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ShiningPanda13

Master 7
Listens to Over 18
in last week
I'm an entrepreneur with over 10 years experience consulting - seven years self-employed. I understand the doubts and fears that come with the hustle, especially those that come after the way certain vendors and partners treat you. As a female working in the science / technology industry, I have a lot of experience dealing with women's perceptions of the way men may or may not intend to treat them as differently - and how to professionally maintain a level of poise. I have also observed the power dynamics that men face through organizational hierarchy used to degrade, bashing/bullying/one-upmanship. It's really hard out there! 
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1383
United States

Ar2018

Maven 11
Listens to Over 18
in last week
Hello Welcome! I am an experienced listener that is a bit older then the majority on here. (I am over 40) My experience is through a varity of trainings and life experiences and challenges. I am a more direct listener and like to get to the source of what brings you on....I do not engage in prewritten scripts, I much rather prefer real conversations that are one on one and in present time. My sessions of time are between 15-60 minutes and are blocked out for my time online. The green light means I am on and available to chat...orange means I am already engaging in a chat so unable to provide a one on one session for that moment. I do have long term members and am able to take on a couple more.  Here is what I am unable to help you with: I am not available for lonely or depressive challenges. I also will not engage in sexual conversations, there are other types of sites for that and 7 cups of Tea is not for that. Please be resepctful.  Thank you! "When words are both true and kind, they can change the world" BuddhaMindful breathing exercise:      FYI: I do not have inappropriate chats/sexually explicit CLEAN CHATS ONLY         My online times are generally blocked for 15-60 min at a time.  
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1181
United States

helpfulArrow6093

Discoverer 5
Listens to To Teens
in last week
'The Loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they do not want to see anyone suffer the way they do. The ones who don't care at all once cared too much.'My poems: Will I ever be enough for them  do they like me for who I am  they must think I'm so dumb  those are my thoughts damn  always worry about what to say  so I don't look like the weird one  afraid to be myself that's my day  can I just please have some fun  without having to feel like I'm judged  just pressured to be somebody else  happy when a mirror gets smudged  cause I don't have to look at myself  that way I don't feel like I'm nobody  don't think about my imperfections  making me want to change my body  all my constant wrong self-reflections  why nobody wants to be my friend  am I really such a terrible person  can you imagine the hours I spend  just overthinking and being nervous  that I'm the replaceable one here  the annoying one the least important  oh can I just run away or disappear  but what if I've been already forgotten  keep thinking about past and future  there's no presence for me anymore  looking for mistakes in every picture  feel my heart racing so I count to four  no it doesn't stop now I can't breathe  I'm sweating and trembling I feel dizzy  feeling like I'm about to lose my teeth  but no one notices cause they're busy  hear some people I know laughing  feel like it's me everyone is looking at  so I'm waiting time keeps on passing  but what if it's me they're laughing at  no I don't like to share personal stuff  it's not like I don't have any words  I'm scared they'll laugh it's so rough  so I just stand there listening to birds  I don't ask for help when I need it  I'm terrified to share my opinion  I'm struggling but I wouldn't admit  that I'm afraid to make a decision  But it's not me it's not my fault  oh no it's just my social anxiety  keeping me in a personal vault  making me afraid of our society Yesterday you asked me  how are you I said I'm fine  but can't you see that I lied  drank another bottle of wine  just to hide all the pain inside  tears all over my eyes again  keep telling myself it's okay  I'll just try to numb my brain  so I could live another day  sometimes things get blurry  so I cry myself goodnight  still don't want you to worry  so I keep saying I'm alright  but deep down I'm hoping  you'll just look into my eyes  and see I'm not really coping  time flies but life is full of lies  but I guess you're just blind  to see the scars on my soul  I guess after time I won't mind  But for now I'll play my role  smile and just say I'm fine  without telling you the truth  that what it really means is that  I'm dying inside so stop asking  and just hold me in your arms. I wonder can I trust my heart  to tell me wrong from right  not to keep me in the dark  so it doesn't leave its mark  Forgetting about what I feel  Is it finally time for me to heal  from all the things that hurt  that try to put me in the dirt  So I'd look like the bad one  when I don't wanna point my gun  cause I know I will always loose  no matter who's side I'd choose  So please just let me live my life  I swear not to start another strife  I'm just looking for some peace  cause I'm not ready to decease  I'm just too young to die yet  I'm so tired of all this regret  so tired of all this fighting  all I wish for is some writing. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ ​  
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360
Slovakia (Slovak Republic)

