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Is there any way not to feel awkward when coming out?

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Last Updated: 10/07/2019 at 6:22pm
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April 23rd, 2016 1:06am
Its personal, remember that 5 minutes of awkwardness will create a lifetime of happiness and relief that you have got a weight off your shoulders.
August 18th, 2015 3:47pm
Remember that by not coming out and being scared of doing so is hiding away and concealing an important part of you. There's nothing to feel scared or awkward about. Your peers and parents love you: they wouldn't draw away from you just because of something that is part of you. They accept you just the way you are, and love you for it.
February 17th, 2015 1:35pm
Yes, if you're quite a jokey person naturally. Maybe make a joke about coming out and then come out. That has helped me in the past.
January 9th, 2015 6:30am
Honestly, I thought it was going to be awkward coming out, But it will only be awkward if you make it awkward. If you own up to it and show confidence then people will accept and appreciate you more.
August 18th, 2015 2:00pm
I mean yeah you just need to convince your brain it isn't awkward, but a normal thing that millions of people do. Most of the time all these worries are you overthinking causing problems that aren't even there.
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September 30th, 2019 12:30pm
Feeling a bit awkward is normal! Maybe it can help to come out first to people that you know are very likely to support you, so you'll feel more comfortable, and you'll feel supported throughout your next coming outs. It can also help to keep asking yourself what is the reason why you should be embarassed about it, and realize there are none! However, some insecurity is totally normal. What truly matters is that you'll eventually do what can make you feel free and happy!
May 31st, 2015 4:45am
Honestly, probably not haha. When you come out, you show you're accepting a part of you that you haven't before and really owning it, showing your true self is always awkward, but that's okay.
May 19th, 2015 2:31am
It's going to feel awkward no matter what. It's what you do with that awkwardness that truly dictates what happens. It's hard to tell the people you've known for years that you're ready to come out (and some may already know they just didn't say anything until you were ready). What I did when I came out as bisexual was I owned it. I was proud of my sexuality and everyone knows now. Most everyone was completely okay with it, others were a bit weirded out, but after a while of thinking it over, they got over it and accepted it completely.
November 23rd, 2015 10:32pm
Coming out is very hard, because we feel we might not be accepted or we will be judged. I also feel, that if we accept ourselves before coming out to those that are close to us, the situation can be less hard, understanding ourselves first can prevent to feel awkwardness and unexpectedness.
November 24th, 2015 3:40pm
Yes. Just remember, there's someone out there feeling the same way. It's completely natural to feel nervous when coming out, but know that there's someone out there who will understand.
March 22nd, 2016 3:50am
You are only human and you will feel all sorts of things when you are coming out. But its when you have come out that matters, cause thats when you will feel light and at peace.
May 3rd, 2016 3:56am
Honestly, it's always going to be awkward, especially if you're talking to a close friend or family member. You're constantly going to be coming out to people for the rest of your life, so it does get easier, but that awkwardness will probably always remain. That constant wonder of "are they still going to accept me?" will run through your mind constantly. Also, sometimes people just don't know HOW to react, but that doesn't mean they don't love you. Just be you & be honest, mainly to yourself. People usually eventually come around.
May 22nd, 2018 6:44pm
Just make sure you are in a safe environment and you are speaking with people you can trust and you know they will not judge you.
July 30th, 2018 5:49pm
Its always okay to feel awkward at about this. I would recommend practicing. Whether to stuffed toys or real people. Try to gain confidence. Mean the words you say. You finally find who you are and you should be proud about that. Be confident and calm. Don't stress over what they think. Only think about how you feel. That is most important
March 25th, 2016 6:54pm
I think that the most important thing to remember when coming out is confidence. Go into the conversation knowing that you are who you are and that, no matter how the conversation goes, there is nothing anybody can do to change you. Have confidence in who you are.
March 28th, 2016 3:51pm
An awkward feeling might go away it might not, as it is a reaction. Making yourself feel as comfortable as possible for the situation might help decrease this feeling.
July 4th, 2016 1:39pm
Coming out is a big deal. It's completely normal to feel nervous and a little awkward, even when coming out to people who are supportive. However, if you want to feel less awkward, try to remind yourseld why you're doing this. You should feel proud of yourself and unashamed of who you are!
November 7th, 2016 9:37pm
Most likely not. Even the most proud individuals feel awkward about coming out for the first time. It has to do with saying the words out loud to someone other than yourself that makes things suddenly awkward.
April 3rd, 2017 8:52pm
Coming out can be a scary and very awkward feeling regardless. But, the best way to really calm your own nerves about the whole thing is just have confidence about who you are and who you truly label yourself. Love who you are, and accept it. You will go really far if you do those things first. Good luck!
July 2nd, 2018 6:05pm
To look up to other stories of people succeeding in coming out to their family or anyone. That'd help them feel more comfortable coming out. Second step, knowing what to say. Know what you may or may not have to say, so you won't stutter or have awkward silent moments. :3.
October 7th, 2019 6:22pm
If you are comfortable with joking around with whoever you are coming out to, there is in fact several ways. You could give them a whole lot of memes about your sexuality/orientation/identity and make sure that they know for a fact it was indeed you that gave them those memes and not some other random person. Another is to make a cookie that has your sexuality/orientation/identity written on it clearly in icing, go up to them and say "well, you are what you eat" and then proceed to eat the cookie. For that second one it would also help is you made the said person "straight" cookies so they don't feel sad about not having a cookie.