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Do people actually like me for me?

Profile: Erynn
Erynn on Dec 14, 2014
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Only you can answer that. One place to start is: "Do people know you?" It's rarely as simple as yes/no. They probably know part of you - what parts? What have you kept hidden? They may truly like you for the parts they know, but of course, they can't really comment on what you've held a secret. If you're asking whether or not everyone secretly hates you - it may help to consider the sheer amount of effort and time it would take for everyone to continue to pull off this lie. It's most likely people actually like you when they say and act like they do. If you don't like someone, it's really simplest and most time-efficient to just not hang out with them, not go out of your way to talk to them or do things with them, etc.... it's most like that, if someone says and acts like they like you: they like you.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 10, 2014
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Of course they do! I don't think there's a single person that everyone loves, but I'm sure that everybody is loved by someone! You are loved, never forget that
Profile: lee92
lee92 on Dec 12, 2014
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It's highly likely. You need to make sure you like yourself though, so find positive things about yourself. If you're confident about yourself people are more likely to like you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 17, 2014
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That is a hard thing to answer because I don't know the people but I understand your question. In my life, I have had a lot of people not like me for me because they liked me for my families wealth. This causes distrust in friends and can be detrimental to a friend group. My one suggestion that I have found out is that time will tell all and if you are suspicious of anyone, do not exclude them but just try to not share to much to them. Hope that helps!
Profile: jazznicr
jazznicr on Dec 21, 2014
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I always try to be myself. If I try to be someone else, what's the point? I'd rather have someone like or dislike me for exactly who I am, than gain a friend or relationship being someone I'm not.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 26, 2016
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You'll never know if people like you for you. The better question is do you know who you are? Do you like you for you?
Profile: smileforawhile
smileforawhile on Dec 11, 2014
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People who are your true friends will like you for you. The people who don't like you for who are, are not worth your time. You deserve to surround yourself with people who truly love you for yourself.
Profile: BubblyBrook
BubblyBrook on Dec 11, 2014
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You can observe people over time and view their true intentions. I am seeking true connections with people who will accept me, but it isn't easy with so many pebbles to go through before finding the diamonds
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 12, 2014
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You know a person likes you for your honest to goodness self when they do not care about how you act, speak, look, or do unless it is hurting you. When you do not feel pressured from a person to change who you are to the core to please them they like you. When you can be comfortable in any situation with that person and it doesn't matter if you look a little homely they like you. When you can express your feelings without them being thrown in you face they care for you.
Profile: RalphBG
RalphBG on Dec 13, 2014
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Yes, of course. It may feel like no one does, but you just have to find the people that will and do like you for who you are. I know its hard making friends, but your life will change if you find the right ones that accept you for who you are. Good luck :)
Profile: dotty
dotty on Dec 24, 2014
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No one knows this for sure. But as long as they like me, why bother? usually people like us for several reasons, not for "the entire of me". some like my looks, some like my devotion (despite looks), some like me for being a balanced person...so on so on.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 31, 2014
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Absolutely! You're wonderful and have a right to have people like you for who you are. I'm sure you're a wonderful person who is genuinely liked.
Profile: HealingLotus
HealingLotus on Apr 11, 2015
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This is a difficult question. Some people do not like you for you, a lot don't, but that's just human nature, it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. Having people like you for you, or anyone for themselves is something that humanity has sought after more desperately than anything. It is our hearts true desire. It's not as common as we'd like it to be, but it is possible that it does exist. We must be careful who we are friends with, making sure we have appropriate boundaries and healthy social habits. The more healthy we are, the more quality, understanding and empathetic people we will meet.
Profile: PashT007
PashT007 on May 9, 2015
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There are always people out there that will like you for you. The thing is, make sure that you are happy within yourself, that way if someone doesn't like you that's fine as well.
Profile: StrawberryNight
StrawberryNight on May 20, 2015
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Yes, I know that you are a wonderful person and I know that you deserve to be liked for who you are. And I'm sure the people surrounding you see that as well :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 28, 2015
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If you really want to know, the best thing that you can do is to ask them! (: Consider being up front about your feelings. You might feel better after talking things out, rather than feeling bogged down by an unanswered question, or by speculation.
Profile: NattyByNature
NattyByNature on Jun 22, 2015
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Well it depends on the person. You will have people who will love you and care for you, and then you will have other people in your life where they are negative spirited and will try to bring you down. Don't believe why the negative people say because they will succeed in bringing you down if you feed into it. Also don't worry about people liking you. You should like yourself. That's all that matters
Profile: Br33zyS3tz
Br33zyS3tz on Sep 1, 2015
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This should never even be a doubt; you are amazing and unique, so valuable and worthy; believe in yourself, and never question your character in light of other people's perceptions; be you and be proud, be strong and know that others do like, love and appreciate you for you, for who you are.
Profile: GittleLeo
GittleLeo on Sep 28, 2015
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I think the question here, is: Why am I afraid to tell you who I am? The answer is because you might not like who I am and that is all I have. Show everyone all the good you have and don't sell yourself too short, we are often our own worst critics.
Profile: ZheGhostD1
ZheGhostD1 on Jan 18, 2016
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There are two types of people. People who like you for looks, wealth, popularity, etc. And their are people who like you for your personality. Always associate only with the second group. Those are "Friends"
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