hopedreamlove

Scholar 6
Listens to To Teens
in last week
"Fall seven times, stand up eight"Hey you! Yes, you! The human being who might be struggling and who deserves compassion and kindness. I may not have gone through the same experiences as you, but I understand that you are in immense pain. As a listener, and a fellow human being, I want to support you. You are so strong and brave and important. Things may seem difficult or even impossible right now, but you are not alone, I am here for you. Always remember that you matter, are worthy, and valid.I am Hope, a teenager who has gone through the ups and downs of this roller coaster we call life. I will do everything I can to make you feel even a little better. Currently, I do NOT take chats on eating disorder, weight management, exercise motivation, or sexually related things. Thank you for understanding! I am currently very busy on and off 7 cups, and I do not have much time to do live chats. However, if you would like to, I do offline chatting where I can message you throughout the day. We can also set up a time to live chat if you would like. I may not always respond right away to a message, but I will try and get back to you within 72 hours, and if I don't, please send me another message as there is a good chance I may have missed your first message. @bouncySalamander26 my poetic, smart, thoughtful, and absolutely wonderful listener and almost birthday twinnie! @KindAnni my amazing fantastic twin! My roles: Verified listener- I have been verified as a high quality listener. Chat Supporter- I can help you work through difficult ongoing chats. Quality Teen Star: I can mentor listeners, work with them on their active listening skills, and do mock chats with them.  Safety Patrol Team- I can flag profiles, so feel free to pm me a profile if you think it needs to be flagged.  Listener Discussion Leader- Join me on Friday's at 5 pm ET in the Teen Listener's chatroom for a fun event, and join me for listener discussions that I hold throughout the month! Community Mentor- I am a teen star for the Young People of Color sub-community. Feel free to send me a message if you are interested in getting involved with this sub-community!Forum role- Forum supporter for the Young People of Color community.  DJ Team- I can screen songs as a member of this team Verifiers team: If you are interested in becoming a verified listener you can send me or another verifier a message! Peer supporter- Listeners feel free to message me or any other peer supporter after a difficult/triggering chat.Thank you for visiting my profile! I hope you all have a fantastic day! Here is some magical pixie dust to make you fly... or at least smile! *sprinkles pixie dust on your wonderful self.*
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419
United States

comfortableEyes5

Discoverer 3
Listens to To Teens
in last week
I'm a listener! Growing through gratitude 🌱 ​​​​My name is Aryyan (pronouns :-he/his) And yes!! I'm here for you 🙂 don't worry ok ,plus now you all can book me also ( scroll down for more info.) I know that you are going through something but never loose hope .About me I'm an introvert but I like to talk with people which are having the same vibes🙃 ​​​I do like to help people very much 💕 i want to be a future psychiatric,that's my dream job.I don't like sympathy , and I know how it feels ❤️ When i was 2½ year old , i was diagonosed by a disease called transverse myelitis, which i'm still facing​(not struggling) with.  my favourite food is noodles and shahi paneer.Go watch this videos if you have time👇https://youtu.be/KsjVUJMWzkshttps://youtu.be/96kI8Mp1uOU (The beauty of acceptance)*About my disease*Transverse myelitis is an inflammation of both sides of one section of the spinal cord. This neurological disorder often damages the insulating material covering nerve cell fibers (myelin).Because of this disease , i can not walk by my self , i have to use walker or wheelchair to travel from one place to another. This is the main reason i haven't seen much places outside my house as still in my country it is not at all feasible to travel with my disablities. I'm not afraid of anything but i will not say that im not worried and conscious about my future as i haven't gone through much difficulties about the outside world.but i have to believe in myself.*Useful quote* “The way I see it, hard times aren't only about money, or drought, or dust. Hard times are about losing spirit, and hope, and what happens when dreams dry up.” ― Karen Hesse, Out of the Dust*My timings*As i'm currently preparing for competitive exams , so thats why i can't give much time to 7 cups .**So you can BOOK ME here** BUT YOU CAN PERSONALLY MESSAGE ME ANYTIME YOU WANT I WILL DEFINATELY GET BACK TO YOU ASAP.        
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286
India

