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Loneliness is as Harmful as Smoking

User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 April 28th

According to the U.S. Surgeon General, loneliness is equivalent to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day. No one wants to be lonely. We have no one to talk to or share our day with, and we are isolated from family and friends. Chronic isolation raises stress hormones and inflammation.

We may become lonely because family and friends move away further than we may want. We may not contact visually with people we grew up with, or our daily lives change as we grow older. Loneliness is a health concern. Loneliness harms both our individual and societal health; this can cause cardiovascular disease, dementia, stroke, depression, and premature death.

We can each start now to make sure we have others around us by strengthening our relationships with family and friends. Loneliness and isolation can be a threat to our emotional and physical health, and making sure we surround ourselves with other people can make us feel healthy. We can answer the phone when a friend or loved one calls and give them our time even if it is over the phone. We can make plans to meet for coffee or a meal out with others, so we do not feel alone all the time.

How can we not be lonely or isolate ourselves from others? 


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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 April 28th

@pamharley003

That's why Im glad for many people they places like seven cups exists 💙

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User Profile: soulsings
soulsings April 28th

@pamharley003  How can we not be lonely or isolate ourselves from others? 

When I volunteer here I feel connected and not separate and apart. 

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User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 OP April 28th

@soulsings

I feel the same everyone here is like a second family to me. I am so glad to be here and mentor others gives me a reason to be proud of myself. I enjoy posting in Mindfulness and 50+, and see the responses I get from others.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 April 28th

@pamharley003

How can we not be lonely or isolate ourselves from others? 

Usually I do not feel lonely. Volunteering here, grocery shopping, gardening, and morning walks help me to feel connected to the world and my surroundings. If it happens that I feel lonely, I will go out for more walks. If I do feel lonely though, I would call my friends overseas. 

@pamharley003 I used to work for a pharmacy and elderly people always told me the key to longevity it love. That they were loved a long time. I believe them.

@pamharley003

find something simple that isn't work related or expectation, something that is just for you and that you can share with people like folk dancing or art-therapy... I love it :) even when life seems to ask everything from you find those two hours to connect with people. You brain can only be functional for so many hours, there's no point to overload it and ignore your social sphere. 

@pamharley003

How can we not be lonely or isolate ourselves from others? 

Other than the few I interact with here on cups, I have no real friends. It’s tough for someone like myself to interact with strangers, being that I suffer from social anxiety.
I find it very awkward meeting people, even speaking with my neighbours, conversation is difficult.

User Profile: Diinnaa
Diinnaa May 9th

To be in the right place, surrounded by positive people who share the same feelings and needs

User Profile: fossilfellow
fossilfellow May 9th

@pamharley003 Thank you for sharing this â¤ï¸ð¥°

What if you're lonely and smoke 15 cigarettes a day? 

@pamharley003

That's not to encouraging to me 😔!!

At my current pace I will probably die much sooner than expected.

My job IS ISOLATION. I drive for a living, about 9000-11,000 miles a month. Different hotels every night. Company policy no phone calls. Hands free no way. So the only contact I have with anyone is the front desk clerk at the hotel I'm staying in, or 2 min. conversation with a customer. I have been doing this job for almost 11 years now.

My kids (all grown) don't really stay in contact with me since they live near their mother in another city.

So YEAH! This forum is great place to talk, though I really desire a live voice. But that's okay, it's nice to share.