How can I explain homosexuality to my parents?
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Updated: Apr 29, 2022
someonewhocares67
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Mar 13, 2019
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If you have very ignorant parents, then this would not be a wise idea. If, however, you have very understanding and loving parents, then yes I would recommend trying to explain this to them. Before I begin, I would tell you something very important. If you have ignorant parents, I would recommend waiting until you are fully independent. I say this because I have witnessed, first hand, Countless parents disowning or kicking their children out of their home for being gay. If you have very understanding parents, then I would recommend telling them as you would prevent carrying all this weight on your shoulders. In order to explain homosexuality to your parents, please follow the following steps. Firstly, make sure that they are not already stressed out or dealing with other difficult situations. Secondly, sit them down, preferably in a private area and make sure to stay on topic. Thirdly, go ahead and tell them. Don't be worried if they are speechless as this is common in these kinds of situation, just give them time and honestly answer any questions they may ask. And finally, don't be afraid to express your emotions, If you feel like crying then cry.
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Anonymous
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Apr 23, 2016
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You were born this way. Everything on earth is natural, if God did not want you to be this way, you wouldn't.
Probius
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May 21, 2016
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You can tell your parents that you love someone of the same sex, as opposed to the opposite sex. Nothing else is different about you.
RaCat
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Feb 9, 2016
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I haven't explained it yet (even if I identify myself as bisexual) because it's one of he hardest thing to do when your parents are homofobics. But I think that the truly loving parents would accept them child no matter what sexuality he has, maybe it will take a little bit more time than always but at the end of the day, they will understand. Just try o be honest, show them what it is to be like this and show that it's still you, that nothing ever changed.
dancingBeauty97
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Jun 5, 2016
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Homosexuals are just like any one else. They love like other people and care like any one else. They have nothing wrong with them. They are the same just like "straight people"
Anonymous
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Sep 27, 2015
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I think it's best to wait sometimes. Explain it to them if you have a safe place to go, or are out on your own. I know how hard this is, I'm waiting right now too. I've tried explaining some things, but haven't..come out about anything yet. I feel they wouldnt understand. So I'd rather be somewhere safe and then explain it to them, so I know I have a home somewhere. As far as ways to explain it, maybe mention that homosexuals dont choose who they're attracted to any more than heterosexuals do. Find the facts to back it up, but dont push too far past personal lines all at once. Acceptance is a process. For some, that processing time is quick and painless, while others take much longer. Much love and I hope this helps ^~^
AbundantDeepak
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Jun 4, 2016
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What is there to explain? Just tell them that you are a homosexual and that is the reality of who you are. You are still a human being even if your sexual orientation is towards homosexuality.
optimisticPumpkin82
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Jun 17, 2016
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You could explain homosexuality to your parents by telling them that homosexuality is not that much different from a normal relationship. Only thing different is that with guys you have a male and male and girls it's a girl and girl. Love is love no matter what.
SimplyBeing
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May 8, 2016
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I have struggled to explain homosexuality to many people I care about. For me, people began to understand when I started talking more about how I feel than why I felt that way and how I became homosexual. Your feelings are yours and you deserve to have your feelings respected. Your experience of being homosexual is what matters. When I made my explanation more about "this is who I am and how I feel, right here and right now" people began to hear the authenticity in my voice and they started working to understand it themselves. I wish you peace ~J
sunalchemy
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Jun 4, 2016
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First you have to make a short and reassuring introduction like .. the other day i found instead of i've got something to say it's less stressful. Second you explain how gradually you found that you were homosexual and that they actually nothing to fear you will stay the same. The rest will depend on your parents reaction !
NekoBread
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Sep 22, 2015
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Just try to tell them of the easiest and informative way you can, and when you see that is a good timing; if you can, get support for some friend or someone that be there for you in these hard times. and info yourself about other cases like you.
TylerDelRey
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Apr 21, 2016
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The best way to explain is to tell them that its natural. No one chooses their sexuality, so they shouldn't be judged for that!
BubblySerenity91
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Jun 10, 2016
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You know what works best with your parents, but do your best to make it easy and clear to understand
bhetherson4
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Jun 11, 2016
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Homosexuality is love for the same gender as yourself. Though it may differ from how society portrays what a relationship should be, a relationship is always moving, building, and growing. Love is love no matter what gender or pronouns or preferences people have. Love should not be discouraged based on people's gender.
Anonymous
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Jun 23, 2016
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Sit down with them and have a calm and trusting talk. Don't just spring it on them, but lead them calmly into the subject.
SMStar
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Jul 9, 2016
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Homosexuality is love for the same gender as yourself. Though it may differ from how society portrays what a relationship should be, a relationship is always moving, building, and growing. Love is love no matter what gender or pronouns or preferences people have. Love should not be discouraged based on people's gender.
BlissfulNathalie24
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Jan 28, 2018
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Congratulations for discovering you sexuality and starting to think about how you will come out to your family! I'm so proud of you for coming to 7 Cups and exploring your options. Feel free to chat with me about this! I know it can be stressful and scary and at times feel alone. @BlissfulNathalie24 ! My short advice is to form a plan! Sounds easier that it is. Write down the best case scenario of what you WISH would happen. Now write down the worst thing that can happen. Could you get kicked out of your home? Made fun of? .. Think about that. Now go online. Find an LGBTQ+ support group (I work for one called the LGBT Life Center, Is there one of those in your city?) There, they will have hotlines, support groups, and even safe housing resources and everything to ease your fears! Think about THAT! .. Now tell a trusted friend. It is easier, for some reason, to come out to a friend you've known a few years than it is your family who has known you your whole life. Use this as a practice run for your parents... Now think about HOW you will tell them. The where and when. Will you tell mom first and then dad? Or will you do it over dinner like an announcement? Maybe have a sibling lay the ground work of telling them and then all you have to do is confirm it later? It is ALL your decision. What YOU are comfortable with. I'm so glad you are choosing to show the world who you are. This is a very vulnerable thing to do and I want to welcome you to this beautiful LGBTQ+ community.
tiredsnail
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Mar 31, 2018
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To begin, it is recommended not to come out in an unsafe environment. If you are comfortable, explain that you feel an attraction to the same gender.
RedVase1234
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Jun 9, 2018
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You can start by telling your parents that 2 people of the same sex or gender can feel the same kind of love, affection, and attraction as heterosexual couples do. Understand they might have questions, and be open to answering them the best you can
Aayla
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Aug 9, 2019
LGBTQ+ Issues Expert
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It's all about telling them openly how you it feels to be homosexual, how you realize it, and what it means to live as homosexual. Make sure you tell them about why certain common misconception are wrong and what is really true, for example the fact that homosexuality is something innate and not a choice or a consequence of some life events. Let them know that gay people can be as happy and in love as any other. Let them know you're available to answer any question they might have, and most importantly, be as open-hearted as you can! Good luck!