Shirley7Cups

Connoisseur 6
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Notes: NOT taking any relationship problem and sexual chatsThank you for reading my profileMy Online Schedule (ET) Friday: 7pm to 12:00am  Saturday: 1:00am to 9am and 7:00pm to 9:00pm  You can use https://shirley7cups.youcanbook.me to schedule a time with meMy Online State When I am online, I am available to take member chats. When I am busy, I am on 7cups but I am doing other things. You can leave me a message, and I will respond to you as soon as possible. When I am offline, I am not on 7cups. You can leave me a message, and I will respond to you when I come back to 7cups.Chatting Style During an hour chat, I'm here to listen and support you, yet I can't provide you any advice. After the chat, we can set up a time to talk again. I only talk with a member at the same time, so when I'm talking with a member, other members have to wait me or set up a time to talk.  English isn't my first language, and I'm not really good at English, so I have some grammar mistakes and a little bit meaning mistakes. Maybe I delay responding to you because I need to check the dictionary if I don't know those words. My first language is Cantonese, and I also speak Mandarin, Taiwanese and English, and I type Chinese and English. If you are a Chinese speaker, feel free to message me.Chatting Topic Anxiety Bipolar Bullying Christian Spirituality Depression Domestic Violence General Mental Health Loneliness Managing Emotions Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Panic Attacks PTSD/Trauma Self-Esteem Self-Harm Sleeping Well Social Anxiety Student LifeIf your topic that you want to talk with me is without this list, that means I do not have experiences about the topic. Please seek for other listeners' support. Thank you for understanding. Useful online resources(24/7) 1. If you are suicidal, having suicial thoughts, currently self-harming, or in any crisis situations, please click www.imalive.org to seek support.  2. If you are suffering abuse, please click www.rainn.org to seek support.  3. If you are suffering abuse in military, please click safehelpline.org to seek support 4. If you are 11-35 years old, in Hong Kong and in crisis, please click www.openup.hk to seek supportMy Role 1. Adult-Teen Listener -- No matter who you are, feel free to message me when you need support.  2. Peer Supporter -- After trigger chats, I am able to support you.  3. Verifier -- If you want to get verified listener badge, feel free to message me, and I can help you to get the badge. 4. Translator and Chinese Team Leader—I am helping 7cups to translate Chinese and leading Chinese team.  5. Adult Listener Discussion Team Member--I hold group discussions at adult listener roomAbout Me   I am Shirley, an active listener in 7cups, a Christian, an 18 years old girl, who comes from Hong Kong. I am diagnosed with Depression, Autism Spectrum Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), so I have direct experiences about those situation. In fact, I'm not good at relationship, for I am diagnosed with ASD, so I have some communication barriers. I had self-harmed in 2016-2017, so I can help you with how to cope with this problem. Otherwise, I am suffering with depression, so I am finding some coping methods. Also, my mum is diagnosed with Schizophrenia and Bipolar, so I know a little bit knowledge about it. My electives at school are Biology, Chemistry, and Mathematics. My hobbies are shooting of air gun, travelling bus, watching birds, Biology and Mathematics. Feel free to talk with me those topics if you want! In fact, I have a male tortoise who is called stupid(死蠢) at home, and it is a really crazy thing that he is my mum, so my mum is stupid haha(You can imagine what I look like haha). This is my tortoise: https://imgur.com/a/H45Aqnp If you read to here, I am so appreciate your attention
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587
Hong Kong

