9:31am
When you're transgender, you feel dysphoric about your own body and uncomfortable. You might feel ashamed of yourself when you look in a mirror, and want to dress in clothes that are supposedly for the opposing gender.
Echohope11
January 3rd, 2018 12:04pm
Well it takes some time but if you don’t feel As if you are in the right gender try out different ones and choose whichever is most comfortable for you. Remember there are more than two genders
lifegivesulemons
January 12th, 2018 10:24pm
Have you ever played with toys of other gender or that sort of things? Being transgender will usually be noticed around the puberty years, when it is easy to shorten your puberty effects.
miraculousStrawberry80
January 14th, 2018 11:40pm
Well you will know from a young age but it's all about what you feel most comfortable with because it's your body!
Anonymous
January 28th, 2018 4:53pm
Transgender individuals often go through periods of confusion as to which gender they best "fit in". I believe that if you dress as the opposite gender and see yourself as the opposite gender, you might be transgender. But it's not always crystal clear for everyone. You are free to be who you are on the inside. Take all the time and experimentation it takes to figure out who that is.
Peacocksfeather06
February 1st, 2018 12:37pm
Go to the nearest doctor. Share your issue. He'll give you the correct information and interpretation.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 9:43pm
I know this is probably a really lame way to answer your question, but here's a really helpful wikihow article about it: https://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-You-Are-Transgender
Listening4Speakers
February 11th, 2018 3:06am
I Hear you wanting to know if you are Transgendered. I think the first thing to so is to ask yourself if you feel out of place in the body that you are in right now. I experienced this self question when I chose to come out to my family about being gay, Feelings of shame and guilt are often in the center of a huge ball of scared feelings. Scared of whom will support you whatever the answer is. I would suggest speaking with one of the therapists here at 7 Cups from the resource board. I am sure they can help you to decipher the mystery that you are struggling with.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2018 6:13am
Being transgender means that you don't identify with your assigned gender at birth, and so if you're questioning your assigned gender you're most likely transgender, but how you do this can differ from person to person. For example some trans people have gender dysphoria, which causes them to feel horrible about themselves because for some reason (say physically or socially) they feel a dissonance between their assigned gender at birth and how they actually identify, but you can be transgender and not actually experience this.
InaudibleVoices
February 11th, 2018 11:51pm
Usually, closeted/unsure transgender people feel uncomfortable in their own bodies, they relate more with the "opposite" sex and want to look more like it.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 8:34am
You don't you just turn in to one and it is not hard to find out what gender you are and it does not matter what gender you are.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 2:49am
I can only speak from my personal experience. There is a dissatisfaction often hate of who and what you are and anger and frustration that you may not be able to explain. There may be a need to explore or acquire objects of the opposite gender. For instance trying on ladies clothing to see how you look. Shaving to stimulate hair growth on your face if you need to feel right about yourself. I could go on and on. You are trying to feel normal. It usually takes a professional like a Psychologist to show you that you are exhibiting symptoms of a condition called Gender Dysphoria.
invisiblepeanut
April 4th, 2018 4:55am
Sometimes, you just know. In most cases, however, it unfortunately just takes time, which is an answer most people don't want to hear. It takes a lot of self discovery and self evaluation sometimes.
Mbali313
April 6th, 2018 9:24pm
Likely, you are the gender that you are but you don’t feel you fit into societies mold of what that consists of. You can be both and everything in between, just be true to who you are. No one has the answers for how you live your life other than you. You are the creator. And if you feel good expressing yourself outside the norm, stand tall in that.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 6:05am
one might notice they are transgender if they do not feel as though they match their assigned gender at birth, whether they feel as though they are the other side of the binary or otherwise.