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Why does being LGBTQ+ always have a stigma with being unfaithful in relationships?

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Last Updated: 03/23/2020 at 9:31pm
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January 16th, 2015 5:34am
Iv never found this to be true I'm 41 and have been gay my whole life and being unfaithful hasn't been a issue !
Anonymous - Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
January 16th, 2015 5:41pm
The stigma may have started with non-heterosexual people who were pressured into heterosexual marriages. This would likely be emotionally damaging to them, and they may have ended up seeking emotional validation from other non-heterosexual people. Due to homophobia and similar, this act would be demonized far more than a heterosexual affair, and may have led to further ammunition for people's unjust hatred. People love to use false stereotypes to justify demonizing something (or someone) they've no logical reason to demonize. It's a defense mechanism for those who are afraid to consider the possibility that they may be wrong, a bad person, or the cause of a problem. Admitting your hatred is unfounded and working to correct it is often harder and scarier than holding onto that hatred. And so, people focus on and exaggerate evidence that supports their hatred, forming and maintaining stigmas and harmful stereotypes. Because people choose, consciously or not, to shut their eyes and ignore the vast amounts of evidence that are contrary to their hateful views.
February 20th, 2015 3:18pm
Anything that's not the typical heteronormative relationship seems to get a bad reputation, due to the fact that people simply think it's "different." People assume if you're bisexual/pansexual, that you will cheat on your spouse with the other sex/gender. If you're gay/lesbian, people simply think you're an insatiable being, and will want more than one person. Pretty much, these assumptions have everything to do with our society being that of a heteronormative society, and anything against the norm is bad/understood, which leads to these stigmas and preconceived notions.
April 25th, 2015 7:21pm
In my own personal opinion, i do believe that this can be down to those who disprove of those who are LGBTQ. I think many people assume this, and sometimes say it without knowing facts to try and put this negative stigma on our/my community. However despite this rates of successful marriages of those who are LGBTQ are higher than those of heterosexual couples.
May 3rd, 2015 5:37pm
Because when the community was starting to come into the spot light people always assumed that if they knew someone who was in the LGBTQIAA community that was unfaithful that all people in the community must be the same way.
June 23rd, 2015 6:57pm
I think it is because they are seen as sexual deviants and to some people it seems like they have no limits in their sexuality, so they assume they dont have any in a relationship either.
January 4th, 2016 3:03pm
Now, I'm not saying that this is correct or good or anything, but it's only recently that LGBTQ+ individuals have been allowed to marry and anyone, regardless of sexual/romantic orientation, is less likely to be faithful to their partner/significant other when not committed in a serious bond such as marriage. Individuals who live together but are not married have no legal commitment to stay, thus lessening the consequences of leaving.
October 25th, 2016 5:46am
The LGBTQ+ community is still a fairly new concept to society in general. Anything negative that happens will bring much unwanted attention.
May 22nd, 2017 3:02am
Because it's 'not common' and people are always looking for an excuse; a way to be judgmental and rude.
September 18th, 2017 6:09pm
Because people somehow think that being an Lgbtq+ is all about sex so they think you'll keep seeking that which is absolutely not true as an lgbtq+ person wants the same things out of a relationship as any other human; love, partnership, and intimacy
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
July 9th, 2019 8:08am
It's because of social stereotypes that regard LGBT people as overattached to sex, and so more likely to look for it anywhere, even if they are in a relationship. Like all stereotypes, you can fight it with communication, by spreading knowledge of what it really means to be LGBT.
March 23rd, 2020 9:31pm
Going a little outside the main topic, I have always found that people like listening/hearing/pay attention to the bad news more than the good. Going more specifically, it is a lot more common to find individuals in the LGBTQ+ community cheating on their significant others. It being more common, not being as many LGBTQ+ people as the heterosexual community, and so on.. really leads to this negative stigma in our community. Yet, I don't believe it is in the majority. More faithfulness and purity stigmas should be shown more in the media! Also, I know a lot of gay men in relationships that like to include others in their sexual activities. Some would look at that as unfaithful. I, however, do not.