SamuelFrancis

Maven 2
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
Always message me anytime and I will get back to you about me, I am an 18-year-old Christian tea lover that loves to make new friends and always able to start a conversation.❤  Roles: Quality mentorGeneral Support (Commuinty Mentor Leader, Forum mentor,  Mod) LGBTQ+ (Mod)​​​​​ Adult Teen Listener Safety Patrol Needs reply team Peer Support Room Supporter (Mindfulness)Quotes I love: “No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” – Buddha "Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light"  “When you believe in yourself, you have 100% of the people you need on your side.” — Anima Vitam  
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958
United Kingdom

CaringBrit

Exemplar
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
**IMPORTANT PLEASE READ THE BELOW INFORMATION BEFORE MESSAGING IF YOUR A MEMBER for chats please see my catagories what topics i can cant do & Listener if wanting mentoring/mock chats to get verified/or mentoring mocks** id prefer SCHEDULED chats only you can use the book now at bottom of bio if you cant see this pm me and ill give you the link for it .since im super busy with my other roles . Thankyou For understandingAbout me Hey all my names Brit. I’ve been a listener for 4 years almost 5 .I'm a verified ATL too I'll only take chats for one hour slots at a time if you need regular we will set up a time and date after every chat i take Always accepting long term members .Teams I’m OnPeer supporter this is for the listeners who get rough chats we also can support the Mentors in answering any questions you may have ​​​​Peer Supporter BuddyGroup ModeratorSupport teams : Disability Support , Self Harm and TraumaVL team- Project Agent for VL (1-1 trainings and member checkins )Chat Support i can give ongoing chat support if you are Stuck in a chat also able to give basic mentoring------ if you cant find a chat support in LSR you can use this link to fill a form in to request one Chat Support formQuality Mentor Leader for VL Track - Adult Coordinator -here are some VL Links you wish to become verified here's how - How to become a Verified Listener & Ask Me Anything about VL!DJ Of 7CupsQ&A approval team (Answers and editing answers)ATL (Adult Teen ListenerForum Mentor DisabilityForum Mentor for Trauma SubcomForum Supporter Self HarmSafety Patrol Team checking profiles follow guidelines My Listener Twins are : MagicallySmiles50 , PalmTreesNRainbows, BeckyisHere ( bunny twinny) and RumpleSteeleSkin Please click below on the book now if you wish to book a chat with meClick HERE to book me if you cant see the above button
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1219
United Kingdom

happy22icecream

Advanced 6
Listens to Teens & Over 18
in last week
About me: Hi! My name is Dan; I am a 7cups.com Adult Teen Listner (ATL). I have been on 7cups.com for over four years. I am also a trained crisis counselor, so when I say I have heard it all, I have listened to it all. There is nothing too big or too little for me to handle. I have lots of resources that I can give you. You will never be judged by me no matter what is going on. We all human, so that means that we all have struggles and issues, we can't handle alone. Projects I am involved in  Welcoming Team, Peer-Support, Room support for disability, 35+, and family and caregiver support. 7cups intern and I am  quality mentor. Please note that due to the number of projects I am now involved in, I will am not taking new one-on-one chats at the moment with the exceptions to mentees.                                                                
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378
United States

7motivation

Supporter 2
Listens to Over 18
in last week
START GETTING UNSTUCK AND START FEELING BETTER! LEARN HOW... Hi, I just came here from another help chat site...... So I've already helped hundreds of "Venters" talk out and find their own answers to many types of problems such as: getting unstuck , overcoming feeling OVERWHELMED, making things s.i.m.p.l.e and [manage][able] again, getting back =O=N=T=R=A=C=K==, getting back your power, getting back in control, getting back to an improvement mindset and creating momentum and keeping it going, overcoming p....r....o...c..rastination, creating motivation with ACTION (except not depression-related problems please), improving habits and routines to design an easier, happier lifestyle.I've also helped people with complex issues aboutdating, boundary setting, relationships,avoiding romantic relationships altogether, breakups, cheating, finding closure, forgiveness, family, forced/pressured marriage, religion, spirituality, journaling, sexuality ???uncertainty, sexual abuse, sexual obsession, virginity concerns, OCD, OBSESSION, COMPULSION, inTRUsive thoughts, COdependency, addiction, lonel.i.ness, finding friends in real-life, being an introvert  ʇɹǝʌoɹʇuı, identity ??? issues, boredom, University student life, college major change, job hunting, job stress, sleep problems Zzz(-¿-)Zzz...(ô¿ô)  binge eating disorder, weightmanagement, exercise motivation, flow, focus, and self-care.READ THIS PAGE AND LEARN NEW WAYS TO GET UNSTUCK BECOME A "GETTING UNSTUCK" Ninja! FIRST LET ME EXPLAIN MY APPROACH I've helped many people by having long, deep, interesting conversations about their past...during which they discover on their own WHY they are stuck now. Knowing WHY you're stuck is often very helpful for you to change. All I do mainly is just ask really good, insightful questions. That's usually half the answer. You yourself can get at the key issues that way.    After hearing yourself think-things-out, it all becomes much clearer and you get a much better big picture of the hidden feelings and reasons that have been driving you.   You can then decide what it all means and how it helps you make changes because you'll have a better understanding of what you think is going on from your new enhanced point of view.MY TRAINING AND WHY I'M HERE I've taken almost all of the relevant 7Cups training (47 courses) and lots of training from other resources.   I have 7Cups Certification in Active Listening Level 2. I also have a Masters Degree (MS) and a lot of life experience making good changes.I'm a Listener here because I've always wanted to understand a wide variety of personal problems and evidence-based solutions, and to help people find their own solutions using various listening and conversation styles. I enjoy using my experience in finding root causes of problems to help others figure out their desired "corrective action". I also enjoy helping people see the BIG picture []and find that "Ahha!" insight they've been looking for.CATEGORIES I COVERIf you want help please note I only cover the topics on the Categories list below.  Anything else is outside my scope and/or comfort-zone so I will refer you to someone appropriate.Particularly if you have/had depression and/or lost all interests, lost all passion in life, lost all meaning in life, then please use the Browse Listeners Advance Search Link below and find someone who can help you who has Lived Experience and is willing to provide Long Term Support. https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/%3Fbadge%3D%26find%3Dmotivation%26sort%3Dcheers%26ageGroup%3D%26listType%3Dlistener%26country%3D%26category%3D3%26gender%3D%26language%3D%26verifiedlistener%3Don%26acceptSponsees%3Don%26livedExperience%3DonCATEGORIES I COVERCreating Good Habits & Routines Understanding Good & Bad MotivationsMaking Tiny Easy Changes Getting on an Easy Steady Growth Path also. . .Breakups Exercise Motivation Family Stress Forgiveness General Mental Health Getting Unstuck Loneliness Managing Emotions Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Relationship Stress Self-Esteem Sleeping Well Social Anxiety Weight Management Work StressIf I don't cover your topic, please use the Browse Listeners page to find someone just right for your needs.https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/HOW TO GET UNSTUCK Below are some strategies used to get unstuck. At 7Cups, you always decide what's right for you. Listeners are only here to support you to find your own solutions, not provide unequivocal advice.GET UNSTUCK FROM DEFAULT ROLESAre you often stuck in the role of Situation Victim who needs help or can't be helped? Are you often stuck in the role of the Rescuer of someone who needs help? Are you often stuck in the role of wanting to be the Domineering person or the Meany or the Bully or even a 7CupsTroll to feel better or to "teach" someone a lesson?  Would you like insights on why people often keep FALLING into certain roles and get [ stuck ] there?You can understand those default roles, why people fall into them, how to get out of them, and how to take on much better alternative roles. HERE'S AN INSIGHTFUL VIDEO LINK... to help you understand why people get [ stuck ] in aDrama Triangle and how to get out and stay out. (This guy explains how to get unstuck really really well):https://youtu.be/uAFZa2Iyp3oFYI - NO DRAGONS WERE HARMED IN THE VIDEO! REGAINING CONTROLStart shifting into the role of a person who takes back their power. Start fixing things and as a result start feeling better and regain momentum and feel good right away. Start by taking baby steps. Think: What do I want? and How do I think I can get it?  Make small improvements so it's easy and motivating and feels rewarding. You can make good p.r.o.g.r.e.s.s when you start looking for little solutions and keep experimenting until soon you make good things happen. REMEMBER:  Making Progress Is the Best Motivator - Even Small Easy Progress -Right now. . .  You can take a little action, make a little progress, and that will feel good.When you're tempted to make excuses, remember. . . Making a little progress feels better. STUCK AND AFRAID OR ASHAMEDRemember:Whenever you're feeling [ stuck ] and in BIG trouble,always reach out   - and keep reaching out - until you find the right person to talk to.  It's the essential first step. You can stop keeping everything bottled-up inside you. You can stop fear or shame or despair or worry from taking over  your life like a bad habit in a vicious cycle.  Break out of it now! Talking is the  key first step to start finding healthy solutions just right for you.OVERCOMING FEAR AND INACTIONInaction breeds doubt and fear.Action breeds confidence and courage.IF YOU WANT TO CONQUER FEAR...Don't sit at home and think about it.Go out and get busy (Dale Carnegie)ACTION IS THE KEY. Action conquers fear.ACTION CREATES MOMENTUM and momentum creates motivation. So... ACTION CREATES MOTIVATION!START TAKING ACTION. Motivation will follow.OVERCOME FEAR OF MAKING A MISTAKE Take the shame and fear out of making mistakes. Get unstuck by taking a reasonable risk to make progress.   Realize with each action you'll gain knowledge, new ideas, resilience, courage, self-understanding, and quicker results.STUCK IN BAD ROUTINES DUE TO THE MIND The mind by default wants to keep you safe and thinks change is bad. So it makes you feel uncomfortable if you want to change. That can make it hard for some to change for the better. SO RECOGNIZE YOUR MIND'S INGRAINED RESISTANCE. . . and make changes happen anyway. TAKE ACTION REPEATEDLY TO OVERCOME INNER RESISTANCE TO CHANGE.   Then soon, the mind will become accustomed to the new normal for you. This applies for new habits, new routines, new self-image, and new ways of thinking. NOTICE WHEN YOU ARE FALLING BACK INTO AN OLD "RUT".   Then take corrective action and go into your new mode of behaving or thinking or doing things because it's the new you now.STUCK IN BAD ROUTINES BECAUSE YOU'RE MAKING IT TOO EASY TO DO BAD THINGS AND MAKING IT TOO HARD TO DO GOOD THINGS. . . Try to make it very hard to do bad things and make it very easy to do good things. For example, set up your environment so it's very convenient to do good things and very inconvenient to do bad things. Be with people that behave like you want to behave. Avoid people who don't behave like you want to behave.USE MOTIVATIONAL SELF-TALK out-loud to get yourself going.  THINK THINGS OUT-LOUD and tell yourself what to do.  It's proven to work wonders!CREATE GOOD DAILY ROUTINES to create automatic motivation! THEN PROGRESS HAPPENS DAILY and you'll feel better more and more.FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL.Take small easy s.t.e.p.s and get momentum.REMEMBER rumination and worry DO NOT work.PROBLEM SOLVE  rather than worry.HAPPINESS  comes from solving problems. STUCK IN DENIAL OR CAN'T SEE MISTAKE If you're still stuck, it might be because you made a mistake...  that your ego is unwilling to let you admit and that could be causing you great emotional dissonance.   Think about the possibility you made a mistake and figure out if it's true. If yes, admit it, forgive youself, learn from it, and that will set you free from your resistance. Then you can stop ignoring your mistake and either fix it if possible or accept you have to live with it and take alternative action.STUCK DUE TO PERFECTIONISMPERFECTIONISM IS COMMON IN PEOPLE WHO. . . - overthink habitually, obsessively - are afraid of making a mistake - are "Maximizers" and want to get the very most or best out of every situation. SO PERFECTIONISTS GET STUCK IN VICIOUS CYCLES. . . - procrastinate to find the best solution - gather too much data - overthink then can't make a good decision when needed - second-guess their decisions so are never happy long  - set unachieveable goals THE SOLUTION IS TO BECOME A "SATISFICER" INSTEAD. . .   SATISFICERS - use a much simpler, easier approach to decision making - are better at making good decisions - are much happier and successful Here is a resource to learn more and get unstuck from Perfectionism:https://www.psychologistworld.com/cognitive/maximizers-satisficers-decision-makingSTUCK IN A PROCRASTINATION "VICIOUS CYCLE" Do you procrastinate to regulate your negative emotions about an unpleasant task? Putting it off feels good for a while and that temporarily solves the negative emotions. But that doesn't solve the problem and actually it makes it worse. Now you have less time to do the task so you end up worrying about it more and more. And you'll end up doing the task worse than someone who didn't procrastinate because you gave yourself less time to do it. So why is it you procrastinated and they didn't? Your problem is how you dealt with  your reaction to your complex emotions about the task. The other person dealt with their emotions first and that avoided falling into the vicious procrastination cycle. Instead, they focused on finding an easy first step to get going. After that it was easier for them to do the next steps. Solution: Learn to constructively manage your complex negative emotions about the task. See https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-adaptive-mind/201901/how-overcome-procrastination-starting-nowREMEMBER THE KEY IS. . . Decide "in advance" to alwaysJust Get Started. Decide to just pick some very easy part to do for now.  Just focus on that easy little bit until it's done.     Then celebrate and feel good about it. The more progress you make, the better you will feel.Keep doing it, easy little bit-by-bit, until you are done.Repeat The Above Whenever Stuck.MAKING GOOD FRIENDS If you want make new friends, try these fun-to-listen-to podcasts:Start ending lonel i ness.  A good first step to break out of feeling lonely is . . . TAKE BACK YOUR POWER to make things happen!. . . Reach out and find new friends in real-life.  LEARN HOW TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS  IN THE 3 FUN PODCASTS BELOW. Podcast 1 starts out silly about using a spreadsheet, but gets very interesting and covers "How to have find and keep friendships". Lots of great ideas, suggestions, and insights are provided that are proven to work.  Click on the [Minute Listen] blue bar on the web pages.  Each podcast wraps up with "take-aways".  I guarantee you will learn surprising new things that will help you in real-life. Poodcast 1 - Accept The Awkwardness: How To Make Friends  and keep them https://www.npr.org/2019/08/15/751479810/make-new-friends-and-keep-the-oldPodcast 2 - When Friendships Change, How To Cope https://www.npr.org/2019/08/19/752412010/when-friendship-changes-how-to-copePodcast 3 - Men Can Have Better Friendships. Here's How  (not just for guys!)https://www.npr.org/2019/08/19/752412752/men-can-have-better-friendships-heres-howSTUCK BECAUSE LONELYWHAT IS LONELINESS? Loneliness is the highly subjective feeling one gets when one lacks meaningful relationships.  One needs to make sure they feel known, understood, connected, and supported to solve being lonely. HOW LONELY ARE YOU COMPARED TO OTHER PEOPLE? Take this 3 minute quiz and seehttps://psychcentral.com/cgi-bin/loneliness-quiz.cgi (based Russell "UCLA Loneliness Scale" v3) WHY ARE PEOPLE LONELIER NOW? 1) habitual exposure to social media 2) habitual surfing the internet 3) habitual use of smart phones 4) habitual texting instead of having voice calls 5) habitual hanging-out with other lonely people on-line 6) habitual avoiding real-life activities and contacts HOW TO GET UNSTUCK? Realize what is going on...  Become very aware that those harmful habits perpetuate a painful viscious cycle.  Put new habits and routines in place that make your life better.  Feel good by solving the problem. HOW TO END LONELINESS THE EASY WAY? One simple way is by joining-in on near-by regular weekly group activities.  Find activities in categories you already enjoy doing on your own.  Then you'll start finding new friends who share your interests.  You'll have a nice, friendly social network. All kinds of great opportunities can then happen. BONUS FACT - Hang out with happy people and you'll be happier.  Happiness is contagious.  So find people that do things that make you happy and do things with them regularly.  Avoid the opposite situation.OTHER REASONS YOU MIGHT BE STUCK. . .  Stuck because not reaching out for help. Stuck in your comfort zone. Stuck due to maladaptive coping mechanisms. Stuck due to self-sabotage. Stuck due to wanting the world to be different. Stuck due to wrong assumptions. Stuck due to wrong understanding of reality or people. Stuck due to self-imposed limitations. Stuck due to acting without thinking. Stuck due to not asking the right questions. Stuck due to not getting other points of view. Stuck due to making decisions using only emotion or logic. Stuck due to bad or no long-term planning. Stuck due to wrong goals or wrong motivation. Stuck due to poor self-discipline.  Stuck due to inexperience. All of these can be overcome after you identify them.STUCK: NEED GOOD SELF-CARESelf-care means constantly protecting one’s mental, emotional, and physical health. DO YOU PROPERLY. . .  eat, rest, sleep, breath, stay active, think/reflect, self-talk, manage emotions, manage priorities, stay-empowered, socialize, and get support when needed? If not, you may be stuck because your life needs proper attention. TRY BEING PROACTIVE  and keep things in control rather than being passive and only react after things get far out of control.STUCK DRIFTING - NOT ON A "GROWTH PATH" GOING IN CIRCLES OR NOWHERE OR WRONG WAY.REMEMBER: To grow daily, get on a growth path.TRY USING THE 7CUPS "GROWTH PATH" TOOLShttps://www.7cups.com/path/LEARN HOW TO CREATE GOOD"TINY HABITS" EASILY!!!  Click link below for podcast:https://www.npr.org/2020/02/25/809256398/tiny-habits-are-the-key-to-behavioral-changeTRY USING 7CUPS NONI CHATBOT SPECIAL MENU FORlearning Self-Care, Setting Goals, Setting Reminders.GETTING UNSTUCK RESOURCES 7Cups Getting Unstuck Self-Help Guide / Training:https://www.7cups.com/getting-unstuck/ 7Cups Mindfulness Exercises For Better Control:https://www.7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness/ 7Cups Self-Help Guides / Training (full list):https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php7 Cups for the Searching Soul E-Book as a free 7Cups Self-Help Guideor free at Amazon.com and read immediately in Kindle Cloud Reader ARE YOU READY TO CHANGE? "Ultimately, people change when they are ready to change. Our job as Listeners is to basically show care, support, listen, and nurture that motivation to change. Simply caring will help awaken or help uncover the strength to start the change process."  
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Hello! I am glad you've found me on 7 Cups of Tea. I consider myself a good listener. I always enjoy having meaningful conversations with people. I would like to help you too by listening to you. If I'm online, then please feel free to start a chat. If I'm offline, then send a message and we can set up a time to connect. Glad you're here.
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Hello my friend, I'm so pleased you have found me on 7cups of Tea! I'm a trained Teen and Adult Listener a  Teen Transitioning Mentor Quality Mentor  Teen Quality Mentor  and I look forward to supporting you. I hope you will feel comforted knowing there is someone here who understands your needs and worries and I look forward to chatting with you. If my status is shown as offline or busy, please message me and I will get back to you asap. Chat soon Lucy2      
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